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[scooby-philly]

So I'm back at trying OLD. Haven't had a bite in 6-8 weeks. I can't say I'm religiously using it - but by the same token I haven't been passive. Not sure if it's just the time of year, bad luck thus far, if my stats throw people off or if my profile paragraph does it. If WOMEN could give me some feedback I'd appreciate it. I'm not looking to change who I am or how I say things per se, but I'm always open to hearing how people could take what I say or do (IE really just looking for red flags that would prevent people from responding to me)

 

Basic Stats first

35, No Kids, Never Married, 6^1, brown hair, green/grey eyes, average build (a bit extra right now - but working slimming down) Master's degree, salary in the 100-150 range, born/raised catholic but don't practice. Into outdoor stuff, books, cooking, a few tv shows,

 

Pics

have about 6-7 up. No shirtless selfies, a few up close and a few full-body so to speak. A few by myself and a few with others.

 

Profile Paragraph

I just re-watched the movie the Big Short and was inspired to try Match again and to try to make an awesome profile. If you get the reference - bonus points!

 

So truthfully here's some stuff you should know ahead of time. I'm not going to give up and just let you win arguments. I'm a former HS teacher and debate coach, it's not in my blood. Im not into reality tv, celeb gossip, or cosplay. I don't nitpick grammar unless it's work related or someone asks for my help. When I do - the red pen comes out! And nobody enjoys that. I'm more family oriented guy and an introvert. But I love exploring new places, learning and have no problem meeting people. I can be a smart butt and sarcastic - but since I work in corporate America, I know when to control it. I was born with a cleft lip and palette. I will not eat Orange Sherbet because of that. You can ask me why on a date. I will not dress up and go to comic-con with you. I will, however, dress up if you want to go to a children's hospital or put an old pair of jeans to help volunteer. I also tend to be a saver and not a spender. As they say - Winter is Coming. I'm also a verbal processor. I'm great in brainstorming but just realize I'm thinking out loud and not agreeing to something.

 

I will cook and clean and repair things around the house. I will always laugh at something funny and cry at something sad. I can proofread your writing while making you breakfast on a Sunday morning. I am a font of useless knowledge. I started life as a HS teacher and now work in corporate training. I do miss the kids and the easier politics, but I get to work on cool stuff and with smart people.

 

I try to keep my life balanced. I'm an INTJ on the M-B if you believe in that stuff. I'm also a Cancer. I read and what little TV/Movies I watch tend to be history, mystery, scif-fi, fantasy. I'm not a fan of being out all the time and I enjoy my down time. I respect other's interests and believe that people in a relationship need to be "interdependent" - I'm not there just to fill in your down time (or vice versa) and it's okay if we have somewhat different interests. But you will always be welcome.

 

I'm looking for a woman that is okay with herself. Doesn't mean you're perfect, doesn't mean you don't have scars from battles along the journey. But you're mature with easy access to the kid inside of you. Someone who can communicate, is okay with romance, affectionate, passionate, and balanced.

[Toodaloo]

So I'm back at trying OLD. Haven't had a bite in 6-8 weeks. I can't say I'm religiously using it - but by the same token I haven't been passive. Not sure if it's just the time of year, bad luck thus far, if my stats throw people off or if my profile paragraph does it. If WOMEN could give me some feedback I'd appreciate it. I'm not looking to change who I am or how I say things per se, but I'm always open to hearing how people could take what I say or do (IE really just looking for red flags that would prevent people from responding to me)

 

Basic Stats first

35, No Kids, Never Married, 6^1, brown hair, green/grey eyes, average build (a bit extra right now - but working slimming down) Master's degree, salary in the 100-150 range, born/raised catholic but don't practice. Into outdoor stuff, books, cooking, a few tv shows,

 

Pics

have about 6-7 up. No shirtless selfies, a few up close and a few full-body so to speak. A few by myself and a few with others.

 

Profile Paragraph

I just re-watched the movie the Big Short and was inspired to try Match again and to try to make an awesome profile. If you get the reference - bonus points!

