How can a cute female MD be single?

[venusishername]

I was just scoping out an OLD. One girl' profile I read that she's an MD, she is 30 and still single. Not old, but cute by most standards and in good shape.

Shouldn't she have already been scooped up by some dude in her medical school or someone who already knew her? I just find it hard to believe that a MD would be single. Or need to be on OLD. Shouldn't it be really easy for her to find a date or serious bf? Or am I just making too many assumptions?

( I know nothing of her past dating history, but like i said she is cute and she's a Dr. and still young)

I was always under the impression that being a medical doctor was the ultimate profession, highly desirable across cultures.

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

Many successful and attractive women (and men) are intimidating to the opposite sex, which would explain why someone of high intelligence, perceived status and attractiveness is not scooped up.

Many people couldn't understand why I was single for 4 years, being that I am considered attractive and intelligent, pretty successful and in the legal field. I didn't get approached a lot because I think men were nervous? Or maybe I wasn't looking or interested? Maybe I gave off a vibe that I was closed off (which I was). You admitted yourself you would be intimidated to ask out a doctor. I’m sure many men feel that way.

It irks me sometimes when people say they can’t understand why an attractive educated and successful person is still single. You get tied up in school, work (especially as a doctor), and dating really doesn’t take priority. Add that to getting started in your career, and add the opposite sex being intimidated to speak to you or ask you out, that would be the answer to why a person like that hasn’t been scooped up.

Being attractive and successful does not mean that you “should” or “should not” be single. I have always been considered attractive and intelligent. I spent a lot of time alone.

[SammySammy]

LMAO.

 

UM no it's not, it's the TRUTH.

 

I live and breathe it every single day.

 

Majority of men I have met are incredibly intimidated by a woman who is self kept. I'm, not just talking about women who make more money than them. I'm talking about women who have good jobs, their own home, and their own interests and hobbies. They don't know where they belong in the equation. It is correct where the poster said it is a learned thing from how they were brought up.

 

It's definitely true.

 

My ex, who is a doctor, is still single long after we've broken up. She's single because of many of the reasons mentioned in this thread. Men are generally intimidated by her. She's very focused and driven. A little crazy. And doesn't have a lot of patience for foolishness. Largely because she makes her own money - lots of it - and doesn't have to tolerate a man's stupidity, insecurities, or any other BS.

 

For several reasons, men seem to be threatened and intimidated by her.

 

I'm a different sort of guy. I seek out women like her.

[VeveCakes]

It's definitely true.

 

My ex, who is a doctor, is still single long after we've broken up. She's single because of many of the reasons mentioned in this thread. Men are generally intimidated by her. She's very focused and driven. A little crazy. And doesn't have a lot of patience for foolishness. Largely because she makes her own money - lots of it - and doesn't have to tolerate a man's stupidity, insecurities, or any other BS.

 

For several reasons, men seem to be threatened and intimidated by her.

 

I'm a different sort of guy. I seek out women like her.

 

Exactly! Because a lot of women stay with men (and vice versa) because they like the comfort of being supported or living in a way they can with two incomes even if they get treated like dirt. Women who are independent and self kept have no tolerance for that.

 

Glad you are not one of them, that is exactly what I need to find!

[smackie9]

Good lord why are you guys picking apart a woman you know nothing about except she's an MD. Seriously.

 

OP if you think she is attractive, contact her and see what she is all about...ask her out, enjoy the date.....and leave all these assumptions behind.

[Noideanow]

or because its difficult to find an attractive extremely intelligent funny lovely happy carismatic charming soulfull humble sweet caring honest beautiful masculine straight man this kind of man is very rare and very sexy:love:

[basil67]

I'm a different sort of guy. I seek out women like her.

 

And the fact that there are exceptions to the statement is exactly why Veve Cakes' statement is sexist and false. *Some men* would be accurate. *Men* is false.

[No_Go]

I'm in her shoes. Not an MD but PhD, early 30s, good looking, never married.

 

Guess why? 18-27 - 100% focused on studies and personal achievements. I was in love with someone but never dated him. If anyone approached me I'd laugh at him and ask to stop distracting me (I used to say while we talk my competitors work )

 

Then I got well-paid career, opened up to men and problems began :

27-29 - one relationship with someone very unstable (borderline criminal) because I wanted to finally experienced life... Um till the time he started attacking me physically. That much for this one

29-30 - another relationship with a guy that decided he can live off my well-paid career Mooched so much money off me that I'm still pissed, rightfully

30-32 - a BF that was about to propose and then decided to back-off... Among other issues calling me 'too intellectual' and 'looking down on him' because I'm better off educationally/professionally'

 

Soo... I can shove my doctorate.... somewhere... when it comes to relationships. It doesn't help. It made me unable to distinguish players/liars (partially because I started late), men liked to speculate with my money (because I was told to be generous) and were intimidated by my achievements.

 

I can bet money your woman has a similar history: late start with relationships and a few a**holes that speculated with her in her past. Makes sense now?

 

 

I was just scoping out an OLD. One girl' profile I read that she's an MD, she is 30 and still single. Not old, but cute by most standards and in good shape.

