frus69 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 This morning I was in the toilet doing makeup where he very casually walked in and sit on the toilet and started to take number 2. Didn't say anything to me about it either. We are together for almost a year now so is this just him being so comfortable now? But I believe to many people it's disgusting seeing other poop so doesn't he worry it will turn me off? I don't know...is he deliberately trying to put me off or something? Although I don't know why he would want to do it.... What do you guys think of pooping in front of your SO?
RecentChange Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 NOPE. Been together 15 years, there are some things that do not need shared! 11
Herbalist Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Most people don't defecate in front of each other no matter how many years they have been together. For a very small percentage of people it's either a mutual kink they share or they really are comfortable with it, but in both cases it's something that is discussed beforehand. Like you make sure your partner is chill with it first. If you don't like it then speak up and tell him not to do it again. 1
basil67 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I doubt he's deliberately trying to put you off. This is his comfort level. That said, I doubt many people share the same level of comfort as him! He didn't say anything to you about it? I hope you said something to him.
kendahke Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 That's taking it a little bit too far. There are somethings which need to remain a mystery and that's one of them. 1
ChickiePops Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Eww..time to put a new lock on the bathroom door... 1
Art_Critic Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I'd bet he was just testing a boundary... I think there are some things you don't share and that is one of them.. my wife and I have been married 9+ years and be damned if she would go to the bathroom in front of me or even allow me to do it, I'd bet she would leave the bathroom if I pulled something like that, too many it would be rude unless your relationship already has that barrier broken.
eightytwenty Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I would seriously say wtf.... Now given. The fiance farts all the time and will walk in and pee sometimes but not sit on the pot. I've walked by where he didn't shut the door all the way and it came open. Of course not knowing the door was open I would walk by.. But he would never sit on the pot to go in front of me. Eww
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Some couples are like that. The guy gets in the washroom and sit on the toilet while she is taking a bath and they both chitchat while he's doing his business. Personally not my thing but apparently for some couples it's no big deal.
phineas Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 hi protien diet here......yeah i would only subject a woman I wanted to get rid of to THAT.
Author frus69 Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 hi protien diet here......yeah i would only subject a woman I wanted to get rid of to THAT. Well I hope that's not the case here
preraph Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 If you don't tell him NO right now and loudly, he will always do this. Best way is really just to stop him loudly the next time he tries it -- "OH, NO, HUH-UH, WE'RE NOT DOING THIS AGAIN," slam the door.
dumbass2 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Yep, put up that boundary now with him and don't let him pass it again if it is something that really bugs you. Say nothing and he'll probably keep doing it. You saying nothing would be giving him the thumbs up that it's okay.
smackie9 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 What is wrong with you! Say something for f sakes lol. What....you just stood there continuing fixing your mascara???? You should have protested right then and there and walked out in disgust. Have a discussion with him now. My husband of 26 years won't even pee in front of me. So NO we do NOT poop in front of each other (I'm laughing so hard right now!) 4
Haydn Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 I prefer having an `Evacuation` alone. As does she.. Gives me a chance to read all the labels on the cleaning products. We have 2 bathrooms, when the kids were younger, They`d barge in and settle down for a `Dump` whilst i was plucking my lengthier nostril hairs.... But not now. If i knock on the door and say `School!` It`s almost like a Portcullis has gone up. But OP, no i like to `Release a chocolate hostage` Alone. 3
Author frus69 Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 What is wrong with you! Say something for f sakes lol. What....you just stood there continuing fixing your mascara???? You should have protested right then and there and walked out in disgust. Have a discussion with him now. My husband of 26 years won't even pee in front of me. So NO we do NOT poop in front of each other (I'm laughing so hard right now!) I didn't stay there, I "ran away" lol I didn't say anything then, I was too embarrassed to mention it... Later I "jokingly " mentioned how he " accidentally pooped in front of me " and he kinda just laughed. I don't know if he will do it again, I never happened to be there again . But now he would walk into toilet without ever closing the door.
Els Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Yeah, no. We do a lot of things in front of one another... poop is not one of them!
Space Ritual Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 If you are so offended pay him back in his own coin and wait til he falls asleep on the couch and proceed to give him a Jamaican Mudslide. 1
No_Go Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 I didn't stay there, I "ran away" lol I didn't say anything then, I was too embarrassed to mention it... Later I "jokingly " mentioned how he " accidentally pooped in front of me " and he kinda just laughed. I don't know if he will do it again, I never happened to be there again . But now he would walk into toilet without ever closing the door. Eh maybe he had an emergency? I find it weird if he's doing it intentionally though. I had a BF that did that super early on. He'll also shower with me daily etc. He turned to be a conman. Later he explained to me these were tactics to create an image of intimacy ... Yeah. He was intentional about it. 1
persephone28 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Don't be ridiculous, of course he's not doing it intentionally!! Unless he's mentally ill?? As for whether this is normal - everyone's different. If you don't like it just tell him. It doesn't have to be a big thing. If it was me I would just say something next time he tried to do it, in a sort of lighthearted way. Something like, 'ewwww!! what are you doing?!' I don't see what the big deal is.
elaine567 Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 I had a BF that did that super early on. He'll also shower with me daily etc. He turned to be a conman. Later he explained to me these were tactics to create an image of intimacy ... Yeah. He was intentional about it. He pushed your boundaries early on, to see just what he could get away with. Once he knew what you would or would not tolerate, then he could decide whether you were a suitable "victim" or not. 2
amaysngrace Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Maybe he's seeing if you're worth marrying and will wipe his ass when he no longer can? 4
Els Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 He'll also shower with me daily etc. IMO showering together is totally fine and VERY different from taking a poop in front of each other! 4
LookAtThisPOst Posted November 5, 2016 Posted November 5, 2016 Ever fart in the same room with your S.O.? lol and get a good laugh?
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