edelveis Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Hello everyone.I will try to be brief.So i met this cute chinese girl through a common friend.We are both students in London.I asked her out and she accepted.We both had a great night and it was obvious.the day after the date i went back to my country for 10 days and we were staying in touch till i get back to meet again.So i came back and we were talking at the phone yesterday and i proposed her to meet for a drink tonight but she insisted on going to the movies so i accepted.i was in a hurry so we said that we would talk today about the details.i texted her this morning but i got no answer till now.it was really unexpected and do not know what to do.should i send her something,if yes what?or should i stay silent until she gets back with something? Also do anybody of you knows if asian girls have a different culture while dating?i mean would they text first or they are too closed?any advices and help would be much appreciated
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Did you talk about what time you'd meet? What time is it where you're at?
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 If I were you I'd try to call her and if she doesn't pick up leave her a message. Don't conclude she is disappearing yet, maybe she had an emergency. As for cultural difference in dating it depends, is she first generation immigrant to London or she was born there?
Author edelveis Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 we did not discuss about exact time.we said that we will be in touch.but today she dissapeared but i saw she was online in facebook and posted in instagram.what can i assume?it was all so sudden!
smackie9 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 If it's tonight now, call her. If she doesn't answer, it's a blow off....she flaked on you. Next! Even if a time wasn't set, she did agree to a movie with you. 1
rester Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 It's 11:30pm in London. I wouldn't contact her again.
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 we did not discuss about exact time.we said that we will be in touch.but today she dissapeared but i saw she was online in facebook and posted in instagram.what can i assume?it was all so sudden! Yes I am afraid she is doing a disappearing act. Sorry, it really sucks.
Author edelveis Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 i must add one more thing.she is too insecure a person and i think that she feels insecure with me too.for some reason i can not understand she thinks i am womanizer or that many women want me or that i am always up for meeting new women.last night at the phone call she was kinda jealous of a chinese co student that i have.i refered her and after that she said that i she might fancy me and then she went cold and was texting less.should i try and find her to talk with her at her school or she will get scared or feels weird?the thing is i am a man and i like clear words.
Author edelveis Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 okay i guess it is the truth and have to accept it.should i say something to her before i delete her from everywhere?something like okay u could have told me i wouldnt pressurre you to meet me.
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 okay i guess it is the truth and have to accept it.should i say something to her before i delete her from everywhere?something like okay u could have told me i wouldnt pressurre you to meet me. No, she knows she should have said something but she was too weak to go down the road of integrity. She is not worth your time. Find someone at your level.
smackie9 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 okay i guess it is the truth and have to accept it.should i say something to her before i delete her from everywhere?something like okay u could have told me i wouldnt pressurre you to meet me. You say and do nothing. If you do you will look like a butt hurt sore loser. I know you are very tempted to make one last ditch effort to contact her in hopes you were wrong, but she is not worth your time. 1
Author edelveis Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 the thing is she didnt show me signs of dissappearing!she was often texting me when i am coming back to london and sometimes i wanted to see if she was going to text first and she did.i do not know what went wrong.the thing is it is very hard for me to get into someone.really hard.and this girl got me into her.
Gaeta Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 You say and do nothing. If you do you will look like a butt hurt sore loser. I know you are very tempted to make one last ditch effort to contact her in hopes you were wrong, but she is not worth your time. Exactly, don't say anything. If you say something you will burn your bridges. If for what ever reason she gets back to you then evaluate the situation there and then. 1
dumbass2 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 agree with the others. Let her contact you if she wants and just go about your business right now assuming she wont get back to you and if she contacts you can asses it at the time. 1
phineas Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 Also, say nothing to the friend who introduced you unless he asks. Then just tell him "we had a date planned but she ghosted on me" act like it is no big deal and your life isn't affected one way or the other. 1
Author edelveis Posted November 10, 2016 Author Posted November 10, 2016 Hello everyone i have an update.is sent her nothing and on monday night she texted.she sent me a video of her work since she is an animator.i was very cold and i didnt write her much but i played it cool.today she texted me again sending me a video again.what do you think she wants?
dumbass2 Posted November 11, 2016 Posted November 11, 2016 I don't think anyone on her is going to know. Why don't you ask her?
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