Eel751 Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Okay, so my bf is 21 and I'm 20. We've been together for about a year now. Recently since we've been spending every night together since school started again he's been pissing me off by being annoying all the time. Like we'll wake up and take a shower and he loves to mess around in there where he is poking me when I'm trying to take a shower. I tell him to stop and he laughs about it but continues to do it. Like we're in a time crunch because he has class soon and he'll piss me off so I get out of the shower and he's like "no come back". I find it so annoying and I get mad. He told me once he loves pissing me off to get a reaction out of me. Why do people freakin do this? If someone is getting heated you leave them the hell alone omg.. Why do men love to piss women off?? What good comes out of that? It just leads to stupid fights. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Men don't - he's a boy. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
mikeylo Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 He is just 21 and not developed yet 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Grumpybutfun Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Men don't. He is still a child. Move on, G 3 Link to post Share on other sites
MarkIVSteel Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 One day, you'll miss how he messes with you. He just enjoys your company is all. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
GemmaUK Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Man-children do this. Grown men can be grown men at any age. You have a man-child - he will stay like this as he hasn't yet listened to you or been considerate. This will sound offensive OP but to him you are not worthy of being taken seriously. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 He is just 21 and not developed yet This guy is immature. I've know plenty of 21-yr olds who are/were not like this. This guy is immature and disrespectful. Guys or anyone else for that matter (may) do these thing b/c they place little or no importance to the relationship. I find such people tend to be passive aggressive and do these things to hide their dissatisfaction with you or the relationship. The goal is to elicit a negative reaction and then turn that around by portraying you as the 'over-reactive' spouse or SO...finding reasons to argue and perhaps sow the seeds of the dissolution of the relationship. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Heaps of guys don't do this. If you don't like what he does and he won't stop, just end the relationship. There are many more untried options out there 2 Link to post Share on other sites
smackie9 Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Go home and sleep in your own bed. You will find the mornings more peaceful. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author Eel751 Posted November 12, 2016 Author Share Posted November 12, 2016 (edited) Yep I'm about fed up with [this]. I've always threatened to leave when he pisses me off but I never did. He would laugh about it. He kept bugging me because I wanted to take a shower after we had sex but he was acting [] disgusting telling me to smell his hand he just picked his ass with. He told me he won't piss me off yet he [] peed on me on the shower. So I got out of the shower and told him he's a [] idiot and that I'm going back to my dorm room. He still took a shower but went back to his room, locked it, got dressed and as he was coming back from the shower, I opened the door all dressed and he's like, "Wait don't go!" but I pushed passed him and walked out with tears in my eyes. I just got out if the shower at my dorm. He hasn't contacted me and I think I won't talk to him unless he calls or texts first. My stuff I've left in his room like my, toothbrush, shower shoes and comb. He needs to learn his [] lesson. At this point, I have to work on an assignment for class and I'm sleeping alone tonight. He'll be sitting on his ass playing xbox. I'll possibly getting my things from his room in the morning. Edited November 12, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator Add paragraphs and redact foul language 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Gaeta Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Get a new toothbrush and comb, those are not important. Block him. Be done with him He is disgusting, he treats you like he'd treat one of the guys. He's got the emotional maturity of a 12 years old. Next time you date someone and something annoys you don't threat to leave and then not do it. When something annoys you address it right away and be damn serious about it and if you did threat to leave then leave. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
preraph Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Try to always ask yourself "Is this fun?" Because dating should be mainly all fun. If they're already hard to get along with under no pressure of supporting a family, they'll crumble under that weight, so don't waste time with them. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Redhead14 Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Okay, so my bf is 21 and I'm 20. We've been together for about a year now. Recently since we've been spending every night together since school started again he's been pissing me off by being annoying all the time. Like we'll wake up and take a shower and he loves to mess around in there where he is poking me when I'm trying to take a shower. I tell him to stop and he laughs about it but continues to do it. Like we're in a time crunch because he has class soon and he'll piss me off so I get out of the shower and he's like "no come back". I find it so annoying and I get mad. He told me once he loves pissing me off to get a reaction out of me. Why do people freakin do this? If someone is getting heated you leave them the hell alone omg.. Why do men love to piss women off?? What good comes out of that? It just leads to stupid fights. So don't let him get a rise out of you. You shut the shower off, dry off, get dressed and leave . . . without a word. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