 

So truthfully here's some stuff you should know ahead of time. I'm not going to give up and just let you win arguments. I'm a former HS teacher and debate coach, it's not in my blood. Im not into reality tv, celeb gossip, or cosplay. I don't nitpick grammar unless it's work related or someone asks for my help. When I do - the red pen comes out! And nobody enjoys that. I'm more family oriented guy and an introvert. But I love exploring new places, learning and have no problem meeting people. I can be a smart butt and sarcastic - but since I work in corporate America, I know when to control it. I was born with a cleft lip and palette. I will not eat Orange Sherbet because of that. You can ask me why on a date. I will not dress up and go to comic-con with you. I will, however, dress up if you want to go to a children's hospital or put an old pair of jeans to help volunteer. I also tend to be a saver and not a spender. As they say - Winter is Coming. I'm also a verbal processor. I'm great in brainstorming but just realize I'm thinking out loud and not agreeing to something.

 

I will cook and clean and repair things around the house. I will always laugh at something funny and cry at something sad. I can proofread your writing while making you breakfast on a Sunday morning. I am a font of useless knowledge. I started life as a HS teacher and now work in corporate training. I do miss the kids and the easier politics, but I get to work on cool stuff and with smart people.

 

I try to keep my life balanced. I'm an INTJ on the M-B if you believe in that stuff. I'm also a Cancer. I read and what little TV/Movies I watch tend to be history, mystery, scif-fi, fantasy. I'm not a fan of being out all the time and I enjoy my down time. I respect other's interests and believe that people in a relationship need to be "interdependent" - I'm not there just to fill in your down time (or vice versa) and it's okay if we have somewhat different interests. But you will always be welcome.

 

I'm looking for a woman that is okay with herself. Doesn't mean you're perfect, doesn't mean you don't have scars from battles along the journey. But you're mature with easy access to the kid inside of you. Someone who can communicate, is okay with romance, affectionate, passionate, and balanced.

 

From what you have written here I see no problem...

[smackie9]

Your opening paragraph is negative. Too much I don't like this, I don't like that. Also better to keep the things you didn't really accomplish or gave up on out of the profile. As a female, I like positive up beat, simple, lighthearted words with some humor. The more mystery the better. Too many details takes the interest right out of it. I have seen this many times with guys that post their dating profiles on here. they want to put their whole life on there practically. It's better to save details for one on one messages, conversations, dates. Use that time to discover each other.

 

And never put yourself down or mention what you are trying to change of fix about yourself....that says "I have no confidence in myself" or "I'm not happy with myself image..." Don't say you are over weight, planning on losing it, etc. Just present yourself as is.

 

Say things like "Open to most anything" "adventurous" "spontaneous" "Willing to experience anything at least once" "Like to try new things"

 

The last statement says to me "I'll take anything as long as you are not bat $%^# crazy"

 

Say "Looking for a woman that is passionate with life as much as I am....fun, spontaneous, my intellectual equal".

[Sunkissedpatio]

I second Toodaloo's comment, i see no problems at all with that profile. I liked it.

 

By the way, I don't remember the match reference in the Big Short but that was such an awesome film nonetheless.

[TheTraveler]

What site do you use?

 

I'm a male so I will comment. There's just too much information in your profile. Who wants to read all that?

 

Plus it sounds like you need to slim down and your choice of pics may be bad. Cannot tell without seeing them.

[Sunkissedpatio]

Oh here's another thing I thought of....

 

If you're on Match, that's a paid site, so not a lot of women are actually paying to be there so they take out profiles and look around but can't respond because you have to pay for that. I hear there are a lot of fake profiles on there too. I would take out the salary portion, that's nobody's business plus you don't want gold diggers and scammers hitting you up for all the wrong reasons.

[Toodaloo]

I actually liked what he wrote. It wasn't laborious but gave enough info and something to spark up conversation. perhaps a little less on the Myers Briggs and star signs but you know what it shows one of his interests so what the heck. I say leave it in.

 

I think its just a case of time and finding the right matches. Its all very good and well wanting to meet 100 women but if they are all women you don't get on with whats the point? Better to meet just one or two that you do get on with.

[Sunkissedpatio]

What site do you use?

 

I'm a male so I will comment. There's just too much information in your profile. Who wants to read all that?

 

 

I do. And I am a woman on OLD. I am looking for something serious not a hook-up so the more a guy shares in an interesting way the more serious I think he is too.

[Larryville]

Me too:

 

https://www.personalitypage.com/INTJ.html

 

Keep in mind only saying this because what is wrote is kinda like something I would have posted 3 or 4 years ago. The caveat with you is “never married, no kids”

 

We get into debates about this all the time here but based on HOW you describe yourself will keep many at arms length. someone 30 something too...

