Author soph-walker Posted November 7, 2016 Author Posted November 7, 2016 (edited) You are not indifferent to him. If you were you would block him and not even have a thread about him. When we're indifferent we don't have time to play silly little games or time for revenge. You said it yourself, you find him attractive and he turned your blood and still does. That is not being indifferent. You block him indefinitely and move on with your life. How is that playing games? If you are indifferent as you say then why would you unblock him? You need to be honest with yourself. I have been in your shoes. I have had the hots for players before. It thrilled me that a hot guy was chasing me, even if he was a player. If a hot guy goes through all this trouble to chase me than I must be hot myself. I found some type of validation through it all. The difference between you and I is that I am old enough and mature enough to admit it to myself. I get what youre saying and the point you try to make. Ive not received validation because of it, that was your experience not mine. I have felt a 'told you so' feeling- towards him. Thing is, he aint even hot. For me, I found him v attractive is all. Im not saying I would bother unblocking him if I did block his sorry ass. I would get more satisfaction out of knowing he was being a d1ckhead trying in vain to msg me when I have no intention of replying. Its the way I decided to handle it just as I told him to eff off when he msged me. I wrote a thread about it bc, 1) I'm entitled to same as anyone on here and 2) I wanted to see how if ppl have had similar experience, none of my friends have had this happen to them and 3) the way I process/digest things that happen to me is just to talk about them or think about them from different angles. Doesnt mean I'm 'hooked' on someone. I'm a thinker. Edit: I will add, u do give very level advise and I respect that a lot. Edited November 7, 2016 by soph-walker
Space Ritual Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 You'd probably be able to find one of my threads in here about a guy I dated almost a year ago. To cut it short, he was someone I was hugely interested in and felt a connection with both mentally and physically. He on the other hand said he didn't want it to go further..when I asked him why, his reply was he didn't get the urge to see me in the buff. A little time passed, he got in touch to apologise for the horrid way he told me he wasn't interested and asked to meet up again, 3rd time. I was angry but gave another chance because of how interested I felt in him. He ended up telling me that I was an all rounder but he couldn't help but see me as a friend. I was pretty pissed at this point and that was that. He's texted me today a huge apologetic message saying how awful he was and how he's not met anyone like me and that he was involved casually with someone that ended being a messy situation and he felt very attracted to me but he was keeping me at arms length. I've told him to basically f*ck off in so many words but in all honesty I'd love to see him again. I've been on more dates than I can count since, but not one of them has captivated my interest the way he did. Did I do the right thing? Hopefully you have ceased all contact with this guy. Sadly he did exactly what many guys do, and that is in a roundabout way give you the "Good From Far but Far From Good" excuse. It is kind of a time honored tradition with guys who would not mind having sex with a woman as long as they don't have to acknowledge them in public. The best way to deal with someone like this is to make them insignificant and show them complete indifference. It is more of a rush to jackwagons like this to know that what hey said had any effect on you at all. His apology was far from sincere I assure you. Again, just delete him and block from your life. Life is way too short to have somebody like this occupy your mind for more than a nanosecond. . 1
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