dumped2013 Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 I'm a guy that has been divorced for 3 years, in my 50's, done the OLD and that is up and down. I have not dated in 20 years and I'm really trying to figure out how to do it again. Anyway this beautiful girl walked into my office in early August trying to sell us an ad in a magazine. I usually hide from sales people but when I saw her I got up and talked to her. She left her card and a few hours later I sent her a friend request on FB and she accepted. She is also in her early 50's. We have been texting daily for 3 months. 3 MONTHS. She won't talk on the phone. Just text. I have invited her to dinner but she is involved in a hobby that involves weekends. That is now over for the season. She acts like she would now like to get together at some point but always has an excuse. I have gone NC and that usually lasts 24 hours and she will start texting again. This is one of the few girls I have been interested in the last 3 years. I'm totally attracted to her. My question for y'all is this normal to only text and not talk on the phone? I'm talking about some days texting for hours. Does she just want a pen pal? I'm confused.
VeveCakes Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Ask her out - with a specific place and date. If she cant make it try and reschedule and if she can't make that, forget it. Don't bother keeping texting. She might have a bf? 1
hippychick3 Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Sorry, OP. She's clearly in a relationship with someone else. There's no other reason to keep you as strictly a pen pal/ego boost. 4
spiderowl Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Sounds like she likes you, thinks you are a nice guy, but is not sure about/doesn't want to date. She would have been more encouraging by now if she did. Sorry. 1
Gaeta Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 What a waste of your time. Why did you entertain this for 3 months? Block and delete her number. What ever are her excuses or reasons they are not worthy of a 50 something woman. Shameful. You'd think at that age she's done playing games. 1
Methodical Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Sounds like she gets off on flirtatious attention and probably has a significant other, which is why she'll only text. Most sales reps. make themselves easily accessible to clients and potential clients so it would be easy for her to pass off the constant texts as work related w/o drawing much, if any, suspicion. Plus, texts can be deleted. If you purchased an ad, she wants to maintain good relations for future sales. If not, she wants to gain your business. Either way, it is her job to sell herself, so to speak. 3
TheTraveler Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 What a waste of your time. Why did you entertain this for 3 months? Block and delete her number. What ever are her excuses or reasons they are not worthy of a 50 something woman. Shameful. You'd think at that age she's done playing games. You blame her? He's the one who picks up the business card, stalks her on fb, texts every moment he can.
TheTraveler Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 Sounds like she gets off on flirtatious attention and probably has a significant other, which is why she'll only text. Most sales reps. make themselves easily accessible to clients and potential clients so it would be easy for her to pass off the constant texts as work related w/o drawing much, if any, suspicion. Plus, texts can be deleted. If you purchased an ad, she wants to maintain good relations for future sales. If not, she wants to gain your business. Either way, it is her job to sell herself, so to speak. Yep. OP wants more. She is just friendly and wants a sale.
Author dumped2013 Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 You blame her? He's the one who picks up the business card, stalks her on fb, texts every moment he can. She's the one that is constantly starting up the texting. Not me. Morning, afternoon, evening. I have seen no signs that she has anyone. Spends time at home and with her 3 horses.
JoeSmith357-1 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 It's possible she is really unattractive or overweight and self conscious about it.
Author dumped2013 Posted November 4, 2016 Author Posted November 4, 2016 It's possible she is really unattractive or overweight and self conscious about it. No, she is smoking hot.
JoeSmith357-1 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 No, she is smoking hot. Then she's probably dating like 5 other dudes... at the same time
mortensorchid Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 3 MONTHS you have been chatting EVERYDAY and you STILL have not gone out? Sorry guy, whatever the case may be she is not that interested in you. She just has a texting buddy. It's a waste of time, move on. 1
VeveCakes Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 She's the one that is constantly starting up the texting. Not me. Morning, afternoon, evening. I have seen no signs that she has anyone. Spends time at home and with her 3 horses. I have to laugh at this...cause Im sure guys think this about me too when I am dating a few people right now casually... I am always at home with my 5 horses...but I rarely spend the night hanging out alone after they are put to bed
Miss Peach Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I had a guy recently try to do this with me. Have you asked her out OP with a date and place? If she made an excuse to that then you're just an orbiter and I would block her.
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