Hella Lost Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 I was supposed to go on a first date with a girl tonight. I asked her where she was and she said she was running late. I wait an hour, I tell her the show we were supposed to see closes soon, she tells me she's been in the hospital all day, because she has autoimmune disease. I told her I was sorry to her that and should we reschedule, she said "no, i want to see you tonight." I wait 4 hours & I text her where she is, but get no reply. I see that she's online on Facebook too, so she must have seen my texts. So I just left and went home. What should I do, forget about her or give her another chance if she replies.
TheTraveler Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 She wasted your time and your Saturday night. Hell no, don't ever put up with that. 6
anika99 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 No second chance for this one. She is an inconsiderate jerk and you are lucky that she showed you that right away. Now you know she's not worth your time and you can get busy meeting better people. 3
Author Hella Lost Posted November 6, 2016 Author Posted November 6, 2016 So we got in a bit of a argument just now. I gave her a mean msg, then she sent me a picture of her in the hospital. I guess I was wrong. She apologized for not responding, I apologized for getting mad, we're good. She said she's gonna make it up to me next weekend.
grays Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Why didn't she text you earlier??? Unless she was in a coma, she. Hold have texted. It's almost more infuriating that she was prob just sitting around doing nothing since that's pretty much what you do in the hospital. 3
mortensorchid Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 No, just move on. Whatever the case may be you're not a priority in her life. Move on. You'll be okay. Another bad story to share but we've all been there. 3
Author Hella Lost Posted November 6, 2016 Author Posted November 6, 2016 Why didn't she text you earlier??? Unless she was in a coma, she. Hold have texted. It's almost more infuriating that she was prob just sitting around doing nothing since that's pretty much what you do in the hospital. That was the reason for our argument, she just ignored my texts, but she apologized for it. I was insensitive because she really is sick, my mom has the same disease, I just came off like I didn't care.
smackie9 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Dude that could be an old pic and she is just yanking your chain. What she did was d ou^%&. No one is that forgetful. If she does deal with this disease, she would know she would be held up for hours, etc. Dude she's lying to you. 2
Erik30 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Even if she was really sick, it seems like she was well enough to be active on Facebook. So just a quick text shouldn't have been a problem for her... You even gave her the option to reschedule right before she stood you up, I think that actually makes it worse. It was her own choice to ignore you and waste your night. You can give her another chance but I wouldn't bother 3
Gr8fuln2020 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 I was supposed to go on a first date with a girl tonight. I asked her where she was and she said she was running late. I wait an hour, I tell her the show we were supposed to see closes soon, she tells me she's been in the hospital all day, because she has autoimmune disease. I told her I was sorry to her that and should we reschedule, she said "no, i want to see you tonight." I wait 4 hours & I text her where she is, but get no reply. I see that she's online on Facebook too, so she must have seen my texts. So I just left and went home. What should I do, forget about her or give her another chance if she replies. Yeah, whether she was sick or not, she had time to FB. She apologized for ignoring your texts. She could have easily texted you to make other plans. You DID give her another chance...right after the first failed meet-up, she got the second chance. She FAILED to contact you for the first date...and, again, FAILED to contact you regarding the second. ALL WITHIN THE HOURS of the same evening. I would have been pissed...again, I wouldn't have waited for HOURS! Why did you wait for 4-hours?!?!? 3
ExpatInItaly Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Sorry, but I call utter BS on her story. Yes, she may suffer a particular condition. But if she was well enough to be posting on FB, she darn sure was well enough to send you a message telling you she couldn't make it. The picture of her is old; I would bet money on it. Forget about her, OP. She is a waste of time and dishonest. 4
Mkn1010 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 OP, I really hope you don't engage again with this person, they are seriously inconsiderate and that behaviour you described in terms of THE WAY she bailed on the date is some of the worst I've heard. You are probably more tolerant than most, waiting for 4 hours, talking to her again etc. You are WAY better than that. Please know that there are people who would never be able to follow through with such a lack of consideration for another human being. She has shown you that she can and will hurt your feelings.
Author Hella Lost Posted November 8, 2016 Author Posted November 8, 2016 I really don't know what to do. She apologized, & wants to make it up to me. I feel like sending her a text to see if she's really serious about this...
ExpatInItaly Posted November 8, 2016 Posted November 8, 2016 I really don't know what to do. She apologized, & wants to make it up to me. I feel like sending her a text to see if she's really serious about this... You already know she isn't. Her previous actions indicate that. Don't become her back-up plan when she doesn't have any other guys to talk to.
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