mustangsally Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 I honestly wonder how guys do this. My ex obviously isn't over me and jumped to another girl for a little bit and then dumped her.... Like WTF? How can you be with another girl if you still have feelings for another. He claimed to me he had moved on in 2-3 weeks of us breaking up when he got with this girl (and i was his first love, thought he was going to marry me, etc)...and then never acted like he was moved on or even that into the new girl...like ever. He told me he's never rebounded before and its always taken him a long time to get over girls who were crushes and he knew it would take a long time to get over me because I was his first love, first everything really. But how do guys do this? I can't be with someone if I have feelings for someone else...AT ALL. maybe he and new girl didn't have a real relationship because now she's with someone new and was a couple of days after their breakup. Ugh, so who knows. How can males do this? Its pretty much been affirmed to me by several different people that they actually can. Does it really dull the pain?
J dub Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Originally posted by mustangsally Does it really dull the pain? No, its a temporary fix for them. They think it will "release" their emotions and allow them to let go, unfortunately its usually not the case and it ends up biting them in the a$$ later because they STILL cant get rid of those feelings. Point blank, there is no easy fix to a break up. You have to work thru the emotional process in its entirety, otherwise it will come back to haunt you. If there WAS an easy way of getting past the suck factor of it all, this forum probably wouldnt exist
alphamale Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Originally posted by mustangsally How can males do this? Its pretty much been affirmed to me by several different people that they actually can. Does it really dull the pain? The male brain is more compartmentalized than the female brain. Men can seperate things whereas women have a harder time cause their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh.
A Fly onThe Wall Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale inter-connected mish-mosh. I think that sums it up Alpha
alphamale Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Originally posted by A Fly onThe Wall I think that sums it up Alpha
EC Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 The male brain is more compartmentalized than the female brain. Men can seperate things whereas women have a harder time cause their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh.
Author mustangsally Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 ugh, its frustrating. my friend who's boyfriend isn't dating anyone else after they broke up goes "Well, he's not over me because he's not dating anyone else". But my ex dated someone for three months 3 weeks after our break and I know he's STILL not over me from his actions. Its like WTF?! I've tried to date other people since but none of it lasted because even though its six months later it still SUCKS and I'm still in love with him. It was a weird situation...not very black and white. Not the whole "There was a reason you broke up." usual thing.
jen_jen_heartbroken Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 Originally posted by alphamale women.....their brains are all wired together in some inter-connected mish-mosh. I believe they call that evolution.
JAyJAy Posted July 13, 2005 Posted July 13, 2005 They love to hide thier emotions. They begin to say its ok, I'll be alright till they see that we have moved on or even forgot about them. Thats when they hit ground zero and put up the only defense mechanism they have (the other woman)..HA!! Boys will be boys>>> after all we mature faster than they do...
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