Herbalist Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Depends on what you mean by dating. Most people I have known will date multiple people at a time in the sense of just going out on dates. You know like going out for coffee or whatever and spending time with the person to get to know them. It's "dating" in the sense that the goal is to find a romantic partner. However I haven't known many people who multi-"date" in the sense of having multiple romantic partners. There was a poly triad (so that technically counts) and some people who were cheaters so they technically had multiple romantic partners, as well. But going on a date with someone doesn't make them your romantic partner. If you feel otherwise then you are moving way too fast in your head. 1
Popsicle Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Call it "way too fast" if you want but I don't get to know more than one guy at a time. There is no reason why the others can't wait, this is not a race, and it's not a commitment either. It's just focusing. And I know how to screen and weed people out quickly (by focus, honesty and intuition), as to not drag it out for long, and I expect the same from my date. 1
Toodaloo Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 I tried multi dating and its not for me. I may have a couple of first or second dates lined up but lets face it if I am interested in a guy I am not bothered about others. So to my mind if I am still thinking about dating others after 2-3 dates then I may as well get rid of them all and start again because I am clearly not all that interested in any of them. My advice - bring up the conversation. 1
victoria88 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 How is a young woman to know who she wants if she doesn't date more than one man? Is it normal for men to date multiple women when they are single? I think she can decide first who she is interested in by talking to him (they may be just friends first, or she may date someone). I always mean to date ONE man only. This is a matter of personal judgment (does she like him/is she in love with him, so on). I personally am very old fashioned, this means that I always want to have a relationship (to date first and eventually then to have a relationship) with someone I am in love with. I believe this must be the main reason for 2 people to be together (=love). >To be honest, when I fall in love he usually has a girlfriend (well it hurts for a while, it causes tears for some time) and I end up being alone but this is not going to be like that always... >I think I will start a new thread with the discussions about the reasons why people start a relationship: love or another motivation? Concerning the 2nd question: No, I do not think it is normal for a man to date many women when he is single (well, single or not...it is not normal). Same about women: it is not normal to date more than one man. p.s. I am not experienced with men, though...So this is the opinion of someone modest and not being an expert.
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