joseb Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 OP, you need to follow through and break up with her. She has serious issues and you can't fix them. Do it soon before your own mental health deteriorate
CommittedToThis Posted November 19, 2016 Posted November 19, 2016 Do you think her parents know of this behaviour? She is the last of 9 kids and there is a 6 year gap I think from the 8th I would wager her parents are well aware of her shortcomings. Personality disorders often stem from childhood neglect or abuse; I wonder if your gf, as the youngest child and so far apart from the next, was left to her own devices growing up? Maybe Mom wasn't so attentive early on? Just a wild guess. As a survivor of a 9-year interaction with an undiagnosed Narcissistic Personality Disorder ex-girlfriend, all I can suggest is Googling "narcissistic cycle of abuse" and see if your relationship fits the bill. I saw red flags within the first 3 months and failed to hold my resolve to leave her, got "hoovered" ie. sucked back in by her and the next 9 years were a living hell. If you see traits of B or NPD, I suggest getting out now, and studying the red flags so you can see them more quickly next time out. There is no way of knowing someone has a personality disorder (unless they're flat-out crazy) right off the bat, it takes time for their "love bombing" phase to come to a close so they can move on to the devaluation phase. Then the fun begins! It's f'in brutal, trust me. All the best. 1
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