Amazin Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/547668-girl-who-doesn-t-initiate-contact I'm aware of other threads that is very similar to what im about to post. Basically I been on few dates with this girl, everything seem to be fine but she doesn't initiate any contact but answers me properly, often takes her time. haven't seen her or spoke to her in a week now and last time she said she will let me know if she's up to anything but clearly didn't. I'm thinking of asking her about it but how can i do it in a way that doesn't appear pushy? Its bit frustrating for me because I really like this girl. Edited November 5, 2016 by Amazin
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Some like to feel that they are valued, won't chase or have to lift a finger. Give it more time. If she still doesn't, then I would say she's multi dating or not that into you. You only been out a couple of times, it's still too early to have those expectations. If you were in a relationship then yes it would make sense to discuss this with her. TBH you are getting ahead of yourself here. Pull back on the emotional investment.
Author Amazin Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Some like to feel that they are valued, won't chase or have to lift a finger. Give it more time. If she still doesn't, then I would say she's multi dating or not that into you. You only been out a couple of times, it's still too early to have those expectations. If you were in a relationship then yes it would make sense to discuss this with her. TBH you are getting ahead of yourself here. Pull back on the emotional investment. thanks for the response, you're a girl? I don't think she's multi dating, because she on my FB and i know what she's been up to. yeah I think you're right, I'm getting bit ahead of myself here. She's Italian btw, I know Italian men are very forward so she's probably more used to that
Herbalist Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Try to think in terms of compatibility along the dating journey and don't forget to consider your own preferences. Do you enjoy the chase? Do you find it exciting or does it make you feel discouraged? You might have a personal preference for more aggressive or take charge women, and you might have a personal preference for a very even give and take. Think about your own preferences and whether or not the person you have dated for a bit seems to be a good match for you. 2
Author Amazin Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 hahahaha ya I am a woman, why you ask? lol, I think you're but not sure. This forum doesn't seem to display gender (like some other forums do) unless you click on the profile. I want to hear female perspectives Try to think in terms of compatibility along the dating journey and don't forget to consider your own preferences. Do you enjoy the chase? Do you find it exciting or does it make you feel discouraged? You might have a personal preference for more aggressive or take charge women, and you might have a personal preference for a very even give and take. Think about your own preferences and whether or not the person you have dated for a bit seems to be a good match for you. thanks mate, i feel bit discouraged to be brutally honest. I don't want to give up of course
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 thanks for the response, you're a girl? I don't think she's multi dating, because she on my FB and i know what she's been up to. yeah I think you're right, I'm getting bit ahead of myself here. She's Italian btw, I know Italian men are very forward so she's probably more used to that Wow not everyone posts everything on social media. Who knows she could be chatting with other guys like so many of them do,... unless you are logging in on her account you can't possibly know everything she is doing.
TheTraveler Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 http://www.loveshack.org/forums/romantic/dating/547668-girl-who-doesn-t-initiate-contact I'm aware of other threads that is very similar to what im about to post. Basically I been on few dates with this girl, everything seem to be fine but she doesn't initiate any contact but answers me properly, often takes her time. haven't seen her or spoke to her in a week now and last time she said she will let me know if she's up to anything but clearly didn't. I'm thinking of asking her about it but how can i do it in a way that doesn't appear pushy? Its bit frustrating for me because I really like this girl. I would do the opposite. Make her contact you. You just have to have the patience to wait and if she never contacts you again you know the answer.
Author Amazin Posted November 6, 2016 Author Posted November 6, 2016 i wouldn't say she's shy but not too confident either. bit girly
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