lakerman34 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) So, I'm talking to this girl on OKC. She is originally from my city, but currently works as a researcher in Mexico (before anyone asks -- yes, she's real). We've been Skyping A LOT. She has been REALLY honest with me, even saying she was talking to another guy, but not to worry because she doesn't see him the same way she sees me. Anyways, she's VERY sexual towards me, we've traded photos, the whole 9. She told me when she returns to the city, she knows exactly where she wants me to take her out on a date, she's going to bring me back tequila, and frankly, we've just been making plans (being careful not to think TOO long term). Anyways -- last Sunday we had a very sexual conversation and even briefly spoke about possibly dating. She says she can see me as having real relationship potential. We planned our first 3 dates, and she said, "if you play your cards right, I'll even introduce you to my mom and her boyfriend." It was a bit too serious considering we haven't met yet face-to-face. Now, with all that being said, she essentially went ghost after last Sunday. On Monday, I sent her some messages, and I got some VERY short responses -- she seemed like she was trying to be friendly by replying, but didn't put any thought behind her messages. Anyways, in the past, I'd send her a message, and sometimes a day or two later, she'd respond (her internet in Mexico is a bit shoddy). She hasn't responded to a single message from me since. I do, however, see her on OKC a lot, so my thought is that she is talking to the other guy more and more and me less and less. I could, of course, be wrong though. I did tell her that if her interest in him grows (which she told me it probably wouldn't) to let me know b/c that would only be fair to me. I'm living under the assumption that this isn't happening until it happens. What's my next move? I was thinking of straight up asking "what is going on?", but I thought that might come off as a bit needy. FYI -- she's 26. Edited November 5, 2016 by lakerman34
mortensorchid Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 This sounds a little ... Odd to me. I think she is yanking your chain. Set a date or attempt to of if and when you are to meet. See what she says.
Author lakerman34 Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 This sounds a little ... Odd to me. I think she is yanking your chain. Set a date or attempt to of if and when you are to meet. See what she says. Yeah, it sounded pretty legit until she ghosted. It confuses me as to why people do that?
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Talk is just talk and should never be taken as promises. Dump her because she just dumped you. For all you know she could be doing this for her own entertainment or attention/ego boost Or she is more interested in someone else. She didn't have the guts to tell you like most people.
Author lakerman34 Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Talk is just talk and should never be taken as promises. Dump her because she just dumped you. For all you know she could be doing this for her own entertainment or attention/ego boost Or she is more interested in someone else. She didn't have the guts to tell you like most people. Yeah, meeting people online has been a huge disappointment. Sometimes it leads into a sexual relationship, but that always (except for one instance where the sex was ridiculously incredible) ends up feeling pretty dull anyways.
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) it's no different doing it the old fashion way....there is 98% disappointment 1% ok and 1% you just got lucky and found that unicorn. It's what dating has about since the beginning of time. It's never that easy. But hey, if you just met some incredible looking woman that ticked off all you boxes you would ditch this girl pretty quickly...... Edited November 5, 2016 by smackie9
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