butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Now that I gave some insight to some of you here, I do need advice of my own. When my ex and I were together, I was very close with some of his family members as well. I miss them just as much as I miss him. I have an NC with him but I am not sure if I should contact his sister in law. I really miss her the most. I told him about this recently and all he could say was, I'll tell her you said "hi". Yeah that's really helping me... I remember every time I visited she was so nice to me and told me she loved me and that we'll always be friends no matter what. Well she did kinda dissapear after my ex and I broke up. In 4 months I never called her and she never called me. I heard it from him later on that she's gotten into a car crash, a really bad one. And now I am contemplating calling her just to talk. I did delete all the phone #s of his relatives just in case I don't make a fool of myself calling them and whining. But I can get her number if I really want to.
Merin Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 My take is this.. IF you're wanting to call your EX's Sister-in-law because you really miss her and the friendship and not because you think this would be one way of staying in your EX's life (and I'm not saying thats your reason, just saying make sure it isn't) then I think it's all good to go for you to call her and see how she is, let her know you've missed her friendship. Good Luck
Author butterfly29 Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 No no, this is definately to just talk to her and tell her I miss her. I will even specify that I don't want to hear any news about my ex. And of course ask her not to tell him I called her. I will probably bitch about him, don't know it that's a good idea but I may not be able to resist. What I want to know is news about her, really.
francis Posted July 14, 2005 Posted July 14, 2005 is a more subtle approach possible to make initial contact, just a sign you're reaching out to her and not putting her on the spot with a phone call... just test the water, see how she feels about maintaining a friendship with you...i think time is the best healer and it will become a lot easier once time passes just prepare yourself to be bombarded with memories of your ex and think about how this may set you back in terms of getting over him... be careful, because you could find yourself on a girls night out with her, getting a bit tipsy and finding yourself quizzing her over your ex's new girlfriends etc...it could get pretty painful... maybe send her a card to wish her 'get well soon' so she knows you care...but be sure of your motives...
Recommended Posts