 

Just gut feeling by what you posted. Of course we don't know how you look or the type of pics in your profile, where you live, demographics of your dating target area... just data points.

 

I'm bolding what I believe you should nix in profile... IMHO

 

Profile Paragraph

 

I just re-watched the movie the Big Short and was inspired to try Match again and to try to make an awesome profile. If you get the reference - bonus points!

 

So truthfully here's some stuff you should know ahead of time.

 

I'm not going to give up and just let you win arguments.

 

I'm a former HS teacher and debate coach, it's not in my blood. Im not into reality tv, celeb gossip, or cosplay.

 

I don't nitpick grammar unless it's work related or someone asks for my help. When I do - the red pen comes out!

 

And nobody enjoys that. I'm more family oriented guy and an introvert.

 

But I love exploring new places, learning and have no problem meeting people.

 

I can be a smart butt and sarcastic - but since I work in corporate America, I know when to control it.

I was born with a cleft lip and palette. I will not eat Orange Sherbet because of that.

 

You can ask me why on a date.

 

I will not dress up and go to comic-con with you. I will, however, dress up if you want to go to a children's hospital or put an old pair of jeans to help volunteer.

I also tend to be a saver and not a spender. As they say - Winter is Coming.

 

I'm also a verbal processor. I'm great in brainstorming but just realize I'm thinking out loud and not agreeing to something.

 

I will cook and clean and repair things around the house. I will always laugh at something funny and cry at something sad.

 

I can proofread your writing while making you breakfast on a Sunday morning. I am a font of useless knowledge. I started life as a HS teacher and now work in corporate training. I do miss the kids and the easier politics, but I get to work on cool stuff and with smart people.

 

I try to keep my life balanced. I'm an INTJ on the M-B if you believe in that stuff.

I'm also a Cancer. I read and what little TV/Movies I watch tend to be history, mystery, scif-fi, fantasy.

 

I'm not a fan of being out all the time and I enjoy my down time. I respect other's interests and believe that people in a relationship need to be "interdependent" - I'm not there just to fill in your down time (or vice versa) and it's okay if we have somewhat different interests. But you will always be welcome.

 

I'm looking for a woman that is okay with herself. Doesn't mean you're perfect, doesn't mean you don't have scars from battles along the journey. But you're mature with easy access to the kid inside of you. Someone who can communicate, is okay with romance, affectionate, passionate, and balanced.

[TheTraveler]

I actually liked what he wrote. It wasn't laborious but gave enough info and something to spark up conversation. perhaps a little less on the Myers Briggs and star signs but you know what it shows one of his interests so what the heck. I say leave it in.

 

I think its just a case of time and finding the right matches. Its all very good and well wanting to meet 100 women but if they are all women you don't get on with whats the point? Better to meet just one or two that you do get on with.

 

He's been on there 2 months and cannot get a nibble. He needs to make a change

[Larryville]

I actually liked what he wrote.

 

Yes, Too knowing your from this site you would not have a problem with what he wrote but women far less secure would easily shy away.

[Sunkissedpatio]

Yes, Too knowing your from this site you would not have a problem with what he wrote but women far less secure would easily shy away.

 

Guess it all depends what kind of woman he wants. My two girlfriends who are (one in her mid 30's) divorced and were also on the same OLD site as myself both approached the search in the exact same way. One of them, wouldn't even look at a profile with little content. They too had longer profiles.

 

They are both off the site now and in relationships with men they met on that site who had longer profiles with a lot to say.

 

It all depends what you are looking for.

 

If you want an insecure, inpatient woman who doesn't have two seconds to read three paragraphs, then sure that is not the profile to go for.

 

Quite frankly I'd be more inclined to see what's going on with the pictures. If the pictures are not appealing in some way or the lighting is bad or face isn't clear then no one is reading that profile, even if it is condensed to two lines.

[Toodaloo]

Yes, Too knowing your from this site you would not have a problem with what he wrote but women far less secure would easily shy away.

 

True but does he want to date mice or women who are comfortable to challenge him and go toe to toe when need be and not allow it to effect their relationship when they do?

 

I am just saying that his profile describes him as a person well and that while he may not be getting much its better to go for quality rather than quantity...

 

The only thing I would do different is bung it on PoF instead of match. There is the thinking that paid sites mean people are serious but I have found that to be complete and utter tosh. When I started out I went on paid sites and it was just as bad if not worse than OK Cupid and PoF. People were ten times more flakey and no where near as genuine. I was treated far worse. Perhaps they thought as they were paying for the website access they were also paying for my "services".... PoF for all I hate it in some ways has given me the best results in matches than any of the others including many paid sites.

