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Am I stuck in the Friend Zone forever?


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I have known this girl since college...2007...so a long time. We are really good friends. Now live in the same city. Always go to Sporting events together..meet for dinners here and there ect. But never in a sexual way or anything like that..just friends.

 

This past weekend we took a road trip to a sporting event in another state and stayed overnight. Everything was fine..like we were just friends. But i came back from the trip feeling different..like i want more.

 

But i don't want to risk making this awkward or anything and ruin going to these events or dinners or talking sports if i try and take it to the next level. So i am afraid i am forever in that zone...would you agree?

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What is the banter between you like? For example, does she discuss any interest in other guys with you? If so, you are definitely in the friend zone.

 

My take on what you have posted thus far is that she is comfortable with you, as a friend...just good-natured, lighthearted, fun.

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Why aren't you spending your time on other women instead? You are pretty much dating your friend, but one problem....you are not getting laid.

 

Sure go ahead and ask her if she is interested in dating, so what if your friendship wanes....at least you will finally be able on focus on finding a GF. You are not going to find one being so emotionally attached to her. So either you go for it, or you cut back and move on.

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Why aren't you spending your time on other women instead? You are pretty much dating your friend, but one problem....you are not getting laid.

 

Sure go ahead and ask her if she is interested in dating, so what if your friendship wanes....at least you will finally be able on focus on finding a GF. You are not going to find one being so emotionally attached to her. So either you go for it, or you cut back and move on.

 

I haven't been emotionally attached..when i came back Sunday night..that's the first time since i met her in 2007..i felt different about her.

 

The Banter....we were talking on our 6.5 hour drive how she is done with dating..how hard and just sucky it is and i completely agree 100% with her in that. Just a quick conversation. She hasn't been in a relationship since about 2013. She is picky..(that how i am)

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Just tell her how you feel,,,,,see where it gets you.

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The Banter....we were talking on our 6.5 hour drive how she is done with dating..how hard and just sucky it is and i completely agree 100% with her in that. Just a quick conversation. She hasn't been in a relationship since about 2013. She is picky..(that how i am)

 

Okay. IMO, no matter how brief the conversation, she was dropping the "not interested in dating you so please don't ask" bomb as subtly as possible.

 

Btw, was this the first overnight event you have attended together?

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You've been friends with her 9 years, and all of the sudden you want to stick your penis in her?

 

This won't end well.

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