Author frus69 Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Ever fart in the same room with your S.O.? lol and get a good laugh? I can't fart in front of him and probably never will He farts in from the of me whenever he wants. Definitely not shy about that
Nightwriter Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Hmm, . Are you asking to gauge whether this is a societal norm or asking how to deal with it with him? Because even if everyone says they poo in front of their partners, what's more important is whether it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you're not okay with it, you should address it regardless of what others do. If you are okay with it, let him blast away. And is this just one isolated boundary difference or is it indicative of other differences between the two of you?
Author frus69 Posted November 6, 2016 Author Posted November 6, 2016 Hmm, . Are you asking to gauge whether this is a societal norm or asking how to deal with it with him? Because even if everyone says they poo in front of their partners, what's more important is whether it makes you feel uncomfortable. If you're not okay with it, you should address it regardless of what others do. If you are okay with it, let him blast away. And is this just one isolated boundary difference or is it indicative of other differences between the two of you? I guess I wanna know if it's norm. And whether he was doing it intentionally or something There aren't that many differences. Pretty much only this one. He can fart and piss and now poop in front of me very comfortably 1
dreamingoftigers Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 I have kind of the opposite issue. I was raised by a claustrophobic mom who would leave the door open. I don't do that, but I don't lock it. Locking it is a little too much for me. But my husband (until maybe last year) would just WALK IN. And I don't mean "oh oops, I guess you're in here." I mean "oh hey, did you hear about blahblah on CNN today?" Right when I am mid-evacuation. And I would be like "you see I'm on the toilet, what the heck?" And he would always say "then lock the door." My three year-old started popping in. And I'd have to tell her, "give me space in the washroom" and she would get really upset. The day I locked the door they both got really upset. And I wondered what aliens I was living with. My daughter gives me full space in the washroom. Our current upstairs bathroom doesn't fully close (I know). I just the door shut as much as possible during the day. If it is open a crack, my husband will still try to converse with me. But he'll leave me fully alone if I tell him to be me space or that I'll talk to him when I'm done. It's not like it's "every time" or whatever. But it really does bother me and I am SO GLAD that I'm not alone in expecting space to use the toilet!
jen1447 Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 ^ I'm kinda like your mom in that I want the door open, tho it's not claustrophobia. It's just one of those things. I actually feel kinda uncomfortable in places that I can't just have the door open like work lol. My cat's the only one who regularly comes in and watches me btw.
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