 

With PoF he will have to filter better but he is also more likely to get better results and more potential matches through the simple reason that more people are on it.

[Larryville]

He's been on there 2 months and cannot get a nibble. He needs to make a change

 

With PoF he will have to filter better but he is also more likely to get better results and more potential matches through the simple reason that more people are on it.

 

Yes, I’ve stated I have never believed the site you use matters, it is how you use a particular site and your filtering skills.

 

Quite frankly I'd be more inclined to see what's going on with the pictures. If the pictures are not appealing in some way or the lighting is bad or face isn't clear then no one is reading that profile, even if it is condensed to two lines.

 

Yup even marginal dude will get a freaking nibble as long as you don’t look completely like a troll.

[VeveCakes]

The first line already turned me off. I don't like when men put things in their profile that are talking about how they will act when they are in a relationship with me when they haven't even met me. Just gives me a weird feeling.

 

I think it's way too much.

 

I prefer a simply profile, the stats...some likes, what you are looking for, and what you don't like.

 

Just my opinion.

[introverted1]

So I'm back at trying OLD. Haven't had a bite in 6-8 weeks. I can't say I'm religiously using it - but by the same token I haven't been passive. Not sure if it's just the time of year, bad luck thus far, if my stats throw people off or if my profile paragraph does it. If WOMEN could give me some feedback I'd appreciate it. I'm not looking to change who I am or how I say things per se, but I'm always open to hearing how people could take what I say or do (IE really just looking for red flags that would prevent people from responding to me)

 

Basic Stats first

35, No Kids, Never Married, 6^1, brown hair, green/grey eyes, average build (a bit extra right now - but working slimming down) Master's degree, salary in the 100-150 range, born/raised catholic but don't practice. Into outdoor stuff, books, cooking, a few tv shows,

 

Pics

have about 6-7 up. No shirtless selfies, a few up close and a few full-body so to speak. A few by myself and a few with others.

 

Profile Paragraph

I just re-watched the movie the Big Short and was inspired to try Match again and to try to make an awesome profile. If you get the reference - bonus points!

 

So truthfully here's some stuff you should know ahead of time. I'm not going to give up and just let you win arguments. I'm a former HS teacher and debate coach, it's not in my blood. Im not into reality tv, celeb gossip, or cosplay. I don't nitpick grammar unless it's work related or someone asks for my help. When I do - the red pen comes out! And nobody enjoys that. I'm more family oriented guy and an introvert. But I love exploring new places, learning and have no problem meeting people. I can be a smart butt and sarcastic - but since I work in corporate America, I know when to control it. I was born with a cleft lip and palette. I will not eat Orange Sherbet because of that. You can ask me why on a date. I will not dress up and go to comic-con with you. I will, however, dress up if you want to go to a children's hospital or put an old pair of jeans to help volunteer. I also tend to be a saver and not a spender. As they say - Winter is Coming. I'm also a verbal processor. I'm great in brainstorming but just realize I'm thinking out loud and not agreeing to something.

 

I will cook and clean and repair things around the house. I will always laugh at something funny and cry at something sad. I can proofread your writing while making you breakfast on a Sunday morning. I am a font of useless knowledge. I started life as a HS teacher and now work in corporate training. I do miss the kids and the easier politics, but I get to work on cool stuff and with smart people.

 

I try to keep my life balanced. I'm an INTJ on the M-B if you believe in that stuff. I'm also a Cancer. I read and what little TV/Movies I watch tend to be history, mystery, scif-fi, fantasy. I'm not a fan of being out all the time and I enjoy my down time. I respect other's interests and believe that people in a relationship need to be "interdependent" - I'm not there just to fill in your down time (or vice versa) and it's okay if we have somewhat different interests. But you will always be welcome.

 

I'm looking for a woman that is okay with herself. Doesn't mean you're perfect, doesn't mean you don't have scars from battles along the journey. But you're mature with easy access to the kid inside of you. Someone who can communicate, is okay with romance, affectionate, passionate, and balanced.

 

I agree that it's all about what you are after. I am female, also INTJ, and some of the stuff that Larry flagged as stuff you should take out, were the bits that resonated most for me.

 

I highlighted the things I found either off-putting or irrelevant.

