tomtheman1234 Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 I get on well with this girl I am in a samba drumming band with. We have lots in common and she is really cool. I joined the band in April she has been in the band a few years. Any ideas would be great. 1
Satu Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Invite her to something definite, rather than to 'hang out.' "Would you like to go/see/do x with me, on y evening?" Don't be vague, lest you get a vague reply. Take care. 2
Standard-Fare Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Do you already have her number? Or other ways to contact her directly (i.e. social media)? If so, yeah, I think you should go ahead and pull the trigger. You don't have to be like, "I have a crush on you and I'm interested in dating you." Either find an event you both might enjoy and ask her to attend with you, or if that's not happening just ask her out for a drink. 1
Author tomtheman1234 Posted November 3, 2016 Author Posted November 3, 2016 Lost her number. But we are Facebook friends. She is a few years older than me. Wonder if that's a problem or next her her. 1
Satu Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Lost her number. But we are Facebook friends. She is a few years older than me. Wonder if that's a problem or next her her. A "few years" don't matter much if there's compatibility.
smackie9 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 So what happens if you get rejected? You want that awkward vibe? What if you did date and she dumped you? How would you feel when you two had to see each other after? or you end up seeing her with another guy? These are things you need to think about if you are both are permanent members of a group.
mbee Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Lost her number. But we are Facebook friends. She is a few years older than me. Wonder if that's a problem or next her her. Non issue, especially when you meet in person. My current boyfriend is 4 years younger. If we'd met online it would NOT happen cause I wouldn't even have given him a chance. Met in person and didn't know his age until we became Facebook friends. Compatibility is far more important than age. Yep, invite her to an event with you, that way it's low pressure if the romance doesn't spark. Make sure to pay for her so she knows your intentions, otherwise she might get confused if you like her as a friend or not.
Author tomtheman1234 Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 (edited) I dated a girl who was a single mum and she just dumped me after going out for a month. As she said she could not give me what I wanted as she was so busy. With family and work. But I have to keep trying in the dating game until I find my Miss right. You are right that if she dose not want to date me it could be awkward that's why I have chickens out until now. Then I text to say hi on Facebook and she replied with a really sweet text saying how she and her 17 year old daughter were just chatting about how loverly I am. As we have lots in common I thought why not give it a try. Edited November 4, 2016 by tomtheman1234
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