baba999 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Hi, I met this 28M guy online two month ago, we dated 14times, probably 6hours each. And yesterday he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. But I am not happy and I don’t feel like I am his girlfriend. 1. He only text me once at 10pm, just how was your day and it ends pretty quickly, never good morning or good night text. 2. I sometimes sent him kiss emoji but he never reply to those emoji. I think he should send one kiss back?! And one time we are cooking together, I said ” wow we really look like old couple now.” He didn’t say anything and changed the subject. 3. After he asked me to his girlfriend like 2 minutes, He said he didn’t like his girlfriend look into his phone, cuz if he was planning some surprise it will ruin the fun. But for wife he can share his phone.I found it weird because I never looked his phone and didn’t bring up asking his passcode, himself bringing it up makes it strange. 4. We met online. He disabled his account. After He asked me to be his girlfriend I said you should delete your profile. He said he was working on the same messaging app he wanted to learn how dating apps work (That is unreasonable because once you disable the account, if you log in again it will be active, how can you test with a disabled account? ) Other than that, he introduced me to his colleagues, friends and we haven’t had sex yet. We meet twice a week once on wed once on sunday ( i am a v and I told him I wanted to wait until we are bf/gf) Is he really serious about me? I am not happy with our current amount of communication should I bring it up or wait for him to be more passionate in me? I feel he is very calm about me, we never have the honey moon phase, I don’t really have confidence in us. Maybe I should end things?
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 (edited) If it doesn't feel right then it's not. End it. Been there hun, I dumped my ex after 3 weeks....wasn't feeling it from him. I don't blame you...you want passion and romance, honesty, love. You deserve better than this guy. Edited November 5, 2016 by smackie9 5
hippychick3 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 If he's seeing you only on Wednesday and Sunday, who is he seeing on Friday and Saturday? I think that's the question you should be asking. I somehow think the answer is connected to his phone privacy comment. I suspect he wouldn't want you to find the answer on his phone. 3
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 If he's seeing you only on Wednesday and Sunday, who is he seeing on Friday and Saturday? I think that's the question you should be asking. I somehow think the answer is connected to his phone privacy comment. I suspect he wouldn't want you to find the answer on his phone. This was my thought too.....possible multi dater, seeing someone else like a FWB, has a new dating profile with new user name, etc.
Author baba999 Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Hi, I met this 28M guy online two month ago, we dated 14times, probably 6hours each. And yesterday he asked me to be his girlfriend and I said yes. But I am not happy and I don’t feel like I am his girlfriend. 1. He only text me once at 10pm, just how was your day and it ends pretty quickly, never good morning or good night text. 2. I sometimes sent him kiss emoji but he never reply to those emoji. I think he should send one kiss back?! And one time we are cooking together, I said ” wow we really look like old couple now.” He didn’t say anything and changed the subject. 3. After he asked me to his girlfriend like 2 minutes, He said he didn’t like his girlfriend look into his phone, cuz if he was planning some surprise it will ruin the fun. But for wife he can share his phone.I found it weird because I never looked his phone and didn’t bring up asking his passcode, himself bringing it up makes it strange. 4. We met online. He disabled his account. After He asked me to be his girlfriend I said you should delete your profile. He said he was working on the same messaging app he wanted to learn how dating apps work (That is unreasonable because once you disable the account, if you log in again it will be active, how can you test with a disabled account? ) Other than that, he introduced me to his colleagues, friends and we haven’t had sex yet. We meet twice a week once on wed once on sunday ( i am a v and I told him I wanted to wait until we are bf/gf) Is he really serious about me? I am not happy with our current amount of communication should I bring it up or wait for him to be more passionate in me? I feel he is very calm about me, we never have the honey moon phase, I don’t really have confidence in us. Maybe I should end things? I called him and told him, he said he would let me see his phone because I am more important. He said he was saying that because he was always checking his gf's phone before and had some bad experience. He also said he would delete his dating apps,he felt kinda weird for him too. I asked him to add our relationship on fb and he agreed.
morrowrd Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Usually in the beginning, you can't keep your eyes or hands off each other. You were right about being an "old couple." How badly do you want to keep this relationship?
fallen_star87 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 I agree if it doesn't feel right you should move on. Try not to analyse his behaviour too much.
mushroomlol Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Talk to him about all your concerns first. Be upfront and direct. Tell him what makes you happy and what not. But usually if it doesn't feel right at the very beginning, it just won't work.
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