palmsand Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I am wondering about a girl I am interested in(have a couple other threads about her). Looking at her behavior and what she has told me I have a strong suspicion that she is interested in me, but I'm still not sure I am confident enough of this, and of what I would do in that case. She has done these things: - Tells me she broke up with boyfriend - Asks for my number so we can 'hang out' - Tells me about creepy guys after her that she is not interested in - Asks me to go out to eat - Demonstrates trust in me by getting in my car for a drive across town, during which she says she would never get in one of these creepy guy's cars for fear of them trying to pull something - Asks me sort of deep questions like about my willingness to try new things/take risks This has played out over a good period of time, about eight weeks now. We just went out to eat last thursday, totally spontaneously. It kind of seems like she is trying to judge my character and let me know what she is not interested in, like the creepy guys she mentions. I have always shown interest in her and first asked to see her outside of class to study, but I don't know if I'm sending the message that I want to be more than friends. We really have a lot in common and enjoy talking. There is situational humor, the environment isn't tense or forced. It seems like we jive really well. I plan to ask her out again this week, but should I do more? My buddy thinks I should ask her directly if she could see us being more than just friends, but my gut says just let things play out and see what happens. What do you think?
smackie9 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Ask her out on a proper date. This^^^^^^ its a no brainer. Gosh don't wait 8 weeks next time. 1
Author palmsand Posted November 8, 2016 Author Posted November 8, 2016 That's what I'm thinking for this week, but how do I know she will see it that way? How about something along these lines: "I know a good restaurant on the pier, would you like to go out there to eat friday?" I know the first time we ate out wasn't a date, so I don't want that to set a precedent for the future.
BDJ_1 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 That's what I'm thinking for this week, but how do I know she will see it that way? How about something along these lines: "I know a good restaurant on the pier, would you like to go out there to eat friday?" I know the first time we ate out wasn't a date, so I don't want that to set a precedent for the future. Suggest to either (i) ask her to do something on a day you don't have class; or (ii) ask her do something that is unmistakably date like e.g. an activity instead of dinner.
Miss Peach Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Usually when women mention breaking up with a BF it's to let it be known they are single IME. 1
Author palmsand Posted November 9, 2016 Author Posted November 9, 2016 I've always gotten mixed messages from her. And when she said she broke up with the bf was much more recently than eight weeks ago. It sucks because we are so busy with class during the week, and lately she has had plans for the weekend like heading home to see the family, since she moved a good distance and lives on campus. Today I was going to ask her to do something out of the ordinary on the weekend but she told me about plans she already had first, so I had no choice but to ask about something after class like we did last week. Also an interesting development about when we went out to eat last thursday. It seems like she used a cover story to justify asking me, instead of directly. When we started talking that day, she said she was bummed because her car was running really badly and she couldn't drive into town for sushi. I simply asked if she was free after class, which made her think I might want to go so she asked. But today she said the car isn't fixed and she is driving over 50 miles home to the family this weekend. Really makes the car look like a cover right? And she sometimes appears only lukewarm to things I ask her to do with me, like eating out this coming thursday. She said her friends might already have plans with her so she will let me know. Kind of on/off swings from day to day. Today she brought up another creepy guy that started talking to her and asked for her number and stuff. I don't know what to make of things that she tells me like this.
leogirl876 Posted November 9, 2016 Posted November 9, 2016 I've always gotten mixed messages from her. And when she said she broke up with the bf was much more recently than eight weeks ago. It sucks because we are so busy with class during the week, and lately she has had plans for the weekend like heading home to see the family, since she moved a good distance and lives on campus. Today I was going to ask her to do something out of the ordinary on the weekend but she told me about plans she already had first, so I had no choice but to ask about something after class like we did last week. Also an interesting development about when we went out to eat last thursday. It seems like she used a cover story to justify asking me, instead of directly. When we started talking that day, she said she was bummed because her car was running really badly and she couldn't drive into town for sushi. I simply asked if she was free after class, which made her think I might want to go so she asked. But today she said the car isn't fixed and she is driving over 50 miles home to the family this weekend. Really makes the car look like a cover right? And she sometimes appears only lukewarm to things I ask her to do with me, like eating out this coming thursday. She said her friends might already have plans with her so she will let me know. Kind of on/off swings from day to day. Today she brought up another creepy guy that started talking to her and asked for her number and stuff. I don't know what to make of things that she tells me like this. Get some confidence. The most attractive and sexy thing to a girl is a man with a purpose and goes for what he wants without fear. Don't ask her to hang out, tell her you'd like to take her on a date. Go for a kiss. Even if she turns her cheek, be respectful and try it next date. Remember, if a girl says no, it's not always a no to you, it can sometimes be a test. Men that have confidence that don't take no for an answer get the girl and it drives her crazy in a good way. When my dad say my mom, he knew he wanted her. She had another boyfriend at the time and he said I wasn't taking no for an answer. They've been married for 46 years! 1
Author palmsand Posted November 9, 2016 Author Posted November 9, 2016 She has said no before but then things continued in the right direction. It seems like she wants to go slow with this, kind of moderating how much we see each other and stuff. I just conpare myself to the guys she is put off by and try to not be like them, of course I'm not to start with but it seems like a warning almost. Don't do anything crazy or rash. But you think I really have a chance given what she has said and done?
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