mikeylo Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 Which is more important to you in your relationship? While emotional intimacy leads to better physical intimacy but for some people the physical intimacy is more important than emotional. For a general relationship to have a long life , I guess emotional intimacy is far more important than physical. Thoughts ? Link to post Share on other sites
jen1447 Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 In a perfect world they're one and the same. 4 Link to post Share on other sites
startingagain15 Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 Depends on the person I guess. Both equally are the ideal, but emotional would be the most important. I think for women, mostly, emotional intimacy is needed to have good physical intimacy, and maybe it's the opposite for most guys. I guess that's why you need a good balance to maintain a successful relationship. Link to post Share on other sites
Emilia Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 You can't have one without the other. Link to post Share on other sites
spiderowl Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 Emotional first then physical and then both together Unfortunately, men want physical first so the chances of me getting into a relationship at all is limited. Link to post Share on other sites
RecentChange Posted November 10, 2016 Share Posted November 10, 2016 I need both. But for me, the physical tends to come first, then emotional grows, then the physical REALLY grows after the emotional is established. But without some physical chemistry I don't peruse emotional intimacy unless I have a physical connection. Link to post Share on other sites
deep_night Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 emotional intimacy, even in body language (affection, cuddle) comes before physical intimacy for me (chronologically). but i want both or else im not happy :[ Link to post Share on other sites
fenix Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Which is more important to you in your relationship? While emotional intimacy leads to better physical intimacy but for some people the physical intimacy is more important than emotional. For a general relationship to have a long life , I guess emotional intimacy is far more important than physical. Thoughts ? I would say it in the reverse, a good physical intimacy can lead to a great emotional intimacy. I think both are very important and both are key stones on a relationship. Then you will have people who are less sexual who will value the emotional intimacy above the physical one and very sexual people who will claim they can't have emotional intimacy without the physical one... I don't think there is a one rule that fits them all here... Link to post Share on other sites
OatsAndHall Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 Men (and women to an extent) are geared towards physical intimacy: it's a simple matter of biology. However, with that being said, I let emotional intimacy grow considerably before I sleep with a woman. I know that I will grow more emotionally attached to a woman if I sleep with her early on and it will cloud my judgement. It took me time and experience to realize this. I took several women to bed early on in the dating process, felt what was really a false overall sense of emotional intimacy and didn't pay enough attention to red-flags that popped up later on. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Gloria25 Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 (edited) **sigh** I believe that you need "cake" (emotional connection I guess) first and the "icing" is the sex. I, unfortunately, have learned over the years that no matter how much the great the sex is - you have to have a base to keep the two people connected. I also learned that men, after sex, will start looking at "you" for "you" - so, if you didn't take time to bake that "cake" with him, after sex you're gonna find out if he was a player (just after sex) or thought he had a connection with you cuz he didn't take time to get to know you before the sex happened. And, I've also learned that we women are quite the opposite. After sex, we bond with the guy - so, even if there are things about him outside the bedroom that aren't good, we try harder to make it work. So, again, gotta get to know a guy before the sex happens so you're not bonding over what you'd "wish" he'd be. But also, I've seen instances where after sex the guy is acting all giddy like a girl (trying to make it work with the wrong girl) and IMO, either those guys were lonely and/or are being messed over by a skilled manipulator chick. Me, cuz I'm not looking for the whole white picket fence and kids - so, wouldn't take time to get to know a dude before sex happens. But, I'm starting to learn the hard way that I better connect more with a guy if I want him to keep coming around for 2nds, 3rds, 4ths.... The guy I have my eye on now, I don't know, I guess he's slowing my roll to get to know me and I'm open to it cuz I do like him a lot already and of course beyond attracted to him - he's just gorgeous, so I'm still nervous and opening up...and, am curious to if we do kick it off fully w/o sex - how it will be once sex happens Edited November 11, 2016 by Gloria25 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Author mikeylo Posted November 11, 2016 Author Share Posted November 11, 2016 The best relationships are IMO , those where emotional connection is given priority and then the physical. Both are crucial. It also depends on what a person is looking for. For a fling , people rarely need emotional intimacy. Commitment phobes jump from bed to bed. And then some people force an emotional connection with someone that just doesn't happen. Then again , some strangers meet out of the blue as if they've known each other all their life. 2 Link to post Share on other sites
Herbalist Posted November 11, 2016 Share Posted November 11, 2016 I think they are both important in a romantic relationship. I think they work the same way, too. You can be close to a person, and they can know you pretty well, but that could be a good thing or a bad thing, good for you or bad for you, depending on the quality of their character. Link to post Share on other sites
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