cookiemonster26 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I met and am dating amazing guy. Hes loyal, honest, respectful and we get along great. Only problem is I have ZERO physical attraction to him. I tried kissing him numerous times and each time I couldn't wait for it to end. I feel bad because he is an amazing man, and one of my friends said "well if you don't give him a chance you will end up with another jerk and miserable" But is it really worth it to continue someone you do not is to have any physical contact with hats over. Thoughts ?
Methodical Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Skip the whole "dating for potential romance" bit and accept that he is a good friend. There's no chemistry. You have made several attempts, to no avail, so it isn't going to magically appear. Continuing as you are may create false hope for him. Meanwhile, you are spinning your wheels, which isn't fair to either of you. 5
Buddhist Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No. Why would you do that? Would you like someone to do that to you, date you, kiss you, and then come out with the 'sorry I'm just not attracted to you' line after a little while? If you're not attracted, you're not attracted. Don't confuse someone about your intentions. 2
smackie9 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 You are not attracted......so why are you wasting this guy's time? Right now he is catching real feelings for you, and when you finally realize there is in no way you are going to sleep with the guy, he's going to get real hurt and confused....he's going to wonder what sick game you are playing......did you ever consider that??? I get your friend has your best interest at heart BUT you can do better than this. Get out now before you destroy his heart. And please be honest with him. Tell him he is an amazing person, so amazing you tried to see if there is any attraction/chemistry, but no it didn't happen so it would only be fair to not continue dating. PLEASE don't say "You are a nice guy" or "We can be friends". 5
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 The answer to your question is NO. Just No. 3
TheTraveler Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No. Tell him the truth and move on. He's not an amazing guy if you have ZERO attraction towards.
leogirl876 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No, why would you do that? Plus that's not fair to him because maybe he's really into you. Thank him for the nice dates but tell him you don't see it going anywhere and let him go.
Erik30 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No, if you continue to date him he'll end up feeling worse when you eventually dump him for someone you are attracted to. These are still the early stages, you should be really excited about being with this guy. Do yourself and him a favor, end it.
Toodaloo Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No. To do so is to lead them on and is unfair. Time to end it and let him find someone who fancies him and enjoys kissing him.
doyathinkso Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Why would you string him along? To hurt him? Be honest, with yourself and him.
Sara1989 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Nooo, I done this TWICE and it did not end well. Sometimes the physical attraction comes but sometimes it never does, like you I hated kissing those guys and I knew there was no going back then. End it and just dont lower your standards next time, there has to be SOME attraction there.
elaine567 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 YOU are dating, not interviewing guys for friendship, so the first filter should be - Can I kiss this guy, make out with this guy, have sex with this guy?... If he fails at the "Can I kiss this guy?" hurdle, then you need to end it pronto and not just string him along. Stringing people along is very cruel. The last thing guys or girls want is to be friend-zoned, they are not dating to make friends. If you know kissing them is going to be ugh! then finish your coffee and just go, you are doing them a favour by not wasting their time or getting their hopes up needlessly
SwordofFlame Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 What are your views on sex and physical intimacy? Do you view it as a duty to your man? If the answer is no, stop dating this guy immediately.
JuneJulySeptember Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I met and am dating amazing guy. Hes loyal, honest, respectful and we get along great. Only problem is I have ZERO physical attraction to him. I tried kissing him numerous times and each time I couldn't wait for it to end. I feel bad because he is an amazing man, and one of my friends said "well if you don't give him a chance you will end up with another jerk and miserable" But is it really worth it to continue someone you do not is to have any physical contact with hats over. Thoughts ? I think if you have to ask ... then the answer is no.
LeaGreenLad88 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 As a guy. Don't string him along. You are not attracted to him. And you can't change this. I think it is best you let him know and give him a truthful explanation. It's very much unfair otherwise.
GunslingerRoland Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 No. Now I'm a firm believer that attraction grows in relationships and I think too many people focus on finding someone they that they find a complete knockout. Whereas i know many people who found their partner mildly attractive when they first met, but it grew as they fell in love... BUT you need some sort of level of attraction to start. If you are repulsed by kissing him, I don't see this getting better.
kendahke Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I met and am dating amazing guy. Hes loyal, honest, respectful and we get along great. Only problem is I have ZERO physical attraction to him. I tried kissing him numerous times and each time I couldn't wait for it to end. I feel bad because he is an amazing man, and one of my friends said "well if you don't give him a chance you will end up with another jerk and miserable" But is it really worth it to continue someone you do not is to have any physical contact with hats over. Thoughts ? Tell your friends to stfu. If he's so dang great, why aren't they dating him? Let him be amazing to some other woman. You're not it. To lead him on by continuing to see him is cruel, mean and selfish. Are you those things? No? Then leave the guy alone.
Rockdad Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Poor guy is heading for the dreaded "Friend Zone" and doesn't know it yet.
Sweetfish Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I met and am dating amazing guy. Hes loyal, honest, respectful and we get along great. Only problem is I have ZERO physical attraction to him. I tried kissing him numerous times and each time I couldn't wait for it to end. I feel bad because he is an amazing man, and one of my friends said "well if you don't give him a chance you will end up with another jerk and miserable" But is it really worth it to continue someone you do not is to have any physical contact with hats over. Thoughts ? The 2016 Honda civic is a great car. reliable, gas efficient, and everything I need. I have no attraction towards the car and I cant stand driving automatic. But if a mustang came along for around the same price... sorry civic I love you, but im not in love with you.
Miss Peach Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 Sometimes attraction needs to build for women but it needs to be there. My personal rule is if I don't feel chemistry by the end of the third date I let the guy go.
SugarLips72 Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 You are supposed to date people you are romantically interested in. Let's face it, there is no spark or chemistry. You need to friend zone him asap.
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