Tootyfrutie6 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I recently connected with a man I kind of knew when I was younger. We actually went to the same middle school at the same time and his sisters and I danced at the same dance school, so I saw him all the time but we were never friends. Our first time meeting, we really hit it off and ended up holding hands, kissing and then having sex. Since then we have hung out more and more. It went from once every couple of weeks to now every day. But since the first time we met we have not kissed again, held hands, or really done anything physical. We spend nearly all of our free time together, talking about any and everything, relating over shared interests, laughing, and learning new things, but we are not physically intimate and I don't understand why. At most, he will put a hand on my thigh or I'll rest my head on his shoulder. At this point it has been 3 months, about a month of which we've spent almost everyday together. I've made it clear that I like him (I think) but I'm afraid to make a move further for various reasons. Why hasn't he made a move and why are we not physical with each other?
smackie9 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 The only person that can answer that is him. Us guessing may distort things.....just have a talk with him about it.
BDJ_1 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I recently connected with a man I kind of knew when I was younger. We actually went to the same middle school at the same time and his sisters and I danced at the same dance school, so I saw him all the time but we were never friends. Our first time meeting, we really hit it off and ended up holding hands, kissing and then having sex. Since then we have hung out more and more. It went from once every couple of weeks to now every day. But since the first time we met we have not kissed again, held hands, or really done anything physical. We spend nearly all of our free time together, talking about any and everything, relating over shared interests, laughing, and learning new things, but we are not physically intimate and I don't understand why. At most, he will put a hand on my thigh or I'll rest my head on his shoulder. At this point it has been 3 months, about a month of which we've spent almost everyday together. I've made it clear that I like him (I think) but I'm afraid to make a move further for various reasons. Why hasn't he made a move and why are we not physical with each other? Sounds strange. What are the "various reasons" you haven't made a move?
Dis Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 How old are you hun? Sounds like you're pretty young What you're describing is a friendship, not a typical bf/gf relationship If you're ok with him just being a friend than great....but I'm guessing you're not since you're posting here (I wouldn't be either...at...all) I'm not sure why he kissed you....then never made a move again....this isn't the usual pattern of a relationship. Unless you ask him you wont know either I personally wouldnt bother asking him...nor would I continue with whatever relationship this is....def not for 3 months IME, if a guy wants you and likes you and wants a relationship with you....he's not just going to sit on the couch with you and...talk??? Yes there will be plenty of verbal communication but there will be intimacy too!!! Why are you sticking around for this hun? It obvi bothers you and you dont need to settle for a guy that wont touch you. It seems like you want the typical bf/gf relationship...it doesnt seem like you're going to get it with this guy Go find what you're looking for...no need to settle
Author Tootyfrutie6 Posted November 9, 2016 Author Posted November 9, 2016 (edited) I'm 22 and he is 23. I was in a relationship for more than 3 years up until a year ago. Other than that relationship I have no experience with dating as an adult. I'm kind of afraid to be emotionally vulnerable as my last relationship ended amicably but was devastating for me. I also am just generally a shy and reserved person. We do a lot together....not just hanging out. I'm a student we study together, I have a chronic illness and he's gone with me to get treatments, he's come to see me perform (I dance professionally). We talk to each other daily either on the phone or in person. We connect on many different levels, have similar views on religion, politics, parenting, have similar sense of humor, etc. We also call each other pet names. We have a very deep connection which is why I've dealt with this limbo for so long. Edited November 9, 2016 by Tootyfrutie6
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