vanilatwilight Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 a few weeks ago I made a post about a guy I met on a night out, basically I went to a club with my best friend and she met his friend Sam so that's how I managed to meet my guy. She hooked up with Sam but me and my guy done nothing apart from chat and ever since we have been texting quite lengthy messages back and forth daily We met with my guy again on Saturday night when we had a night out and I ended up sleeping over at his place, all we done was chat and hug and kiss a few times, nothing else I'm really into him and think he's into me too but I can't be too sure We arranged to meet up tonight for a first date so he picked me up and I went to his place and we watched a movie, we chatted and cuddled after it and we kissed as well he said he had a really good night and I said I did too so he drove me home and he said he would like to meet up again and I said said that I would like that too and I told him when I was free, and then he kissed me goodbye and I left I don't wanna seem needy so i need some advice I'm wondering if I should send a text to let him know I had a good time or wait for him to send one to me? It's currently 1am and I got home about an hour ago so I dunno if I should send one this late or wait until tomorrow and what would I say without sounding needy??
angel.eyes Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 Yes, I would text him and say you had a good time and would like to see him again. Don't overthink things. Send it either tonight or tomorrow morning. It doesn't matter. By the way, going over to his place to watch a movie is not a great first date! This is his best foot forward? Did he at least cook a meal? What happens when he gets complacent and puts in even less effort? What would that look like if this is his best effort? Try to have early dates that involve activities outside his place. Otherwise, three months from now, you can't really complain that you never go out...all you do is go over to his and watch Netflix. 1
Author vanilatwilight Posted November 3, 2016 Author Posted November 3, 2016 Yes, I would text him and say you had a good time and would like to see him again. Don't overthink things. Send it either tonight or tomorrow morning. It doesn't matter. By the way, going over to his place to watch a movie is not a great first date! This is his best foot forward? Did he at least cook a meal? What happens when he gets complacent and puts in even less effort? What would that look like if this is his best effort? Try to have early dates that involve activities outside his place. Otherwise, three months from now, you can't really complain that you never go out...all you do is go over to his and watch Netflix. Thank you il do it tomorrow because hel probably be asleep , we only went to his place because it was very last minute and none of us had any idea what to do he said next time we'd go out somewhere
angel.eyes Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 No planning and just hanging out at his last minute? That was his best effort? I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but make sure he keeps that promise. Next time let him plan something in advance in a public place. Show a little effort. Otherwise, you'll turn into his last minute booty call girl whenever it's convenient for him, and he has nothing else going on. You're telling him from your choices that you're good with that. Are you? Again, three months from now, you can't suddenly complain about always going to his place last minute when it's a pattern you helped establish. 1
Author vanilatwilight Posted November 3, 2016 Author Posted November 3, 2016 No planning and just hanging out at his last minute? That was his best effort? I'm not trying to rain on your parade, but make sure he keeps that promise. Next time let him plan something in advance in a public place. Show a little effort. Otherwise, you'll turn into his last minute booty call girl whenever it's convenient for him, and he has nothing else going on. You're telling him from your choices that you're good with that. Are you? Again, three months from now, you can't suddenly complain about always going to his place last minute when it's a pattern you helped establish. There isn't much we could have done he works days until 5pm and I work night shift at 7pm so Wednesday after 5 was the only time we were free until the weekend, I think he will keep the promise if he doesn't then I will worry about his effort he does seem like a very genuine nice guy, thanks again for the advice
angel.eyes Posted November 3, 2016 Posted November 3, 2016 You both sound nice and very excited about this starting. But be careful. Let him plan a date.
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