How can a cute female MD be single?

[barbossa]

I was just scoping out an OLD. One girl' profile I read that she's an MD, she is 30 and still single. Not old, but cute by most standards and in good shape.

Shouldn't she have already been scooped up by some dude in her medical school or someone who already knew her? I just find it hard to believe that a MD would be single. Or need to be on OLD. Shouldn't it be really easy for her to find a date or serious bf? Or am I just making too many assumptions?

 

 

( I know nothing of her past dating history, but like i said she is cute and she's a Dr. and still young)

 

I was always under the impression that being a medical doctor was the ultimate profession, highly desirable across cultures.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

[basil67]

I can't fathom why you'd be surprised.

 

She could be single because she's been too busy studying and working. Or because she's got a bad personality. Or because she's too choosy. Or because she hasn't been interested in dating. Or she doesn't place a whole lot of priority on having a relationship.

 

There's a lot more to being in a relationship than attractiveness and a good job.

[Eternal Sunshine]

Men don't value women's education and career. In fact, to most dating a woman more accomplished than them is a subconscious turn off. Only men that like it are highly accomplished themselves. These men are snapped up quickly though as women are highly attracted to man's status/success.

 

I would be much, much more suprised if I saw a male MD on OLD. Every time that happened, they were either lying or using OLD to find a quick hook up between the shifts.

[Justanaverageguy]

What Basil said.

 

I have a friend who basically fits this description exactly. She is 29 - MD - female - cute - intelligent - long term single. She spends all her time working, studying or at the lab and had very limited time for relationships.

 

In the last year she recently completed a major medical exam and has now suddenly realized her biological clock is ticking and is madly throwing herself into OLD after basically not being interested in guys for the last few years.

[Toodaloo]

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

And that is probably why she is still single.

 

If you fancy getting to know her then ask her out.

 

Doctors are normal people too you know... I have several friends who are doctors, surgeons etc... They still make fart jokes and enjoy beans on toast for supper sometimes...

[joseb]

pffft.

Ive seen quite a few doctors on tinder. I have a female doctor friend who is decent looking but always struggles to date. I think i might have a bumble match with a doctor, now that I think about it too...not sure why you are all that surprised really.

A lot of them get placed in smaller towns or on the edge of cities, so if anything they are more likely to struggle to meet people than most.

[Gaeta]

She could be spoiled, entitled, a little drama queen, historical, name it. I have a brother who dated many women with doctorates and many of them were nut cases.

[Redhead14]

I was just scoping out an OLD. One girl' profile I read that she's an MD, she is 30 and still single. Not old, but cute by most standards and in good shape.

Shouldn't she have already been scooped up by some dude in her medical school or someone who already knew her? I just find it hard to believe that a MD would be single. Or need to be on OLD. Shouldn't it be really easy for her to find a date or serious bf? Or am I just making too many assumptions?

 

 

( I know nothing of her past dating history, but like i said she is cute and she's a Dr. and still young)

 

I was always under the impression that being a medical doctor was the ultimate profession, highly desirable across cultures.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

Just because she's a doctor doesn't mean that she is capable of being a good partner or is automatically suited for a relationship with anyone. Doctors are humans, have their quirks, etc.

 

I'd say the biggest roadblock for them is their schedule . . . it would be difficult for a dating partner/SO to deal with unless they were confident, independent, secure people with active lives of their own and weren't too needy or insecure.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me

 

And, the line of thinking highlighted in the statement above, supports my statement above that one . . .

Edited November 8, 2016 by Redhead14

[Gaeta]

I'd say the biggest roadblock for them is their schedule . . . it would be difficult for a dating partner/SO to deal with unless they were confident, independent, secure people with active lives of their own and weren't too needy or insecure.

 

My brother's wife is a doctor, they are both 36. When you're a young doctor you have all the sh#tty schedule. She works on Holidays, all of them, always. She works 48 sometimes 72 hours straight without coming home and sleeping in hospital bed, then she gets home and sleeps an entire day and night. Trying to have time with them is like trying to have time with the pope..

[Gaeta]

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me

 

When doctors make 350K+ a year they have to get used to dating men that earn less than them. My brother makes much less than doctor wife, he works for the government so probably around 50K. My brother knows nothing in the medical field but her and him have the same passion for history, politics, philosophy, traveling, etc. She adores my brother and he's the one she picked to marry and have children. Before she dated doctors like her but none gave her what she found in my brother.

[Els]

I know plenty of young doctors of both sexes who are single. The first several years in that profession are generally not conducive for relationships or dating, partly due to the taxing schedule and partly due to the location inflexibility. It takes a lot of effort and some sacrifice on both sides to make that sort of relationship work - not everyone is willing to do that.

 

As they become more senior, though, it tends to get easier, which is why many of them only pair off in their 30s.

[elaine567]

Doctors are just human like everyone else, she may have been in many relationships, short term, long term, sometimes these things just don't work out and people find themselves single at 30, through no fault of their own.

Some doctors do not want to date other doctors or health professionals as it can get complicated with work schedules, career paths, travelling to find suitable posts etc.

Some male doctors like to date down too as their egos will not allow then to date equals/superiors and some find they want the support of a doting more traditional partner, rather than compete with her over their individual often onerous career paths.

Doctors are also not allowed to date patients, so it can be difficult to find suitable people to date, especially with a heavy work schedule.

 

And of course some men ARE intimidated by clever women or those they feel to be on an elevated social plane, so will pass them by...

[Buddhist]

Or am I just making too many assumptions?

