Tallgirl91 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 So last Thursday I went on a date with this guy, and since then we've hooked up a couple of times (no sex) , and on Wednesday he asked me out on a date and yesterday he texted me to confirm I was still available to go. Today, I found out that the place he was planning on taking me was going to be closed so I texted him and told him and he said " Oh I didn't know that, do you want to try another day?" and then I said " yes, or we could go somewhere else?" and then he said " I think another day would be better". I don't get why his answer was so short or why he didn't want to just go somewhere else? Is he not interested?
strawberryshortstack Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 So last Thursday I went on a date with this guy, and since then we've hooked up a couple of times (no sex) , and on Wednesday he asked me out on a date and yesterday he texted me to confirm I was still available to go. Today, I found out that the place he was planning on taking me was going to be closed so I texted him and told him and he said " Oh I didn't know that, do you want to try another day?" and then I said " yes, or we could go somewhere else?" and then he said " I think another day would be better". I don't get why his answer was so short or why he didn't want to just go somewhere else? Is he not interested? It sounds to me like he really wants to go to this particular place. The fact that he suggested trying another day indicates (to me, at least) that he's still interested in the date. Try suggesting a different day that works for you? 4
Toodaloo Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 He wants some time to check around and find somewhere good so he doesn't make the same faux pas... 2
Miss Spider Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 Perhaps suggest another day. It's np imo 1
smackie9 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 To me this wasn't about him taking you out on a date, but him wanting dinner at his favorite place. He is a selfish person possibly.......he may have an interest in you but he isn't going to invest himself or go out of his way to impress you. You see it, I see it. He's not that into you. 1
ThisisIt606 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I find it odd that he didn't think of an alternative plan for the same day as you both already agreed to being available. For me, seeing the person would trump the location. He could have always taking you to that location a different time and seen you on the day you both agreed too. He's either not that into you or not very creative/ able to think of alternatives. Both not great in a relationship that's tying to get off the ground in my opinion
Redhead14 Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 So last Thursday I went on a date with this guy, and since then we've hooked up a couple of times (no sex) , and on Wednesday he asked me out on a date and yesterday he texted me to confirm I was still available to go. Today, I found out that the place he was planning on taking me was going to be closed so I texted him and told him and he said " Oh I didn't know that, do you want to try another day?" and then I said " yes, or we could go somewhere else?" and then he said " I think another day would be better". I don't get why his answer was so short or why he didn't want to just go somewhere else? Is he not interested? When you come back with a suggestion, you need to be specific. "Sure, how about Xday?
IfonlyIknew Posted October 28, 2016 Posted October 28, 2016 I agree that is the opposite response of what we would expect. It's like if you knew he'd cancel the whole dang night, you would have just showed up to the place and find out its closed together then its on to Plan B. If he insists on this place there could be a motive (does he know someone here, discounts possibly?) His favorite restaurant? Either way, he should have reconnected the date with an actual day to replace it, not an up in the air response. Next.
Author Tallgirl91 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 It's so weird. Like wednesday he was like " Hey are you still free for dinner thursday".... how can a guy's feelings shift that quickly?
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Sorry I'm confused, what kind of restaurant isn't open on a Thursday?
Author Tallgirl91 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 Sorry I'm confused, what kind of restaurant isn't open on a Thursday? It closed at 8 and I had practice until 7:30 so it would've been closed by the time we got there.
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 29, 2016 Posted October 29, 2016 Oh ok thanks for explaining. So if I understood correctly in one week you already went out or hung out 3 times, then maybe he said let's wait for another day because he needed a bit of time to himself. The with friends etc. Give him his space and see. Ball's in his court since he wasn't ready to reschedule yesterday.
Author Tallgirl91 Posted October 29, 2016 Author Posted October 29, 2016 Sorry I'm confused, what kind of restaurant isn't open on a Thursday? Oh ok thanks for explaining. So if I understood correctly in one week you already went out or hung out 3 times, then maybe he said let's wait for another day because he needed a bit of time to himself. The with friends etc. Give him his space and see. Ball's in his court since he wasn't ready to reschedule yesterday. I didn't think of it this way! So you don't think this automatically means he is uninterested?
