paradise found Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 My boyfriend and I broke up two weeks ago over my distrust issues. He had cheated in the past and my gut was telling me something was up. He had a business trip planned and invited me. A couple days before, he started becoming cold towards me and I was more or less uninvited. He was also messaging girls again. My head knows the truth. But my heart is aching. Since the breakup, he has sent lame one line texts, just checking on me. I have stayed strong and not responded. It does help the texts are pointless. It has been one week since the last text. Yes, now I am wanting to text him because I miss him. I miss the good of the relationship. I have been literally sick to my stomach the past few days. Unable to eat or sleep. I'm a mess. For some reason, I want him by my side again. We've dated for three years. Off and on because of him not fully committing. I want a committed relationship. I'm in desperate need for support.
Kelley Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) My ex of two years cheated on me and you know what there is no way I would take him back. The trust has gone, he betrayed me and I have more self respect to have him in my life. Of course I still miss him, I love him but that will fade in time. The problem is you are remembering the good and not the bad. You need to remind yourself how he has disrespected you on so many levels. A good man that loves you would never do it! Stay strong move on and find someone that respects you enough not to cheat! PS the sick to the stomach, not sleeping, not eating I went through the same, I even had a panic attack from the anxiety. It has calmed down and feeling a lot better 5 weeks on. You just need to go through it, it will get better. Edited November 5, 2016 by Kelley 2
umirano Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 That's terrible, I'm really upset reading your story. Stay strong, do not text him, you deserve better. It is tough, missing the good parts. But this will pass. Texting him means starting over with all the heartache you've overcome so far. It's the weekend. Distract yourself and treat yourself. Do something, anything that completely absorbs you. Be social. Stay strong, hugs Umirano 1
Author paradise found Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Thank you for the support. That is exactly what I needed to hear. I had dreams with him. The reality is what I need to focus on. Will definitely not text him. Thank you. 1
Author paradise found Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Second break up is so much more difficult for me. First break up, he was communicating with multiple girls throughout our relationship. And who knows what else. I was done with the nonsense and ended it abruptly one night. Even though I was well aware he probably went immediately to another girls house, I honestly could not have cared less. I blocked everything from him. Went on with my happy life. Enjoying life. Happy as could be. About a month later, rumor had it he was talking to people about how much he's changed. Blah blah blah. Eventually he wrote the most romantic love letter I have ever received. Saying everything I wanted to hear. I cautiously took him back. Of course my radar was up. And those gut feelings came back. He was talking to a couple girls from his past. Again. We talked. I couldn't get what I wanted and needed from the relationship. We ended it. He wanted to be friends. No way. That's his motive with all the girls. I have not talked to him since. It's just so hard. I'm so upset this time. Upset I took him back and believed him. Feels good to vent.
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