strange love Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 Ok most of you know my story, but heres a quick recap. I had an up and down relationship, at the end of a year we broke up. She dropped off some of my stuff but not all of it, I made an attempt to contact her, in which she worte back a nasty email. I left alone not really haveing a way to contact her except via email or maybe msn. The one fateful day she pops up on MSN but she wouldnt message me I had to make the first move. That lead to us talking and she was very angry, until one day she was nice to me, then she ran hot and cold. In any case the contact has kind of dropped off, I did send one really sweet email to her. I didnt get a reply except these late night phone calls. And I had deleted her from MSN, amd then one day this female sent me a wink on a website im on and im sure its her under a fake profile. That same day she imed om MSN. I never responded but i did send a message to the female and no reply. Then nothing, except saturday late at night one late night blocked phone call to my cell. Thats when I had to sit down and register all the facts in my brain.. she keeps contacting me.. it doesnt go anywhere. Thats when i decided to take a different route, I sent her an email monday.. I got a reply back it basically said dont contact me anymore, Ive heard that 100 times for her I know its cause she is angry at me probably for not answering the phone or msn. So as much as people will disagree with me I have a plan ..well sort of and we shall see how it works. One thing im going to try is getting some flowers for her and leaving them with a neutral party and seeing if she picks them up. Im sure she will show up on msn again or phone me.. I just have to bide my time.. sorry folks im tired of NC, its not getting this sorted, I wouldnt reccomend this course of action for every woman but some tend to test you.. To see how much u give a damn. So hopefully another update soon..
pippen_2k Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 You must be a sucker for self punishment! LET THE GAMES BEGIN!!!!!!!! and watch your life turn to crap!
Author strange love Posted July 12, 2005 Author Posted July 12, 2005 Zaira - Yes I do want her back.. that why im trying something different. Its not all about NC..u know. Im curious what made you question me wanting her back.. I guess my actions right? my lack of consistantcy? Pippen - are you willing to put money on that? do you have paypal?
Zaira Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 If you didn't want her back I would have asked why you are worrying about it all. She's playing games with you from what I can see. I don't think the flowers will do any good. I would write her a letter/e-mail and tell her to stop playing games with you. She either wants you back or she leaves you alone.
MWC_LifeBeginsAt40 Posted July 12, 2005 Posted July 12, 2005 To me it should be simple communication until one person asks it to stop (kind of like saying "NO" to sex). If you want a person out of your life tell them not to contact you and then don't contact them. If you want them back, tell them so. Don't play games including the NC game. She has clearly asked you not to contact her and she is not contacting you. To me this says she does not want you in her life. You can't make her come back to you. You can't make her miss you by playing the NC game. Don't contact her or send her flowers. Contacting someone who has asked you not to is borderline stalking as far as I'm concerned. In my own situation, I keep contacting my ex-lover occasionally because I love him want him back. I don't know if he's trying to play a NC game or what but I have asked him to TELL ME if he wants me to stop contacting him, and so far no word. As I said, communication is key....we are not all mind-readers.
Author strange love Posted July 13, 2005 Author Posted July 13, 2005 This might be my last post on here. Why this place has become a CRUTCH I hope one of you has something to say that gets me further along, but yet its all negative. And I realized most of you fail to read between the lines. My ex has told me to get lost 100 of times.. then she comes back around wondering why I havent called or stuff like you havent contacted me lately etc.. duh!! And she has been calling me.. she just blocks the number..... Anyways whatever this is my last post, im on my own from here on in. It looks pretty grim but I think I have been through alot of hopeless situations only to see them turn around by me not giving up. Good luck everyone one here Ciao!!
clynn Posted July 15, 2005 Posted July 15, 2005 All the very best. Your ex definitely displays very confusing behavior. That's for sure! I would offer something useful and insightful if I could. But, darn, without knowing her it just is too too strange. I do have someone in my past who behaves strangely. We have dated off and on and sometimes he phones completely out of the blue and behaves as though he expects me to have phoned him or have been in touch with him. Yet it is he who ultimately determines whether we are or arent' together. I plain old can't figure it and so have just throw my arms up in the air, and chalk it up to "he's weird". Doesn't help me solve the situation but at least it keeps me from going crazy. Its hard though if you deeply care about someone and you are concerned that there be other things out of balance there. She may be deeply mistrustful for reasons that have nothing to do with you, but patterned behavior she has learned. Or something?
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