Angelina1433 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Alright, so the guy I'm crazy about that I work with is still flirting. (see my old post)In a nutshell - Everyday. Big time obvious. I flirt back. Sometimes it has sexual overtones. It's been several months and he's only backhandidly asked me out and I didn't get it until much too late. I want to take it to the next level - like ask him to come out for drinks or something- but I'm freaked. I almost asked him today, but my stomach flipped so hard I almost puked. Plus, I don't think I've ever asked a guy "out" - they've always asked me. What should I do, what should i say? AGGHHH!
mini_me123 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 i think that u should just play it cool. To me u have 3 options... 1. go right up to him and ask him if he wants to go out for a drink friday night. 2. slip him a note on his desk or something asking that and saying your phone # and name or u dont even have to have ur name just ur #. and use a cute color too. like pink or purple so that way they know that it isnt a guy friend who wnts to go out on a date. 3. just run away and regret it for the rest of ur life.
Angelina1433 Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 mini_me123 - thanks for setting me straight. I think I've come to the conclusion that this man is clueless that I like him. I'm sure that he's interested in me, but looking back - I've been too afraid to make it obvious. Tomorrow, I'm gonna do it. wish me luck!!
erika2610 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 Originally posted by Angelina1433 mini_me123 - thanks for setting me straight. I think I've come to the conclusion that this man is clueless that I like him. I'm sure that he's interested in me, but looking back - I've been too afraid to make it obvious. Tomorrow, I'm gonna do it. wish me luck!! Well what happened?
mini_me123 Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 you're welcome.. im glad that i could help. tell me how it went...oh and good luck
Angelina1433 Posted July 18, 2005 Posted July 18, 2005 Yup, I chickened out. I don't know, I guess I'm just afraid of rejection. Actually - terrified. I think a better approach is to just keep talking to him and feel it out, and let it happen natually. I think that I thought about it soo dang much, that when I actually had the chance, all of the "rejection emotions" rose to the surface. Since I was actually planning something, I put even more pressure on myself. I think that instead I'll just ask him out for drinks, with no underlying situation present. I'll just wait until it feels "right". It would be so much easier if he'd just ask me
mini_me123 Posted July 18, 2005 Posted July 18, 2005 im sry that things didnt work out. better luck next time
blue16 Posted July 18, 2005 Posted July 18, 2005 Originally posted by Angelina1433 It would be so much easier if he'd just ask me c'mon you can do it angelina. What do you mean 'it will happen naturally' mean exactly? One of you is gonna have to make the move eventually. Plus, you mentioned he is oblivious to your signals so all this 'playing it by ear' kinda stuff isn't gonna work, trust me. He also might not make a move because some guys like a convenient relationship with a girl (like flirting with someone they see at work all the time) without any commitment of actually dating. However, if you bring up the idea of a relationship I doubt he would turn it down because he likes your company in any way, shape, or form. Ask him out NOW!
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