chaosmedia10 Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 (edited) Hello my girlfriend broke up with me about 10 days ago, i want to mention that she is 18 years old and i am 20 years , in our native country everything was okay, we were dating for about 6 months , but soon as we moved in another country to study together at the same university , but not living together ( she is living with a polish girl) and me with a danish guy , because her father didn't permitted her to live with me yet, she came here with her parents , soon after her parents went in their country , she became distant to me , she was texting me not so often as in our native country , i tried to support her with everything i could because i know that it is not easy for her to live alone and far away from home , but nothing worked , after some days i decided to speak with her what went wrong in our relationship ,she said that nothing.. 2 days passed.. i began to be clingy always asking her why she doesnt respond etc...after that i went to her room and we began to watch a movie , everything was okay , cuddling and kissing , but after that day she again became to be more distant and the day after i said to her .. if she want for us to continue our relationship everything should be like in our native country( i mean our connection) but that didnt worked, she didnt even said a word , she just said ,, we will talk about that tomorrow" .. 1 day passed without contact ..and i wrote to her what she was doing etc and i just clicked on emoticon( kiss one) and she just told me.. ,, i dont you to be sad on me . but i am not ready to have a serious relationship with someone, i respect you and especially i respect the education your parents gave to you , because nowadays there are small amount of people with ,,nice" qualities, but i feel like child who doesnt know what i need.., and i know if i will say let's be friends it will not be like that , you will not talk to me, but i dont know.. maybe after some time i will regret that , maybe not , maybe we will talk, maybe not , but.. until i will understand what i want , i want just to be friends", i acted like a ****.. telling her that we was for so much time together and that we came together abroad to study..bla bla bla.... and in the end i just told her bye , went 5 days no contact with her.. and i dont know i decided to go to her room to speak with her .. and i regret that.. she made me a tea and i tried to talk again with her about our relationship... she was not happy that i came to her , obviously, and i asked her ,, you want me to leave you alone? " she didnt said anything but ,, how do you want" , and then i asked again she said ,, yes for now" and i told her if our relationship ends now , it will end definitively and she just said .. ok , i said bye and went out .. the thing is that i see her almost everyday at university , we are in the same class, i didnt chatted with her personally for about 4 days, please tell me what to do ... i really want to her back , should i go just no contact? to see if she will write or initiate contact to me first.. thanks Edited November 3, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator
MsJayne Posted September 9, 2016 Posted September 9, 2016 She's in a new place away from her parents and sounds to me like she would like her freedom, but she cares about you very much and doesn't want to hurt your feelings or lose your friendship. I would say let her go and try to get on with your life. Maybe try to meet other people and form new friendships while you're young and have great opportunities. Best thing to do is just leave her alone, if she wants to come back to you she will.
Author chaosmedia10 Posted November 3, 2016 Author Posted November 3, 2016 Hello. my ex girlfriend dumped me about 2 months ago, 3 weeks o begging etc , i went No contact, for about a month , some days ago i was to a birthday where she was too , i am her first boyfriend , she pretended like i didnt exist, i drunk a bit and then i dont know why i wrote her a message( no insulting) taht she changed and that she is not the person i knew , she got angry and told me that i should bad mouthing her or tell others what has been between us, and that she got bored of guys telling her ,, story'' i told them about , i know .. i did a huge mistake yes, i told 2-3 guys about what has happened between us , i promised her in the end that she will not hear any more stories about her and she told me ,, i hope" , we are in the same university , same class , she pretend like i dont exist anymore, what should i do? just to went straight no contact forever?
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