Sunkissedpatio Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 Not necessarily, he did text you the day before Thursday to see if you were still up for the date so that means he was still interested. Any word from him yet?
lakerman34 Posted October 30, 2016 Posted October 30, 2016 As a guy who goes on dates, I've noticed that a LOT of girls expect us to be SUPER creative with our date ideas and "mix it up" quite a lot. This is WAY harder than, I think, a lot of women realize. With that being said, if I REALLY like a restaurant (and I'm comfortable there--like I've been on a couple of dates with other women before at that restaurant), and I find out it's closed, instead of panicking to find a replacement restaurant, I may suggest another day. I think he's still interested. Tell him when you're available (if you want to be proactive, check out the place's website and make sure your day of availability it is open).
Author Tallgirl91 Posted October 31, 2016 Author Posted October 31, 2016 Not necessarily, he did text you the day before Thursday to see if you were still up for the date so that means he was still interested. Any word from him yet? Still no word. It's the 4th day that I haven't heard from him.I think he canceled because he wasnt interested:lmao:
Author Tallgirl91 Posted November 9, 2016 Author Posted November 9, 2016 This past Sunday I had sex with this guy I've been talking to for about a month, it is now Wednesday and I haven't gotten a text from him. Can't help but feel a bit worthless and used... Did he really hit it and quit it or is it too soon? Here's a bit of a timeline: Thursday October 20th: we have our first date after he inquired about me one of his friends because he thought I was really pretty Saturday October 22nd: we hook up (no sex) Sunday October 23rd: he texts me and asks me to hangout with him sometime the following week, we eventually agree on a Thursday dinner Thursday October 27th: I text him to let him know the place we were planning on going to is closed, he says another day would be better. I don't hear from him again until 4 days later. Wednsday November 3rd: he asks me to go on a date with him on Sunday Saturday November 5th: I have a party and invite him, last time we texted was Wednesday. We end up going into my room and having sex. He stays the night and leaves Sunday morning. We don't end up going on a date... I still haven't heard from him. What are your thoughts? Should I just forget about him?
Redhead14 Posted November 9, 2016 Posted November 9, 2016 This past Sunday I had sex with this guy I've been talking to for about a month, it is now Wednesday and I haven't gotten a text from him. Can't help but feel a bit worthless and used... Did he really hit it and quit it or is it too soon? Here's a bit of a timeline: Thursday October 20th: we have our first date after he inquired about me one of his friends because he thought I was really pretty Saturday October 22nd: we hook up (no sex) Sunday October 23rd: he texts me and asks me to hangout with him sometime the following week, we eventually agree on a Thursday dinner Thursday October 27th: I text him to let him know the place we were planning on going to is closed, he says another day would be better. I don't hear from him again until 4 days later. Wednsday November 3rd: he asks me to go on a date with him on Sunday Saturday November 5th: I have a party and invite him, last time we texted was Wednesday. We end up going into my room and having sex. He stays the night and leaves Sunday morning. We don't end up going on a date... I still haven't heard from him. What are your thoughts? Should I just forget about him? I always tell women that the first time they sleep with a man, even if they've seen them a few times, she should assume it will be a one-night stand until he shows her otherwise by maintaining consistent contact and scheduling dates. Wait this out. Do not reach out to him first for any reason. 1
frus69 Posted November 9, 2016 Posted November 9, 2016 It is over for a relationship but maybe not over for FWB yet
MarkIVSteel Posted November 9, 2016 Posted November 9, 2016 Why not ask him out? You can't just sit back and expect things to fall into your lap all the time. Be proactive.
Miss Peach Posted November 9, 2016 Posted November 9, 2016 So far he's not shown you he's looking for more than a FB or FWB. I would sit back and let him contact you and put some effort in to know you if you want more from him. If he doesn't then let him go. 1
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