Air20 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Hi, I'm a guy. I've been part of a gay drama group at uni for a few weeks. In the first week, there was a guy who I liked, guy A. He's about ten years older than me. That evening, we went to watch a match together, just as a friends thing. After going out drinking, we ended up at his, we kissed a bit and cuddled, but didn't do anything more. We were then texting a bit over the week. I suggested meeting last weekend, again just as a friends thing, we went to Bournemouth for a few hours, had a few drinks. We get on quite well, but I'm not sure if I want to go further, if he wants that. He suggested going for another drink, and in texts has been saying things like 'had a wonderful time with you etc.'. He's a nice guy, but haven't felt as attracted to him like the first time we met at the drama group. However, there's another guy at the drama group I like, and I think he may like me. He was keen for me to go out with him and his friends one night. I know it's early days, and that doesn't necessarily mean he likes me in that way. This is guy B. He's closer in age to me. I want to ask him out, and go on a date with him. However, I've already been on 2 'dates' with guy A. If guy A did ask me out, I'm not sure if I'd be willing to give it a go, or just say would rather be friends. But what if he's not happy with that? He might be seeing the 'dates' we've had as leading onto something else, not just social things we've done as friends. It's awkward because both guys are in the drama group. And what if guy B doesn't actually like me? Then I could end up with neither. I want to still suggest meeting up with guy A anyway, as we get on well as friends. I'm really torn with what to do Any advice/thoughts would be greatly appreciated, thanks P.s Never had a long term boyfriend, really want one, but don't want to rush into it, or just be with someone for the sake of being with someone. Also there's a part of me that doesn't like the idea of committing to a relationship, because I think that there always would be someone else out there who'd be more suited to me, who I'd be more attracted to etc.
CO_Dad Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 If you are questioning why you are with A when B is more appealing, then don't bother with A. You may indeed end up with neither, which is a far cry better than settling for A and then regretting it later.
smackie9 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 (edited) Go with guy B. Guy A could be fishing for something that is way too serious for you. Guy B sounds like he would be more fun to hang out with. If it doesn't work out, who cares, there will be plenty of other guys to like in your future. Edited November 4, 2016 by smackie9 1
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