Chris2016 Posted November 10, 2016 Posted November 10, 2016 (edited) I have a condition, a type of scarring of the skin. It's a rare condition. I don't often come across people in real life with it. She started a support group (meetup group), for another type of skin condition. Thinking she could probably relate, I messaged her. She could relate. I haven't met her, but would like to, if she's down. If not, that's okay too, I'll take the chance. How should I go about it? - She's only done one event. Ask when will be her next event? I'm apprehensive about joining her group or attending her event because my condition is different from hers, and I might not fit in, or feel like why am I there. - Ask her if she want to meet up? This doesn't seem to work, of women who I've actually met, and later sent out a feeler. So seeing how I've never me her. - Extend her an invite to an event for another group, of which I'll be attending? Idea being she might be comfortable, since others will be around. Or, if you have other ideas? Edited November 10, 2016 by Chris2016
basil67 Posted November 10, 2016 Posted November 10, 2016 What do you know about her other than the fact she has a skin condition? Have you been chatting and built somewhat of a rapport outside of your medical conditions? Thing is, she's trying to build a support group and is probably seeing you as someone who relates and may be able to contribute...not necessarily someone to date. Unless she's giving you signals otherwise?? 1
normal person Posted November 10, 2016 Posted November 10, 2016 If you want to meet her, find a way to be honest about it. If you go to a support group for something that doesn't really concern you just to meet her, it might come off as a little calculated. Just be careful, and be up front.
Author Chris2016 Posted November 11, 2016 Author Posted November 11, 2016 (edited) What do you know about her other than the fact she has a skin condition? Have you been chatting and built somewhat of a rapport outside of your medical conditions? Thing is, she's trying to build a support group and is probably seeing you as someone who relates and may be able to contribute...not necessarily someone to date. Unless she's giving you signals otherwise?? If you want to meet her, find a way to be honest about it. If you go to a support group for something that doesn't really concern you just to meet her, it might come off as a little calculated. Just be careful, and be up front. I messaged her that it was pretty cool she started the group. She said I was welcome to join, even though my condition is not the same. I mentioned it was not often to meet like minded folks in real life. She agreed. (No signals. I know she's just being welcoming.) That was it. I didn't extend the conversation or brought up other topics. Yes, I didn't want to come across as being up to something--even though I might slightly be. I am looking after all, and she's a girl. Meetup shows her interests. Nothing about being single. My interests does indicate single/dating, so if she looked at my interests, she'll get an idea of what I might be up to. If I end up do anything, I'll probably extend her an invite to an event for another group, indicating I'd be interested in meeting someone like minded. If we meet, great. Maybe I can see if she has a ring. If not, oh well. My scars are visible and people sometime stare. I normally don't talk with anybody about my condition. So if I meet someone who I can openly chat about it with, that'd be pretty cool. Edited November 11, 2016 by Chris2016
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