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My Online Dating Fear -- Rational/Irrational?


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So, many women I meet are from OKCupid.

 

Most women are very traditional in terms of needing to talk for a bit, then having dinner/coffee, and going from there.

 

However, once in a while, there is a lady who is CLEARLY mostly on OKC for sexual reasons.

 

After talking to them for quite some time (and not before meeting), they may ask for nudes/"dick pics."

 

Now, I do my homework, and I can tell a catfish from a real person.

 

If I decide that they are real, sometimes, I send it to them (usually after long periods of not having any sexual release).

 

Today, a girl I've been talking to, has been babysitting. All day. (This is the aforementioned girl that works in Mexico).

 

She Skyped me telling me how she was so stressed out, had a lot of work to do, her back has been killing her (she herniated a disk), and eventually the conversation went to "send me a nice video of your dick so I have something to watch when I get home."

 

I obliged.

 

Then, a thought came to my head. I'm also talking to an 18 year old (not yet very seriously), and she has made talks sexual very quickly as well (telling me what sort of kinky stuff she's into).

 

Even more so than these being 500 lb. men living in their mom's basements (because, in reality, if they are, then they are, and so what), I'm nervous these are actually law enforcers or, even worse, under-aged people posing as over 18s (I talk to a lot of ladies in the 18-21 crowd).

 

Rational or irrational fear?

 

I'm seriously considering erasing my account ever since this thought came to mind.

 

FYI -- I'm 26 years old. My intuition says I have nothing to worry about, but I fear I'm putting myself at risk (and, in turn, EVERYBODY on OKC is really putting themselves at risk).

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This must be why guys out there actually think it's appropriate to send someone you've never met a 'dick pic'.

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As they say think before you do.......

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Irrational. If you're corresponding via OkCupid you are not liable for someone posting a profile and stating one thing but actually being under age.

 

Having said that, you claim to be 26 but chatting up 18 year olds what gives?

 

I feel there's more to this story since why would you feel sketch talking to women that are allowed to be on the site?

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We put our selves at risk everyday we get out of bed. If it bothers you that much then delete your account or decide to never send a dick pic. I mean seriously what kind of release do you get from sending a pic of your genitals anyway? Actually no don't answer that. But I'm sure you could do other things that don't have the potential for you to send porn to the under aged.

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It's true that men are super easy to bait. All you have to do is start talking about sex and they fall in, but you DID say you Skyped with her. What's up with that?

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YOU are now 26, maybe it is time to stop talking to the 18-21 crowd if you are worried concerning "jail bait" and start speaking to women of your own age.

AND stop sending videos of your d*ck to women you hardly know, what is that all about?

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Oh ffs OP what is wrong with you?

 

What sort of OLD girl asks for dik-piks?

 

Stop it now before you get into trouble. :rolleyes:

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There is always a risk.

 

A risk that the person may not be who they say they are or that your pictures can be used for other purposes. I stopped sending pics many years ago when I realized that person was showing them to her friends. Even if you have nothing to be embarrassed about, there's a level of betrayal if that was not how you intended the pics to be used. But, once you send them you lose control over what could happen and have to accept the consequences of what may happen.

 

Some people have pictures and videos online that were never intended to be viewed by the public. :rolleyes: Unfortunately, once it's on the internet you can never really get rid of it.

 

Be careful.

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Nah, no "more to the story."

 

Just paranoid.

 

I think it's all cool.

 

By "18 crowd," it was just one girl really (a couple of 19 year olds).

 

I shut it down with the 18 year old after a day.

 

Fun fact: I came on LS and asked "isn't 19 too young" and the overwhelming response I got was "nah."

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Fun fact: I came on LS and asked "isn't 19 too young" and the overwhelming response I got was "nah."

 

Genuine question, which thread of yours was that?

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YOU are now 26, maybe it is time to stop talking to the 18-21 crowd if you are worried concerning "jail bait" and start speaking to women of your own age.

AND stop sending videos of your d*ck to women you hardly know, what is that all about?

 

This ^^. Most women will find those pics very offensive. those who "request" it, will likely be willing to sleep with anyone. In that case, you get what you ask for...

 

And yes, at some point you will need to mature such that you realize that you shouldn't be chasing 18 year old girls anymore...

 

If you are worried that you are too close to the line of what is appropriate or actually legal, perhaps you better change your position...

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