Satu Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 A 21 year old guy has the emotional maturity of a 15 year old girl. Just remember how you were when you were 15, and you'll understand his behaviour better. And by the way: he's an idiot. Take care. 3 Link to post Share on other sites
Zapbasket Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 OP, the way he acts is not your fault. Nor would he necessarily treat a different woman better. He's probably always going to be like this. I dated a guy who loved getting under my skin; he peed on me in the shower early in our dating and when I got mad he turned it around on me and said I was being "oversensitive," and sadly I did not leave the relationship; and this guy was 35 acting like this. I doubt our break-up made him learn a lesson; he'll probably treat the next woman he dates the same way. Leave. His actions show he doesn't respect the relationship; he's not taking it seriously. You have better things to do and better people to be with than someone like this. Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Yep I'm about fed up with [this]. I've always threatened to leave when he pisses me off but I never did. He would laugh about it. He kept bugging me because I wanted to take a shower after we had sex but he was acting [] disgusting telling me to smell his hand he just picked his ass with. He told me he won't piss me off yet he [] peed on me on the shower. So I got out of the shower and told him he's a [] idiot and that I'm going back to my dorm room. He still took a shower but went back to his room, locked it, got dressed and as he was coming back from the shower, I opened the door all dressed and he's like, "Wait don't go!" but I pushed passed him and walked out with tears in my eyes. I just got out if the shower at my dorm. He hasn't contacted me and I think I won't talk to him unless he calls or texts first. My stuff I've left in his room like my, toothbrush, shower shoes and comb. He needs to learn his [] lesson. At this point, I have to work on an assignment for class and I'm sleeping alone tonight. He'll be sitting on his ass playing xbox. I'll possibly getting my things from his room in the morning. Ugh. Do you really believe you can't do better than this? Buy a new toiletries and just walk away from him. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 Just so we can all be on repeat : he's childish, juvenile and immature, tehehehe. Seriously, I was once like that and in your boyfriend shoes. Just acknowledge that he's being a baby but a late one. I was doing those things until I was about 14. Maybe 15, for a 21 yo.. sure grow up dude. Link to post Share on other sites
dispatch3d Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 (edited) like the others have said, he's just being immature. Ah good call on breaking up with him after he pulled that stunt. Edited November 12, 2016 by dispatch3d Link to post Share on other sites
ThisisIt606 Posted November 12, 2016 Share Posted November 12, 2016 I dated a jerk similar to this who "loved to see me squirm" and generally loved to piss me off even when I told him to stop. THis guy however was in his late 20s and still a jerk. Long story short, I broke up with him via text. Tried to call first and do it over the phone but he decided to ignore it, so he got a break up text instead. He claimed he "didn't mean it" and "didn't know it hurt me" (bull! it was plain mean what he did and I DID tell him it hurt me). Just be done with this boy, not worth your energy or time. Link to post Share on other sites
BaileyB Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 He peed on you in the shower? I'd rather live the rest of my life alone, than live with a man who has such little regard for another person. Immature doesn't even begin to describe his behavior. 1 Link to post Share on other sites
basil67 Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 like the others have said, he's just being immature. Ah good call on breaking up with him after he pulled that stunt. Except that it sounds like she hasn't broken up with him. After reading that she was going to her room and not talking to him unless he talks to her first....and about teaching him a lesson.... it sounds like she's playing childish 'silent treatment' games. Link to post Share on other sites
Shanex Posted November 13, 2016 Share Posted November 13, 2016 Just so we can all be on repeat : he's childish, juvenile and immature, tehehehe. Seriously, I was once like that and in your boyfriend shoes. Just acknowledge that he's being a baby but a late one. I was doing those things until I was about 14. Maybe 15, for a 21 yo.. sure grow up dude. I take that back: I hadn't read he had peed on her in the showers. No, I've never done that nevermind my age. Sorry. Wow, this guy is a douche nozzle. And you're putting up with his crap ? Link to post Share on other sites
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