ThisisIt606 Posted November 12, 2016 Posted November 12, 2016 Went on a fun first date with a guy I met via dating app. He picked the restaurant for dinner. He texted me a lot leading up to date and wanted to learn a lot about me, checking in throughout the day, etc. When we met I was a little more anxious than usual as I knew he had a physical disability from an accident. I never met anyone with this particular disability before. It didn't bother me in the sense that I would still like to meet/potentially date him, but it's just something new for me. The day of our date over text, I told him I had a late night doing my hobby. he said I will probably be exhausted and joked he won't think it's him if I seem bored. I told him " that is a safe assumption haha" He was very kind and outgoing. The date went well I thought despite me being a little extra nervous and tired. After dinner he suggested getting a drink at another place. I agreed and we chatted some more there. A few moments of silence, but as I looked over at him he was still smiling during those moments and seemed to be OK with it. (I'm OK with some silence). He was leaving for a weekend trip the next day to visit a friend and practice a water sport so we chatted about travel. He offered to drive me home and I accepted. Normally I wouldn't on a first date, but I could tell he was very kind/sincere. When he dropped me off I hugged him, smiled and thanked him for the ride and night and told him goodnight. When I got inside I texted that I had fun and thanked him again for the ride. He said he had fun too, we chatted a bit more and then said we were going to bed. He texted me the next AM (day of his trip) wishing me a good day and that he had a long crazy day ahead with class and travel. I told him good luck with his hectic day. We've been texting while he's away (we both initiate on diff days). He's been sending me pics of the scenery, asking how my day is etc. I've been responding very up beat, asking how his trip is going. etc. I told him i wanted to learn the water sport he is practicing on his trip. He said "maybe I can teach you" I told him that would be great. We've exchanged a few more pics from our days and general how is your day reply/answer stuff. he seems to be busy and having a fun time as his responses are full of "!! and ." ^ all of this is fine I think, but much more delayed in his replies and they are shorter. I assume this is bc he's on a trip and having fun. He comes back soon and then leaves again for another short trip. Should I initiate setting up a 2nd date before he leaves again? I would love to get to know him more. I'm not sure how much he's dated post his accident, but I want to show him I'm definitely interested in date 2 and feel maybe I should be the one to reach out?
Shanex Posted November 12, 2016 Posted November 12, 2016 You're both doing it right imo, you initiate one day, he reciprocate some other day. Not seeing any issue here. Maybe it's personal but what kind of disability?
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