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Went on a date and everything seemed to be going well. We had good conversation and he seemed like he was have a good time (didn't seem bored, etc.)

 

Before we both left he gave me a hug and said, It was good to see you I had a great time and then said "we'll talk". About 20 minutes after we both left he texted me and said "Hey, sorry I ran off. I had a great time!". He said sorry for running off because he did have to leave quickly because a ride was already waiting for him. He did try to stay and hang out and talk a little more but his ride already was there.

 

It's been only a day since the date. I realize I'm freaking out waaay too early because it's only been a day but this is how I am so please no judgement. I just want to know what it means when someone texts you that after the first date but hasn't texted you since. Can I text him or should I wait a few more days?

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Went on a date and everything seemed to be going well. We had good conversation and he seemed like he was have a good time (didn't seem bored, etc.)

 

Before we both left he gave me a hug and said, It was good to see you I had a great time and then said "we'll talk". About 20 minutes after we both left he texted me and said "Hey, sorry I ran off. I had a great time!". He said sorry for running off because he did have to leave quickly because a ride was already waiting for him. He did try to stay and hang out and talk a little more but his ride already was there.

 

It's been only a day since the date. I realize I'm freaking out waaay too early because it's only been a day but this is how I am so please no judgement. I just want to know what it means when someone texts you that after the first date but hasn't texted you since. Can I text him or should I wait a few more days?

 

You wait . . . let him come to you for the first few dates. After 3/4 dates, you should start doing some initiating. For now, sit back and observe.

 

You should have replied when he did text to say that you'd had a great time also and thanked him at least. Since you didn't apparently, leave it alone.

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You wait . . . let him come to you for the first few dates. After 3/4 dates, you should start doing some initiating. For now, sit back and observe.

 

You should have replied when he did text to say that you'd had a great time also and thanked him at least. Since you didn't apparently, leave it alone.

 

Im sorry i forgot to include that I did answer him when he texted saying he had a good time! I said I had a good time too and he said to please hit him if he ever makes another bad joke again to which i said why? those jokes were funny and he said okay good and then the conversation just stopped.

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Im sorry i forgot to include that I did answer him when he texted saying he had a good time! I said I had a good time too and he said to please hit him if he ever makes another bad joke again to which i said why? those jokes were funny and he said okay good and then the conversation just stopped.

 

Ok, the ball is in his court. Let him hit it back. Keep it balanced especially in the beginning. Don't let anxiety get the best of you if he doesn't reach out as quickly as you hope. If he doesn't reach out at all, so be it. It's just part of dating.

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Ok, the ball is in his court. Let him hit it back. Keep it balanced especially in the beginning. Don't let anxiety get the best of you if he doesn't reach out as quickly as you hope. If he doesn't reach out at all, so be it. It's just part of dating.

 

I just don't want him to be waiting around for me to text him! I feel like him having a tiny conversation with me after the date was a good sign and especially with the joke thing, it sounds like he is planning to see me again and possibly making a bad joke without outright saying "I want to see you again".

 

I just don't want him to wait for me if he is because then we will both be getting the wrong idea you know?

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I just don't want him to be waiting around for me to text him! I feel like him having a tiny conversation with me after the date was a good sign and especially with the joke thing, it sounds like he is planning to see me again and possibly making a bad joke without outright saying "I want to see you again".

 

I just don't want him to wait for me if he is because then we will both be getting the wrong idea you know?

 

I just don't want him to wait for me if he is -- That's anxiety talking. Like I said, the ball is in his court. Let him lead. Let him show YOU his level of interest. If he is really interested and waiting for you and you don't reach out, he will wonder where you are and come to find out. If he doesn't, it's likely he isn't that interested in you.

 

I'd like to point out that your last text included a question that he didn't bother to answer . . . he would have answered an kept the conversation going a little bit longer if he wanted to . . .

 

Trust me, in the beginning, if you're reaching out to him, you're going to be wondering if he just answers to be "nice" and/or whether or not he would have contacted you himself.

 

You only need to start really initiating after a few dates.

 

You can do whatever you want to do, of course. Reaching out once won't really hurt anything. But after the first date, I'd say the majority of savvy women daters will let him lead a little while longer.

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I just don't want him to wait for me if he is -- That's anxiety talking. Like I said, the ball is in his court. Let him lead. Let him show YOU his level of interest. If he is really interested and waiting for you and you don't reach out, he will wonder where you are and come to find out. If he doesn't, it's likely he isn't that interested in you.

 

I'd like to point out that your last text included a question that he didn't bother to answer . . . he would have answered an kept the conversation going a little bit longer if he wanted to . . .

 

Trust me, in the beginning, if you're reaching out to him, you're going to be wondering if he just answers to be "nice" and/or whether or not he would have contacted you himself.

 

You only need to start really initiating after a few dates.

 

You can do whatever you want to do, of course. Reaching out once won't really hurt anything. But after the first date, I'd say the majority of savvy women daters will let him lead a little while longer.

 

He did answer that last text. Okay, I'm going to type out the text conversation between us after the date so you can get more of an idea of what i'm talking about.

 

Him: Hey sorry I ran off. I had a great time!

 

Me: No worries! I had a great time too!

 

Him: :)

Please hit me if I ever make another "not his day" joke again.

 

Me: Hahah why would I? They were funny.

 

Him: Haha okay good

 

Me: Hope I gave you some more insight into modern art haha i tried my best

 

Him: You did! I appreciated it

 

Me: Good i'm glad!

 

and that was the end of the conversation. by the way we went to an art museum.

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He did answer that last text. Okay, I'm going to type out the text conversation between us after the date so you can get more of an idea of what i'm talking about.

 

Him: Hey sorry I ran off. I had a great time!

 

Me: No worries! I had a great time too!

 

Him: :)

Please hit me if I ever make another "not his day" joke again.

 

Me: Hahah why would I? They were funny.

 

Him: Haha okay good

 

Me: Hope I gave you some more insight into modern art haha i tried my best

 

Him: You did! I appreciated it

 

Me: Good i'm glad!

 

and that was the end of the conversation. by the way we went to an art museum.

 

Ok, great. The ball is still in his court. Relax :) Sit back and observe. Be busy with your life. It doesn't matter if he's sitting there waiting for you. It's better for him to know/think that you aren't sitting around waiting for him, at least, this early. Let/make him come to you . . .

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I just don't want him to be waiting around for me to text him!

 

Why not?

 

It's fine if he waits, you let him come to you now. He reached out to tell you he had fun, you gave him more than enough encouragement. Now he has to make the next move. You wait patiently, you get busy with your friends and your own life and if he wants to see you again, believe he will ask. When a guy is interested he makes a move. When he's not he lets you do all the work.

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