no time

[dieffenbachia]

So I'm kind of with a girl in my group of friends- I say kind of because we kissed/made out about 6 or so months ago & told each other we were into each other but we decided not to put a label on it at the time, and have been texting each other a lot for the past couple of months. We see each other really often but we hardly ever get any time alone- only a quick cafe date here and there. She's really busy and has lots of commitments including family commitments etc and always has to leave early whenever we’re out, and for the past 6 months has not once had the time to come over despite her playing heaps of video games, etc. I asked her about it and she assured me that she really wants to spend more time with me and come over but said that she’s really bad at juggling more than one or two things at a time/has a one track mind during uni semesters (even though I have the exact same amount of commitments as her). I understand, but it just feels like no matter whether I’m assured or not, it feels like I’m just not wanted enough for her to put more effort in.

 

She has kind of controlling parents who expect her to be home helping out all the time, and they’re the type you can’t convince otherwise. She knows that I really want to see her and I know she wants to see me too but I feel like it’s not as much as I want to see her. My chest feels so painful thinking about it because it’s been months and months and she keeps pushing back again and again the time that she says when we’ll finally be able to spend some time together with just the two of us. It basically feels like we’re in a long distance relationship despite the fact that we only live about an hour away from each other and I’m willing to travel to see her.

 

Anyway, she’s not planning to move out of home any time soon so if I continue to be with her I’m going to be dealing with this issue the entire time that we’re together, and if I decide to stop getting hurt and call it off with her I still have to see her whenever we hang out with friends. I’ve been wanting to talk to her about all this for a while now but we just never ever get the time. It’s just really really getting me down lately and I really care about her and want to see her and I really just don’t know what to do

[MarkIVSteel]

She's not into you. She likes you as a friend. Nothing more.

[preraph]

She was interested in the beginning, sounds like, but has lost interest except as a friend or she'd find time for you.