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So I got over a girl I used to be infatuated with. What now?

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losangelena Established Member

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I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but I've noticed that a lot of women who feel like they're solid 10s and are complete snobs, are indeed 6s or even 5s without that makeup. It's as if they created a persona with their unnatural looks.

 

Women will keep wearing makeup as long as men like you grade their looks on a number scale.

 

It's not a woman's fault you feel deceived.

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DramaInPajamas Established Member

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Women will keep wearing makeup as long as men like you grade their looks on a number scale.

 

It's not a woman's fault you feel deceived.

 

Quite :laugh:

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Ruby Slippers Established Member

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Women are heavily rewarded and incentivized for looking as good as possible. Most women are a few "points" more attractive with makeup, a good haircut and highlights, and stylish clothes that fit well. I think a lot of men would be shocked if all women were stripped of all the beauty trappings and tools for a day.

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luna97 Member

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Some women like to wear makeup just because they want to. Just like you might like to dress nice, style your hair a certain way, people can do things for themselves. Everything women do isn't out for their approval of men.

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Gr8fuln2020 Established Member

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I've date women from a variety of ethnic backgrounds and all of them wore make-up to some extent. I NEVER date a woman who plasters her face. I find too much make-up a turn off. BUT, everyone one of them remained wonderfully attractive w/o their makeup. In fact, I really prefer women who are more natural.

 

Since most women wear makeup, we define a ten while they're wearing it. I get a pretty good sense of what they look like under the makeup. I focus a bit more on facial structure, etc.

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dpass Established Member

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My girlfriend wears makeup, apparently. I see her put it on and see it in the bathroom, but I honestly cannot tell. She doesn't cake it on, doesn't do anything dramatic and doesn't use special effects to make her features look different.

 

Honestly, all the make up does is make her look less tired and dull, and evens out her facial skin tone. It takes her 5-10 minutes to do it. To me, there is nothing attractive about a face caked in makeup. That being said, if a woman wants to do that, it's her choice.

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Popsicle Established Member

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Just wait until you start losing your hair and start wearing those baseball caps to cover it up....

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aileD Established Member

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we wear makeup because we want to and it's OUR bodies and we can do whatever we want with ourselves.

 

It's not for you.

Marc878 Established Member

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Makeup applied correctly always enhances a woman's beauty.

 

I like it. I like it a lot.

 

Make no mistake it's for us guys. So appreciate the time and effort.

 

If you do the payback is ahem. Excellent.

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smackie9 Established Member

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So let me get this straight.......you blame her for wearing makeup, saying it deceived or enchanted you into obsessing over her for years. Like seriously? Then you post here to say you got ripped off, because she is no longer attractive and she just wasted your time mackin on her.You got some issues brah.

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Blanco Established Member

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I guess it's good that something finally happened that allowed you to let go of this seven-year infatuation with a woman you never actually dated.

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soyou Established Member

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I'm 6 without makeup and 8-9 with make up.

 

However none of my exs ever complained about me without make up.

 

They stil love me the same way regardless.

 

When I wake up, no make up, look like shyt, I can still see love in eyes. I hate - my small eyes without makeup but all of my exes found it so cute

 

Honestly, I wouldnt like to be with a man like you. Too shallow

deep_night Established Member

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We wear it because we can!

 

When i first started dating my boyfriend i didnt wear makeup or made my hair because we went to active dates, and whats the use of lipstick while ure sweating on a hill. But in one of the following outings i wore some makeup and fixed my hair and wore girlier clothes and the compliments didnt stop coming!

 

You guys gotta admit it, you may like us in our natural state a lot, but still be a lot more excited when we put some extra work in.

Lorenza Established Member

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Oh, because women are products and makeup makes it false advertisement, doesn't it? You get one and she doesn't actually look like it was promised on the package, outrageos! Understand you completely, all girls should be taken to a swimming pool on the first date, so you can find out what grade her beauty has!

 

:D

 

 

P.s. I wear makeup cause it's so damn fun. I rarely see girls wearing full glam makeup that completely changes their faces on daily basis, usually it's just a normal amount that doesn't make them look so much different without it. So I have no idea what men are complaining about. Of course nude face isn't as expressive, but learn to effin appreciate it. And if you meet someone at a nightclub all glammed up and expect them to look the same morning after... Sorry, but you're an idiot then ("you" in general, not anyone specific)

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elaine567 Established Member

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It is hardly a surprise to anyone that some women can look vastly different with or without make-up.

Make up is used to enhance the good points and camouflage the bad ones. There is nothing wrong with wanting to look good surely?

Everyone wants to give the best impression of themselves and that for most women means wearing some make-up.

 

If you believe that girls who are 10s are the ones who are always glammed up, then of course you are going to be disappointed when her doe eyes look a bit piggy and small when she removes the eye contouring, the lashes, the mascara and the eye liner.

