Sagseason Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I started a temp with the railroad earlier this year. In July, the foreman made his attraction known to me by starting his day at my crossing, eating his lunch with me, sitting beside me at the crossing but never saying anything and he would chase other male workers away who would get off the machines to chat while they were in que. Again he would usually not say anything and although I like him too, I didn't want to seem needy so I would wait for him to take the lead including asking for my number. He never would ask for my number so we'd often just sit in silence or he would come by with other foremen and he would talk to me then. This went on all summer until I left in September. I ran into a former coworker and heard that he'd been asking about me. I was in the area today and stopped in to see him. Everybody was glad to see me and one of the workers took me to him. He froze when he saw me and wouldn't let my hand go when I shook his. I made general conversation with him and the other workers and saw him just staring at me the whole time. I pulled him to the side as I was leaving and gave him my number but he hasn't called me yet. I know it's only the first day that he's had my number but I thought he'd call me later tonight but it's late night now. What do you guys think of the situation? I'd also like to mention that he's a large man that some say is not attractive but I'm more interested in his heart. I said that to say that he may be struggling with self esteem issues but I'm no expert. That's why I'm here asking for you guy's opinion . I want to talk to him/get to know him, but I think I've done all I can do. What do you guys think?
Author Sagseason Posted November 5, 2016 Author Posted November 5, 2016 Welp day 2 and still nothing. I think that if someone wants you then they will make time for you even if it's a simple phone call. This is why I didn't feel quite right about this and posted about it here last night. I'm wondering now if it was all an act. But it doesn't make sense to draw other people into it. He would show up with other foremen and then walk away. They would call him back over telling him to get his ___ over there to talk to me since that's what he wanted. In other words, he let it be known that he was attracted to me and we all tried to help him in his pursuit including me. I thought he behaved like this because of self esteem issues based on his size and looks. People call him names behind his back but I still think beauty starts within and those who make fun of others are actually the ugly ones. Looks aside, the only problem I had with him was that I got the sense that he was controlling by chasing away others who stopped by to talk to me. This one time I was talking to a 60+ year old happily married man and he came out of nowhere and got in that man's face for no reason. He's done that almosy everytime he's seen someone talking to me. The last time it happened I got upset with him but didn't get a chance to talk with him about it before my temp contract ended. I was hoping to talk with him about it now but I don't have a choice but to let the whole thing go now. Who knows perhaps I dodged a bullet. What are your thoughts? In closing, I don't date much and am thinking maybe it's loneliness that lead me to step out on a limb like this, but I'm feeling really foolish for going to see him and will never do that with anyone again. I appreciate you guys listening and for any feedback or light that you can shed on the situation. Thanks again sagseason
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