Offspring Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 (edited) I can't stop thinking about her, i still 'want' her.. How do I stop? Edited November 6, 2016 by Offspring 1
basil67 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 I need context to answer. You've got a few old threads....can you place a link to the ones which relate to the girl you're thinking about? 1
cucumber95 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 It will stop slowly with time. It will take some time to move on. When did you broke up? I still think and can't get over my ex and it has been 2 months. For some people it will take 1 month to move on, for some years... 2
LancasterAmos1966 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 I can't stop thinking about her, i still 'want' her.. How do I stop? Time. Being thankful for the time she did share with you. Wishing her well. Crying when you need to cry. Accept that she needs to move on right now. Being truly happy that she is happy....be happy for her, not angry at her. Love is voluntary, not something you can con or manipulate or control. Set her free, in love!! 2
cucumber95 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Time. Being thankful for the time she did share with you. Wishing her well. Crying when you need to cry. Accept that she needs to move on right now. Being truly happy that she is happy....be happy for her, not angry at her. Love is voluntary, not something you can con or manipulate or control. Set her free, in love!! Too bad it is not so easy, but it is what it takes to move on. "be happy for her, not angry at her." - this is not so easy if other person lied, treated you badly when breaking up or cheated on you. 2
LancasterAmos1966 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Too bad it is not so easy, but it is what it takes to move on. "be happy for her, not angry at her." - this is not so easy if other person lied, treated you badly when breaking up or cheated on you. You are so correct, Cucumber95. I grew up with the teaching of loving my enemies and forgiving others ---- and it still wasn't easy. But just to to help me not become bitter, I chose to be thankful; I chose to help her get on her feet without me, etc. It was my way of moving forward instead of being stuck. I figured she hurt me enough emotionally already; there was no way that I wanted her hurting me into the future too. Another thing was for me to look how some other men (because I'm a man) were treated when they were dumped. I realized that I lost my wife, but at least I was alive. Some men don't make it out of this alive!! Their wife kills them or they commit suicide. So I realized that I'm doing pretty good after all. 2
NopeNah Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Acceptance. Acceptance that its over for ever. Acceptance that you can not control another persons decisions. Acceptance that your life does and will go on. 3
Satu Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 I can't stop thinking about her, i still 'want' her.. How do I stop? Surrender to the grieving process. Cry your tears. Bemoan your fate. Keep posting here. Get it all out. Take care. 2
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