Mustafa564 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 (edited) I met this girl about a month ago and asked her for her number right on the spot, She gave it to me and we went on a date 2 days after, everything went well. we continue talking over text and calls. We hung out 2 times after word. about a week n half ago she started changing and losing interest in talking to me. we ended up breaking up from my behalf because she wasn't putting effort into the whole relationship anymore. We didn't text or talk for about a week. Then i texted her with something that reminded me of her. We texted back and forth and everything is going well, we also spoke on the phone that same day. Yesterday, I seen her at work since we work together and i asked her to go on launch with me. She agreed, after graping launch she asked me a question. She said. " You told me that didn't want to be friend but you still talking to me." i told her that took sometime to think to myself about our situation after the breakup. and i said. " I been emotionally lately and things been stressing me out on top the way spoke to you, and i think we can work something out since i wasn't my self." she said " after what you said to me, i buried my feeling to you and i want to be friends". This morning we were texting and she said that she getting ready to go out. but didn't say with who. I stepped back didn't ask who shes going out with. but my logic is telling that it is not possible to bury her emotion over a week. Is she playing to hard to get, or trying to see how i response and see if i react differently. Is she trying to make me jealous? help please i really don't want to lose her. What should i do? Edited November 8, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator paragraphs ~6
Helivesforme Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 If she told you she doesn't have feelings for you anymore , that's probably what she means. She might have had lunch with you because you are still co workers and wants to keep it cool. If you don't want your feelings to be played with then stop texting and calling her. If she reaches out to you, she might be interested.. From what you have posted, not so much.
OatsAndHall Posted November 17, 2016 Posted November 17, 2016 I would take what she said literally, not read into any of it and just move on. Particularly if you two work together. You don't want there to be any further issues between the two of you as they could get ugly in the workplace. I would remain friends with her but leave it at "work friends". These types of relationships can seriously affect your professional life: you don't want to end up in the HR department because you kept trying to nudge things along and made her uncomfortable. I dated a co-worker for a little bit this year, things became a little strange between us after a couple of dates, she stopped texting me and avoided me at work. I just let things go, remained pleasant with her at work and she finally came out and told me that she was still hung up on her ex. That was the end of that. Her and I didn't need any weird complications at work so we stepped back. She pops in and chats with me once a week and that's all good and well. I'm more than happy to go out with her again if she decides she wants to but it's certainly not anything I'm bringing up.
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