ironspider Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 So I'm having trouble figuring out whether to drop this or not. Met her on FB again, we actually "dated" as young teens but I don't think that counts it was 20+ years ago, we are both 42. We had been FB friends for a while. So lately we've both become "interested" in getting to know each other. Been texting and snapping pics for a couple weeks daily. Finally saw her last sunday, she came over to watch the Dallas game, we got along great, she flirted a bit as did I. Night simply ended as we both had to work the next morning. So....I believe she actually wants to get to know me again. However.... I can't get her to meet much. She's a single mom with many friends and many activities. I'll ask her out, she'll be busy, she'll say maybe and then something comes up but seems ok to me because she's a single mom so I'm very understanding. I'm losing my patience, and ready to drop it. It's not like I have them lining up but i'm just getting frustrated. Advice???
Herbalist Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Sounds like her desire for a relationship may be much lower than yours. Her life is full of people and activity, she is busy and she has priorities. If you pursue her and it's meant to be, it'll probably be a slow process and she may never have tons of time for you. She may very well be a bit into you, but doesn't change the previous details. So whether or not it's worth it to you to keep being patient is up to you. Not sure what you have to lose by staying in touch with her, though. It's still okay to talk with other women for potential romance at this point.
stillafool Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Maybe you should stop taking her for granted.
Author ironspider Posted November 7, 2016 Author Posted November 7, 2016 Maybe you should stop taking her for granted. How so? I don't think I'm doing anything of the sort.
EveryWomanJ2911 Posted November 16, 2016 Posted November 16, 2016 It seems that you both get along as friends right now. Maybe that is all she can offer at this point? Have you asked her if she is even interested in a more committed relationship? There are women who just like having guy friends and a busy social schedule. For your sake, maybe its best to just ask her about what she is looking for right now. If her answer is not what you are looking for, then it could be that you found a friend, and not a romantic prospect. It's certainly best to find out what the situation really is before putting anymore energy into whatever this is with her. You sound tired and frustrated and that isn't healthy. Being honest now will save you time and energy that could have been put towards a person who has your values and goals in a committed relationship that you both could be happy in. Don't hang out on the "will they, won't they" merry-go-round or you'll just be spinning your wheels. I hope you talk to her candidly, and then go forward in a realistic direction that is good for what your relationship goals are now. ~Blessings and Peace Friend!
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