 

Also, is your cleft-palate visible? I ask not to put you on the spot here, but because I wonder if that is a worrying statement to those reading your profile (unless you have clear facial pics). You might want to make your orange sherbet comment without referencing why unless it's something that needs to be shared prior to a date.

[Larryville]

So I'm back at trying OLD. Haven't had a bite in 6-8 weeks. I can't say I'm religiously using it - but by the same token I haven't been passive.

 

I thought about this later…

 

I’m curious, when people get on here and say “I’m not having luck with OLD” from the guys standpoint, when saying I’m not having luck does that mean

 

1) I keep sending messages, no responses

 

2) Women are not sending them messages (initiating contact)

 

3) Making contact, BUT CONVERSATIONS not resulting in FIRST meets.

 

4) First meets, but no second dates

 

I know he specifically said NO BITES... but I've read countless threads when men and women describes "no luck" I just don't always know what that means.

[Miss Peach]

OP - I am turned off by your profile. It reads as very negative to me.

 

The first section I don't get but it's not a great opener. If you want to include it it may be better farther down. It wouldn't stop me from responding but it's not doing anything for me.

 

Lots of "I'm not", "I won't" type of stuff in the second and last paragraphs. You also talk about debating and nitpicking and other things. This doesn't make you sound like an easy-going, fun guy to be around.

 

Listing things like "I'll proofread your writing" sort of reinforce the image in the second and last paragraphs about being difficult and lecturing. Sort of reads like you may have some baggage.

 

It's my personal preference but I also like to list things that can spark a question or conversation. Make it sound upbeat and fun. I receive a lot of messages about how fun I sound. For example I'm a sci-nerdy type so I have this in mine:

 

"I love all the different Star Treks and will debate you on who is the best captain. If you're a Star Wars fan I won't tease you too much about the Star Wars Holiday Special."

 

I get a lot of people commenting on that and talking about everything from sci fi shows, to commenting on captains, etc. I recommend you turn the stuff about your teaching into something more uplifting and positive sounding that can spark some conversation.

 

 

What site do you use?

 

I'm a male so I will comment. There's just too much information in your profile. Who wants to read all that?

 

Plus it sounds like you need to slim down and your choice of pics may be bad. Cannot tell without seeing them.

 

I prefer longer ones. The difference is it needs to be concise and interesting. If I receive a message from a guy and I can't tell what we may have in common then I typically move on.

 

One thing I tell me male friends on OLD is that as a woman, I tend to get a lot of messages; especially generic ones. I want to focus my time of the guys who seem like the best matches. So if a guy looks like every other guy with nothing to make him different I won't see the value in messaging him over the other guys in my inbox.

 

Another thing is that attraction is important at a base level. For me, connection, matching up, and chemistry can make an average guy more attractive to me. So I cut guys some slack in their OLD pictures if everything else is there.

Edited November 10, 2016 by Miss Peach

[TheTraveler]

OP - I am turned off by your profile. It reads as very negative to me.

 

The first section I don't get but it's not a great opener. If you want to include it it may be better farther down. It wouldn't stop me from responding but it's not doing anything for me.

 

Lots of "I'm not", "I won't" type of stuff in the second and last paragraphs. You also talk about debating and nitpicking and other things. This doesn't make you sound like an easy-going, fun guy to be around.

 

Listing things like "I'll proofread your writing" sort of reinforce the image in the second and last paragraphs about being difficult and lecturing. Sort of reads like you may have some baggage.

 

It's my personal preference but I also like to list things that can spark a question or conversation. Make it sound upbeat and fun. I receive a lot of messages about how fun I sound. For example I'm a sci-nerdy type so I have this in mine:

 

"I love all the different Star Treks and will debate you on who is the best captain. If you're a Star Wars fan I won't tease you too much about the Star Wars Holiday Special."

 

I get a lot of people commenting on that and talking about everything from sci fi shows, to commenting on captains, etc. I recommend you turn the stuff about your teaching into something more uplifting and positive sounding that can spark some conversation.

 

 

 

 

I prefer longer ones. The difference is it needs to be concise and interesting. If I receive a message from a guy and I can't tell what we may have in common then I typically move on.

 

One thing I tell me male friends on OLD is that as a woman, I tend to get a lot of messages; especially generic ones. I want to focus my time of the guys who seem like the best matches. So if a guy looks like every other guy with nothing to make him different I won't see the value in messaging him over the other guys in my inbox.

