mg101 Posted November 2, 2016 Posted November 2, 2016 (edited) I have a friend I'm considering going into business with. Am i being irrational to have her behavior in a personal situation cause me pause regarding her potential character as a partner? She broke up with her ex 3yrs ago. He moved back to his home state after living off her for 1.5 years. She realized he was using her financially and told him to go home and then come back once hes on his feet. He never came back, cut off ties with her and was soon in another relationship. She's followed that relationship on facebook. The two seem happy enough and are now engaged to be married January. Shes toyed with the idea of contacting the new woman to warn her of how he used my friend financially. Well today she claimed she had a "weird dream" about the woman and was thinking of contacting her. I texted less than an hour later and told her not to do it and to hold off. She just replied and said she's already on the phone with the fiance, warning her. Smh. This is an ex from 3 years ago! I'm disturbed by this hasty action and the whole scenario. I'm now leery of going forward with investing my money into a joint venture with my friend. Am i being ridiculous? Thoughts? Edited November 2, 2016 by mg101
MsJayne Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 You could take it either way, that she's a vindictive busybody who holds a long grudge, or, that she cares enough about other people to warn them of danger. I'd be more inclined to think the former, because why would you be following an ex on Facebook if you told them to get out of your life? Ringing his fiance is bordering on stalking, and that would be a source of worry for me if I was venturing into any sort of commitment, personal or business, with another person.
anika99 Posted November 4, 2016 Posted November 4, 2016 I'd be concerned about that too. It just doesn't sound like a mentally healthy thing to do. The fiancé will obviously get to know the guy just like your friend did, she doesn't need some weird call from a bitter ex to warn her. She doesn't know the first thing about her ex's new relationship. Maybe he pulled his act together, maybe his fiancé likes having a man depend on her, who knows? For sure both the fiancé and the ex are going to think your friend has a lose screw. I don't know how her behaviour will affect a business partnership but I'd be worried. You need someone level headed, well balanced and with good reasoning skills.
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