Shouldn't she have already been scooped up by some dude in her medical school or someone who already knew her? I just find it hard to believe that a MD would be single. Or need to be on OLD. Shouldn't it be really easy for her to find a date or serious bf? Or am I just making too many assumptions?

 

 

( I know nothing of her past dating history, but like i said she is cute and she's a Dr. and still young)

 

I was always under the impression that being a medical doctor was the ultimate profession, highly desirable across cultures.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

[VeveCakes]

And the fact that there are exceptions to the statement is exactly why Veve Cakes' statement is sexist and false. *Some men* would be accurate. *Men* is false.

 

I said "majority of men"....not "men". Just to clarify, I wasn't saying ALL men.

 

And I think sexist means its only men, but I'm sure women are too - I just can't say as I have never dated one.

[jen1447]

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

I have a bachelor's and I've dated doctors.

 

And believe me, there are plenty of single, attractive female doctors out there ....it's not uncommon at all.

[SammySammy]

I'm in her shoes. Not an MD but PhD, early 30s, good looking, never married.

 

Guess why? 18-27 - 100% focused on studies and personal achievements. I was in love with someone but never dated him. If anyone approached me I'd laugh at him and ask to stop distracting me (I used to say while we talk my competitors work )

 

Then I got well-paid career, opened up to men and problems began :

27-29 - one relationship with someone very unstable (borderline criminal) because I wanted to finally experienced life... Um till the time he started attacking me physically. That much for this one

29-30 - another relationship with a guy that decided he can live off my well-paid career Mooched so much money off me that I'm still pissed, rightfully

30-32 - a BF that was about to propose and then decided to back-off... Among other issues calling me 'too intellectual' and 'looking down on him' because I'm better off educationally/professionally'

 

Soo... I can shove my doctorate.... somewhere... when it comes to relationships. It doesn't help. It made me unable to distinguish players/liars (partially because I started late), men liked to speculate with my money (because I was told to be generous) and were intimidated by my achievements.

 

I can bet money your woman has a similar history: late start with relationships and a few a**holes that speculated with her in her past. Makes sense now?

 

Interesting.

 

My ex-wife has a PhD and she apparently settled for a guy beneath her standards. My daughter says she's miserable. Very unhappy. I think she stays just to have a man.

 

I think accomplished women have to walk a fine line between being intimidating because of their accomplishments and settling for someone who is not a good match simply to have a man.

 

How can you pursue your dreams and find a good match who is secure and will treat you well? In a society that says men should take care of women, be the most accomplished, make the most money and so forth.

 

How do you be who you are ... while having to downplay who you are ... because of someone else's insecurities? I can imagine it's very frustrating.

[Zapbasket]

I was just scoping out an OLD. One girl' profile I read that she's an MD, she is 30 and still single. Not old, but cute by most standards and in good shape.

Shouldn't she have already been scooped up by some dude in her medical school or someone who already knew her? I just find it hard to believe that a MD would be single. Or need to be on OLD. Shouldn't it be really easy for her to find a date or serious bf? Or am I just making too many assumptions?

 

 

( I know nothing of her past dating history, but like i said she is cute and she's a Dr. and still young)

 

I was always under the impression that being a medical doctor was the ultimate profession, highly desirable across cultures.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

I have a lot of friends, female and male, who became highly successful doctors. They have no more ease or difficulty with dating and relationships than anyone else.

 

People are not their professions--and often it's the most successful people who recognize that the most.

 

Also, being an MD doesn't mean someone is "more educated" than someone with an MA or MS or MPH or whatever. It only means they have a lot more medical knowledge than most others, and even then, only in their specialized area. Orthopedic surgeons don't know what neurologists know, and vice versa. And furthermore, doctors aren't necessarily "more intelligent" than others--they can be, but they can also be dumb as sh*t. Don't put down what YOU have by making comparisons between things that aren't comparable.

[barbossa]

I have a bachelor's and I've dated doctors.

 

And believe me, there are plenty of single, attractive female doctors out there ....it's not uncommon at all.

 

My cultural impression has been that if you are a male MD all sorts of girls will be swooning all over you. I would date a bunch of hot young girls too if I was a MD.

 

nobody cares about engineers. lawyers, finance people, its like meh....

 

I am typically confident, but I am also realistic, if a girl is out of my league, then she is out of my league. I was acquaintances with the hottest girls in my university but they had dozens of offers from way better off dudes than me, I date realistically

 

I wouldn't be impressed or intimidated by any other career a woman has.

not to discount other achievements its just less impressive.

[Sweetfish]

LMAO.

 

UM no it's not, it's the TRUTH.

 

I live and breathe it every single day.

 

Majority of men I have met are incredibly intimidated by a woman who is self kept. I'm, not just talking about women who make more money than them. I'm talking about women who have good jobs, their own home, and their own interests and hobbies. They don't know where they belong in the equation. It is correct where the poster said it is a learned thing from how they were brought up.

 

So I guess it's equally fair to say most women are money hungry?

[joseb]

I don't really get what seems to be a obsession with doctors, and I also don't get the whole intimation thing.