 

Yes you are making assumptions.

 

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

Maybe this is why she is single?

[mortensorchid]

My sister (four years younger than me) is a doctor. She is now going through a lot of things that I have realized already. She had a bf while she was in her residency for a few years, then one day he said "ain't gonna happen" after he had come to town to ask my father's permission to marry her. She was devastated of course. Now she lives in a city south of me, has her own house, has a nice income, works all the time, and she has no one. All the man MDs at her hospital don't want her, like men in general I find. They want someone who is lesser than they are in terms of career success, and charismatic (in looks and appearance). When given a choice, I have noticed in more situations than I care to think about, men will choose the lesser woman - in the looks, charisma and career department. And they end up with some trashy girl having to wonder "how did this happen? I could have had better! I could have had (Name).". It's not something confined to those in the medical profession, it's across the board.

 

But as for this woman? If your interest is peaked, give it a shot. Who knows what will happen?

[VeveCakes]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

I hate the question "Why are you/they single"...drives me nuts.

[SwordofFlame]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

I hate the question "Why are you/they single"...drives me nuts.

I guess you can say these women are the female equivalent of the "nice guy".

[Sweetfish]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

I hate the question "Why are you/they single"...drives me nuts.

 

Love those kind of women...

 

but what i've seen more is the family or friends will criticize the guy.

[TheTraveler]

Personally I would be too intimidated to ask out an MD, because I know she makes way more money than me and is also more educated than me.I have a masters, but I feel at her level it might pose an issue. I wouldn't feel intimidated by engineers or lawyers or any other profession

 

 

why would you be intimidated? Because she has more school time and makes more money? Big whoop

[Sunkissedpatio]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

I hate the question "Why are you/they single"...drives me nuts.

 

The best are the recently divorced ones that ask "wow you seem like a great catch" why aren't you married? To which I respond "You seem like a great catch, why aren't YOU still married?" That shuts them up quickly and puts their stupid line of questioning into perspective.

 

She is probably single because of the assumptions men have of her being a doctor and still being single.

 

At 30 she spent more of her time in school trying to become a doctor so likely being in a relationship was not her #1 priority.

 

Personally, I'd take someone who had less relationships and hook-ups at 30 over someone who had a string of failed relationships and heartbreaks making them jaded and bitter about the opposite sex.

[BlueIris]

There might be a wee bit of this factor:

 

https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=lU7alwkLuE8

 

:laugh:

[Larryville]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

This is another example of “learned behavior” rooted in childhood. If a young man did not grow up seeing a strong, educated, confidant women they of course will devalue women in general.

 

Most of the women on both sides of my family (my mom) were college educated, several had Masters. Several are business owners, many of their daughters are college educated.

 

I’ve worked in two environments where I was the only dude or one of a couple of dudes surrounded by some of the most talented educated women.

 

My point is I’ve been around quality role model women in my life, exactly why I crave that type of woman in relationships, I understand the value and I’m not intimidated or self-conscious about having an intelligent woman in my life.

 

Again, it’s learned behavior just like any other aspect of a human beings development.

[JoeSmith357-1]

Because majority of men don't want to date, intelligent, independent women, especially if they are very attractive.

 

That's a pretty sexist statement.

 

The reality of the situation is, she's probably right out of medical school or residency, and residency really does not allow for any sort of dating life because your schedule sucks so bad.

 

I dated a medical resident years ago very briefly... it wasn't any sort of good thing because she was always tired, never available, etc.

 

She took career first and want's to get into the game. I understand this.

 

Only insecure guys look down on women who make more than them. I've never been in a relationship where monetary parity was even close to happening. I always made more, in some cases significantly more than my partner. I never looked down on them... that's just silly.

[Larryville]

That's a pretty sexist statement.

 

This is a portion if a much more detailed article, many studies have highlighted the same information...

 

Men ranked a woman who outscored them (intelligence) as a “more desirable partner”, with the study stating that “men formed favorable impressions and showed greater interest in women who displayed more (versus less) intelligence than themselves.

 

However, the second part of the study when men were asked if they would date such a woman in real life showed that the men got cold feet. “[Men faced in this real life scenario] distanced themselves more from her, tended to rate her as less attractive, and showed less desire to exchange contact information or plan a date with her”.

 

they believed that “feelings of diminished masculinity accounted for men’s decreased attraction toward women who outperformed them.”

 

Who knew masculinity could be so fragile?

 

I've witnessed so many examples of relationships having issues because the woman's career trajectory exceeded the guys.

 

This will be an increased issue because women are more likely to have advanced degrees than guys now...

 

For the first time since the Census Bureau began collecting data on higher education attainment, women are more likely to have a bachelor’s degree than men.

 

More women are going to college, that is not debatable so there will be more of these "conflicts" and discussions going on. Women are putting their careers ahead of "relationships."

[VeveCakes]

That's a pretty sexist statement.

 

 

LMAO.

 

UM no it's not, it's the TRUTH.

 

I live and breathe it every single day.

 

Majority of men I have met are incredibly intimidated by a woman who is self kept. I'm, not just talking about women who make more money than them. I'm talking about women who have good jobs, their own home, and their own interests and hobbies. They don't know where they belong in the equation. It is correct where the poster said it is a learned thing from how they were brought up.

[Kamille]

Have a few friends who are MDs. Studying to be a doctor is gruelling and many of them only found their partners once their residency was done.

 

They're also just normal humans who want the same things the rest of us do so... Got out of your own way and ask her out. Find out who she is as a person, not a profession.