 

If you truly want girls who are natural beauties, then it may be best to go for girls who wear little make up and still look great.

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PrettyEmily77 Established Member

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I'm not trying to be mean or anything, but I've noticed that a lot of women who feel like they're solid 10s and are complete snobs, are indeed 6s or even 5s without that makeup. It's as if they created a persona with their unnatural looks.

 

I think the reason why I'm asking this was I had feelings for a girl for a long time, and I felt like I missed out on a great opportunity when I turned her down because I was caught off guard when she wanted to be more than friends. I tried to get back in to her life but she soon began spreading rumors and treating me horribly. Well, after years of "what ifs" I finally decided to check her up online where she decided to post a pic of herself with her new husband al natural, no makeup or any foundation, and I was shocked! I couldn't believe she looked like one of my relatives who I find fairly unattractive. I basically felt like I wasted all those years chasing an illusion when the person behind the mask was actually as ugly on the outside as she is on the inside.

 

Anyways, if you guys on loveshack having anything to add, I would love to hear it! Thanks.

 

So one girl who you found pretty enough in real life to 'what if' about for several years, and one photo of her (just one, on social media, not having seen her IRL for years!!) with no make up on is enough for you to make this giant leap about generalising over women, make-up and deception?

 

Seriously man, you need to get a grip...

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joseb Established Member

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You guys gotta admit it, you may like us in our natural state a lot, but still be a lot more excited when we put some extra work in.

 

Honestly, it doesn't do much for me.

 

I dunno, maybe I've mostly been with girls that didn't really need makeup, or that it didn't suit them.

 

I'd actually like an option on a dating app to.include one natural photo, no makeup, no soft focus, cheat angle, filter or long lens allowed!

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Els Established Member

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Why does anyone dress in a way that they find flattering on themselves?

 

I agree with Gaeta, sounds like a healthy dose of sour grapes on your part. :laugh: I almost never wear makeup, but I'd never date a guy who perceives it the way you do. Normal men don't go all ZOMG SHOCK HORROR over women and makeup. Of all the things to get "shocked!!!!!111!" about...

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insert_name Established Member

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Honestly, it doesn't do much for me.

 

I dunno, maybe I've mostly been with girls that didn't really need makeup, or that it didn't suit them.

 

I'd actually like an option on a dating app to.include one natural photo, no makeup, no soft focus, cheat angle, filter or long lens allowed!

 

I wonder how many women would sign up for a dating site where they had to upload a no makeup pic? That 'USP' would be even more flawed than Bumble's!

Popsicle Established Member

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I wonder how many women would sign up for a dating site where they had to upload a no makeup pic?

 

 

I would. I'd like to see all pics with no makeup. I wonder how many men would sign up for a dating site that required no makeup from women and no hats or baseball caps from men in their photos?

katiegrl Established Member

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OP, I think your anger is misplaced.

 

You're not angry that she wears makeup..... what you're *really* angry about is that she's now married with a family (purportedly happily).

 

If she had chosen you (when you attempted to reconnect), instead of rejecting you and spreading rumors, you wouldn't give a rat's rear end that she wears makeup.

 

In fact, if it enhances her looks a bit, you'd probably love it!

smackie9 Established Member

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I would. I'd like to see all pics with no makeup. I wonder how many men would sign up for a dating site that required no makeup from women and no hats or baseball caps from men in their photos?

Or the guys should smile.....my GF said she had a few of them not reveal the Chiclets/missing teeth they had for teeth in their profile.

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insert_name Established Member

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I would. I'd like to see all pics with no makeup. I wonder how many men would sign up for a dating site that required no makeup from women and no hats or baseball caps from men in their photos?

 

I would, my pics are all just me- no tools used to try and accentuate my attractiveness like shades, baseball caps or makeup (not that makeup applies in my case, but just for the record!). It would be an interestingly level playing field - seeing as to how the male equivalent of make up (muscles, status etc) takes years, if not decades, to apply compared to an hour in front of a mirror.

 

It would be interesting to see if women got the same levels of attention compared to a platform where make up shots are in heavy use.

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Els Established Member

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I would, it would be an interestingly level playing field - seeing as to how the male equivalent of make up (muscles, status etc) takes years, if not decades, to apply compared to an hour in front of a mirror.

 

Getting THAT good with makeup (to make such a significant difference) takes a LOT of time and practice. If you were to attempt a full face of makeup without the practice, you would usually just make things worse. The 'somewhat natural but glowing, accentuated, and blemish-free' look is especially difficult to attain and keeps many professional makeup artists in business. It's a big part of why I don't wear makeup - I just personally feel I have better things to do with my time.

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LexiB Established Member

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I would. I'd like to see all pics with no makeup. I wonder how many men would sign up for a dating site that required no makeup from women and no hats or baseball caps from men in their photos?

 

And A few smiling - with teeth exposed.

 

Ideally from multiple angles...

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