Why exactly would you be intimidated?

 

I can see that if someone had a career that took all their time and maybe lead to a poor work life balance, then I might be less likely to date them. But I really don't get why salary or education is so intimidating.

[basil67]

I said "majority of men"....not "men". Just to clarify, I wasn't saying ALL men.

 

And I think sexist means its only men, but I'm sure women are too - I just can't say as I have never dated one.

 

hmm...I'd struggle believing that it's a majority of men. But perhaps I've just been surrounded by confident men all my life. I guess we know what we experience.

[Poutrew]

Why does it surprise you? Personally I'd never date, let alone marry anyone in the medical field (except perhaps dentistry or optometry). An old friend recently divorced his MD wife, over sexual issues... it all started when, while drunk, she compared the amount of semen he produced to one of her patients whom she had to do a prostate milking on. He came up short in the volume department. Literally, there is for me and I suspect for many, a yuck factor that cannot be overcome. So yeah, I can totally see a female doctor, even if she is hot, being either dateless of forced to date someone in the medical field...

[oldshirt]

Having the letters "MD" behind their names makes men more desirable, not women.

 

Some men will even find a female doctor a turn off or a disqualification as they seek a more traditional relationship where he works and his 'potential' wife is a SAHM.

[Gr8fuln2020]

Been there, done that. Dated Drs, psychologists, etc. Intelligents, yes. Good money, yes. Any more emotionally intact....NO.

 

I may be ignorant, but if she's a doctor, I would have thought she would avoid sites like POF and go for EH, for example. Could be wrong...

 

Also, at 30, she's likely engaged in crazy hours of work, tired, and debt out of her whazoo! Too busy to consider anything too serious and likely being picky.

[Mjm1014]

I wouldn't judge her based off of her career. Maybe her career is the reason she's still single. Medical school obviously is very grueling and takes away from social time so between working on her career over the years, possibly moving a few times for school, she ended up that way...

 

I can relate, I'm a pilot and have moved 8 times over the years while I was in training/building my hours, constantly having to study or work- It def killed a portion of my dating life and I'm 29 and single. Most of my friends that are in my field have had the same issue...lots of careers out there that can cause this.

 

I met a veterinarian on OKC once that was single for the exact same reason. She was cute, and had her life going but I could totally relate to her. It's hard to understand if your schooling has been long/drawn out/had to move a lot.

 

Give her a shot she could be a winner good luck

[jen1447]

You agreed to date them because they were MD's.

 

My cultural impression has been that if you are a male MD all sorts of girls will be swooning all over you. I would date a bunch of hot young girls too if I was a MD.

 

nobody cares about engineers. lawyers, finance people, its like meh....

 

I am typically confident, but I am also realistic, if a girl is out of my league, then she is out of my league. I was acquaintances with the hottest girls in my university but they had dozens of offers from way better off dudes than me, I date realistically

 

I wouldn't be impressed or intimidated by any other career a woman has.

not to discount other achievements its just less impressive.

 

No, I didn't date them bc they were MDs. In fact I wasn't particularly aware they were MDs right off the bat until a little mixing was done, bc I've generally met ppl like that and other professional types - including lawyers etc., even judges - at clubs and that sort of environment.

 

Also I mainly date women so what I'm getting at here is there are quite a few available women doctors out there, just like virtually every other type of person, who date just about any other type of person. (They also just hook up w them. ) I know bc I 'date' them.

[PegNosePete]

My female MD GF was single before I snapped her up.

[Toodaloo]

My cultural impression has been that if you are a male MD all sorts of girls will be swooning all over you. I would date a bunch of hot young girls too if I was a MD.

 

nobody cares about engineers. lawyers, finance people, its like meh....

 

I am typically confident, but I am also realistic, if a girl is out of my league, then she is out of my league. I was acquaintances with the hottest girls in my university but they had dozens of offers from way better off dudes than me, I date realistically

 

I wouldn't be impressed or intimidated by any other career a woman has.

not to discount other achievements its just less impressive.

 

Yes they do...

 

But like any other person who is struggling to find their match you are too and you are starting to use excuses other than the really obvious one which is simply that you haven't found your match yet...

[Mystique01]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

I hate the question "Why are you/they single"...drives me nuts.

 

UGH I hate this question too.... Total TURN OFF....

[Sunkissedpatio]

Intellectual capacity is not the same as emotional intelligence. I read once somewhere that women executives, lawyers and doctors make horrible romantic decisions because they lack emotional intelligence. For all I know it could have been written by one of those many men who are intimidated by intelligent women.

 

I'd say a huge number of guys don't want a woman who is a lot smarter than him and is a lot more successful than he is, it's known to be a "buzz kill" and they find women like that less sexually appealing.

 

We're not talking equals, I'm talking > than. Women tend to be turned on by a man who is a lot smarter than they are I don't believe it works as well the other way around.

[SamIam5]

Doctors, Attorneys, etc. tend to work long hours. Most of them are immersed in their work. Simply put, they don't have time to date. That's probably the reason why you found her on a dating site.