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So I've been dating this guy that I met on bumble (dating app). It's been going really well. He was always making plans, we'd message throughout the day everyday. See each other 3x a week or so. We've been extremely open with one another and I've stayed round his. I told him that I haven't had sex yet and he handled it well but since then he's just been slightly off. Doesn't try to make as many plans to see me and when we do see each other, he mentions how he has to have an early night because he's at university and has a lot of work to do.

 

Help :( I really like him

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Back off for a bit, don't make things too easy for him to see you. 3x a week? That's a lot as far as I'm concerned. Wait a few days and see what he says / responds to.

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Back off for a bit, don't make things too easy for him to see you. 3x a week? That's a lot as far as I'm concerned. Wait a few days and see what he says / responds to.

 

I agree with this because, you seem to available for him, make him wonder a bit.

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I agree with this because, you seem to available for him, make him wonder a bit.

 

So what would that exactly entail? If he messages then I should reply an hour later or something?

 

Thanks!

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Are you saying you are a virgin?

 

some guys are uncomfortable taking on someone that has no experience.

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So what would that exactly entail? If he messages then I should reply an hour later or something?

 

Thanks!

 

The easiest way to not be so available is to have other things going on in your life other than seeing him, so you aren't always immediately free when he is setting up plans with you. Deliberately delaying replying to messages is a game that probably won't get you very far, reply to them when you want to. That said, if your life is generally busy then you won't necessarily be replying to all of his messages within a second of receiving them.

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Are you saying you are a virgin?

 

some guys are uncomfortable taking on someone that has no experience.

 

This could definitely be a factor.

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Some guys are very uncomfortable with virgins. They think the girl will " fall in love with them" after sex ( I heard this straight from a dumb guy's mouth). They sometimes just think a girl will get " too attached" and they are so scared and don't want to / don't know how to handle that

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