 

Another thing is that attraction is important at a base level. For me, connection, matching up, and chemistry can make an average guy more attractive to me. So I cut guys some slack in their OLD pictures if everything else is there.

 

Read the profile. I agree with a lot of you what you say. To me it comes off negative. I'm not I won't...yikes

 

Where's the fun?!?

 

Throw in some avg pics and you will have ZERO bites.

 

Oh and Jean-Luc! Duh lol

[Sunkissedpatio]

I thought about this later…

 

I’m curious, when people get on here and say “I’m not having luck with OLD” from the guys standpoint, when saying I’m not having luck does that mean

 

Ya he said he's had not bites and while he doesn't go on religiously he hasn't been passive. I interpreted that as he is sending out messages but not getting any responses.

 

I wonder what kind of messages you are sending out too OP?

 

I don't respond to messages that say "hi", "how are you doing?", "you're beautiful" etc. I respond to messages with substance. The few times I responded to "hey how are you" messages, communication was painfully hard and like pulling teeth. These men sounded like they would rather be getting a root canal than talking to someone online, so that was a complete turn-off for me and why I will not longer respond to lazy emails.

 

Here's the thing about OLD and women:

 

• we want to feel like we are looked at for the whole package, even if you have to fake interest a little bit in what we said and all that caught your eye was our pic, try to make an effort to see past the pic and make conversation on that (after all when we are browsing profiles on OLD we tend to wonder could I fall in love with this person?)
   
  
• we want to feel there is a motivator to choose you over all the other guys who reach out to us, and that motivator usually comes in the form of some kind of connection and if we experience a fun way of connecting with you online then even better
   
  
• we want to feel safe enough knowing you are not going to be a freak so a phone call is always nice before exchanging two lines and saying "how's it going? let's meet for a drink"
   
  
• we want to feel some form of excitement communicating with you to motivate us to plan a night out with you
  

Edited November 10, 2016 by Sunkissedpatio

[rester]

So truthfully here's some stuff you should know ahead of time. I'm not going to give up and just let you win arguments. I'm a former HS teacher and debate coach, it's not in my blood. Im not into reality tv, celeb gossip, or cosplay. I don't nitpick grammar unless it's work related or someone asks for my help. When I do - the red pen comes out! And nobody enjoys that. I'm more family oriented guy and an introvert. But I love exploring new places, learning and have no problem meeting people. I can be a smart butt and sarcastic - but since I work in corporate America, I know when to control it. I was born with a cleft lip and palette. I will not eat Orange Sherbet because of that. You can ask me why on a date. I will not dress up and go to comic-con with you. I will, however, dress up if you want to go to a children's hospital or put an old pair of jeans to help volunteer. I also tend to be a saver and not a spender. As they say - Winter is Coming. I'm also a verbal processor. I'm great in brainstorming but just realize I'm thinking out loud and not agreeing to something.

 

I'm a guy but I agree with the people that are saying this profile is too negative. I wouldn't have read past the bolded if I came across this. It sounds like you enjoy an argument. I think the entire first paragraph should be deleted. I underlined all the negativity for emphasis.

 

Also, the line about Orange Sherbet and asking you why on a date. That line makes it look like you are forcing a conversation before you even meet.

[Sara1989]

Okay as a woman I would be intimidated by your profile and I would not reply to you either.

[scooby-philly]

Thanks everyone for the comments and feedback.

 

In terms of messaging - I know what to write.

 

I agree I think this time around I've got to keep positive and will ammend a few items and how I present them. I will not shorten it too much. I agree - I look for profiles where the women have something to say. Especially by your 30's if you don't know how to talk about yourself or have enough to say about your own wants/likes/dislikes - then somethings wrong.

 

Cheers!

[VeveCakes]

Thanks everyone for the comments and feedback.

 

In terms of messaging - I know what to write.

 

I agree I think this time around I've got to keep positive and will ammend a few items and how I present them. I will not shorten it too much. I agree - I look for profiles where the women have something to say. Especially by your 30's if you don't know how to talk about yourself or have enough to say about your own wants/likes/dislikes - then somethings wrong.

 

Cheers!

 

Not everyone wants to plaster it on their online dating profile...

[Sweetfish]

If I were a women.. your profile does too many things...

 

Turns me off.

Tells me you don't take risk.

Shows me a weird obsession to comic con.

Reveals too much.

It's not fun to read