Arguments because of friends

[Red butterfly]

My guy does not seem to like my friends any bit.

Each time we break into an argument he blames my "so called friends".

Even when they got nothing to do with the argument.

What message is he passing across.

I have had this friends even before him

[smackie9]

Because he is insecure and feels he has no importance to you if he doesn't get his way. Instead of being mature and express his concerns in a proper manner, he just diverts the blame on them. He wants control so he is doing his best to isolate you from your friends.

 

Sorry but you are in a toxic situation. I doubt you can convince him to change so that would mean to remove yourself from this relationship. You can find a new BF, and keep your friends,

[AmyHershaw]

My guy does not seem to like my friends any bit.

Each time we break into an argument he blames my "so called friends".

Even when they got nothing to do with the argument.

What message is he passing across.

I have had this friends even before him

 

I'm terribly sorry to hear of your partner's attitude towards your friends. Your partner should respect your friends regardless of whether he likes them or not as they're your friends, not his'. In addition, he cannot blame your friends for any arguments him or yourself have (as you said, they're not involved). One of the most important rules of being in a relationship is not to move your friends aside and consider them less important than your partner, because you need your friends as much as you need them and your friends have always been there for you. He would be unappreciative of your behaviour if you were treating his friends the same.

 

I can't judge your boyfriend, seeing as I don't know him and I am in no position to tell you what actions you should take from here as it is your relationship. Personally, if I was dating a man who was displaying that sort of behaviour towards me, I would confront him about it to clarify my unhappiness about the situation. I would never have a go at him, I'd just have a calm discussion about in which I would be completely honest about my feelings. If he refused to accept my honest emotions on how I felt about it and wouldn't show any willingness to alter it then I would tell him I will provide him with some time to change his mind and if he still wouldn't then I would end it. Although, it would be difficult for me to do.

 

I hope you and him are able to resolve this problem soon and move forwards, I wish you luck!

[gorf]

Whats your attitude with the friends. Are you serious with 'your guy' and do these friends know it? Do they flirt with you and you back? I suspect it has more to do with the type of contact with the guys than it actually is with an issue of 'guys being friends.' Can you define flirting vs friendliness? Maybe your guy is seeing something different

[kendahke]

My guy does not seem to like my friends any bit.

Each time we break into an argument he blames my "so called friends".

Even when they got nothing to do with the argument.

What message is he passing across.

I have had this friends even before him

 

How often is he the topic of conversation with your friends?

[preraph]

One of the first thing an abuser will do is try to isolate you from your friends, and in my experience their favorite way to do this is make it too much of a confrontation for it to be worth it to you to see your friends because they ruin it for you since you know you'll come home to a mean jerk on account of it.

 

It's a TERRIBLE sign when someone can't handle you having friends, and it's their controlling and/or insecurity and don't let anyone do that to you.

[basil67]

Is this the lover who recently broke up with you?

 

Would I be wrong to guess that your friends don't like him or the way he treats you? Perhaps they want to protect you from future hurt? Have you been talking to your friends when you're upset at him?