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Hi, I am planning on trying out online dating and I wanted to hear from maybe some of you who have tried it. How important are looks to you when you are searching? Also, can the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty within everyone’s profile? Thank you!

leogirl876 Established Member

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With OLD, looks are very important because it's the first thing people see, so you need to really sell yourself in your profile. And a lot of people present something other than what or who they are. People tend to lie or embellish things a lot on OLD. I've met men that their pics on OLD were much older pics or they'll lie about their height or income. I've had guys tell me women they meet on OLD lie about their age, saying they said they were 30 instead of 40 because they really feel like they're 30. I think it's better to just be honest.

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TheTraveler Established Member

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Looks mean everything to me.

-male

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smackie9 Established Member

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of course looks matter BUT what some find attractive, others will not. As I always say you are attracted to what you are attracted to.

 

You are trying to sell yourself in a market of many others, so you need to put your best foot forward and look your best. Nicely dressed, and proper grooming, a photo of you smiling, show a positive attitude in your profile. Keep it simple. People don't need a novel.

 

As for dishonesty....you are dealing with the public on a free site.....you are going to get all kinds of garbage. It's the nature of the beast.

 

If you have trouble dating in real life, on line dating will not be the magic bullet you are looking for.

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TheTraveler Established Member

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If you have trouble dating in real life, on line dating will not be the magic bullet you are looking for.

 

magic bullet? No...but, it will open himself to more opportunities than he has now.

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JoeSmith357-1 Established Member

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Looks are important, within reason. I mean at some level, you HAVE to be physically attracted to someone. I mean, at my worst, I tried being with a couple really ugly girls when I was just desperate to get laid, and the equipment just didn't work well, to say the least.

 

So if she's a 10/10 on personality and a 1/10 in the looks department, that's just not happening

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smackie9 Established Member

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magic bullet? No...but, it will open himself to more opportunities than he has now.

 

 

It doesn't improve what happens on the first date......

Larryville Established Member

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an the image that people present of themselves be trusted or should it be accepted that there will be a certain amount of dishonesty

 

I work in a kind of museum and we have a congressional archive portion. Years ago they did a lecture on “photographic segmenting” kinda of a tactic to determine the age of photographs and identifying objects in a photograph.

 

When I look at photos to this day I employ this technique. It is basically segmenting the photograph into portions and paying attention to the ENTIRE photograph instead of just the face.

 

If a woman (in my case) takes a pic and I see, dirty dishes, clothes on the floor, outdated electronics, furniture, hairstyle, old car, decorations literally anything regardless of what her face looks like I discard.

 

If someone is trying to sell themselves and is not aware of their surroundings (to ME) she is not being serious, and I believe folks should pay closer attention to these things to keep from being disappointed or misled.

 

YES, your truly is an OCD freak, not saying you should be this anal but I do believe that when you pay attention to the little things (profile language), makes OLD more effective, keeps folks from wasting time and MONEY!

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TheTraveler Established Member

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It doesn't improve what happens on the first date......

 

What if the op has zero dates and by joining online dating, he's able to secure a first date?

Herbalist Established Member

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of course looks matter BUT what some find attractive, others will not. As I always say you are attracted to what you are attracted to.

 

 

Very much this. Seems many people confuse "looks are important" with "only conventionally attractive people stand a chance". The first is very true but the second is bologna. The example I have often given to try to explain is that I like short men, it is one of my "things" and yet a lot of men will automatically interpret "looks matter" as "I'm screwed if I'm short". Like yeah no, looks matter which means that if you are really tall I probably won't be attracted to you so go forth with confidence as your 5'2" self because I'm far from the only woman with that taste.

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TheTraveler Established Member

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Very much this. Seems many people confuse "looks are important" with "only conventionally attractive people stand a chance". The first is very true but the second is bologna. The example I have often given to try to explain is that I like short men, it is one of my "things" and yet a lot of men will automatically interpret "looks matter" as "I'm screwed if I'm short". Like yeah no, looks matter which means that if you are really tall I probably won't be attracted to you so go forth with confidence as your 5'2" self because I'm far from the only woman with that taste.

 

So you're attracted to short men which is totally fine. What if the man is short, ugly, but confident? The last you cannot determine via online. That happens in person.

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Looks are important, within reason. I mean at some level, you HAVE to be physically attracted to someone. I mean, at my worst, I tried being with a couple really ugly girls when I was just desperate to get laid, and the equipment just didn't work well, to say the least.

 

So if she's a 10/10 on personality and a 1/10 in the looks department, that's just not happening

 

What makes someone a 1/10 looks wise?

Fair Established Member

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You have a male username but under gender it says "prefer not to say". maybe I'm being obtuse but why don't people want to reveal their gender on an anonymous site like this one?

 

I'm going to assume you are male, in which case you have a leg up. Women who are serious about finding a mate ... and take note I said "serious" about it... care more about what kind of a person you are than about how you look. As long as you look respectable the serious daters will give you a chance.

 

Men, on the other hand, want the whole package even if they themselves are lacking in looks. But then... I once met a man on a dating site who concluded I wasn't thin enough because I was a size 10 and not an 8, only to turn around and marry a woman who is at least 250 lbs! :lmao:

 

So... I guess there's no telling what you're going to get. It works out for some but if you're looking for quality... it's not going to be any easier than it is in real life..

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GustavoWoltmann New Member

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Looks are very important. Before dating and after Of course its important that you look nice to everyone especially if you are with your significant other.

 

Regards,

Gustavo Woltmann

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