Ghosting or just busy?

[livinglife2019]

So I met this guy online, we chatted for a while and swapped pics!

He said I was hot and that he's interested in meeting. Originally he wanted to meet for sex but I told him it wasnt really my style and that I was after dates not random hook ups to which he replied that he liked that about me and was happy to meet me for a coffee.

 

After a little more chatting,I suggested why not go for a few drinks instead of coffee. We agreed that we would meet this coming Saturday as we where both free. I offered to swap phone numbers but he said he would rather wait until we met before swapping, which I didn't mind.

 

However, we where chatting via messages on the dating site. I asked him how was work and he never replied. I know he's been online because I can see it on his profile. Now I'm confused! Did he lose interest?

 

Would it be needy or clingy if me if I dropped a what's up? message or should I just wait and see! It's only been a day. It's annoying because I know he's logged into his dating profile but hasn't replied.

 

Should I just forget about meeting this Saturday and take it as he's met someone better?

 

He wanted to meet for sex originally so should I just assume that's all he wants and that he isn't bothered meeting me for a drink.

 

Why would you stop talking to someone who you admitted to that you fancied ?

 

Any help would be very much appreciated.

 

Thanks

Edited November 2, 2016 by livinglife2019

[Redhead14]

So I met this guy online, we chatted for a while and swapped pics!

He said I was hot and that he's interested in meeting. Originally he wanted to meet for sex but I told him it wasnt really my style and that I was after dates not random hook ups to which he replied that he liked that about me and was happy to meet me for a coffee.

 

After a little more chatting,I suggested why not go for a few drinks instead of coffee. We agreed that we would meet this coming Saturday as we where both free. I offered to swap phone numbers but he said he would rather wait until we met before swapping, which I didn't mind.

 

However, we where chatting via messages on the dating site. I asked him how was work and he never replied. I know he's been online because I can see it on his profile. Now I'm confused! Did he lose interest?

 

Would it be needy or clingy if me if I dropped a what's up? message or should I just wait and see! It's only been a day. It's annoying because I know he's logged into his dating profile but hasn't replied.

 

Should I just forget about meeting this Saturday and take it as he's met someone better?

 

He wanted to meet for sex originally so should I just assume that's all he wants and that he isn't bothered meeting me for a drink.

 

Why would you stop talking to someone who you admitted to that you fancied ?

 

Any help would be very much appreciated.

 

Thanks

 

Just leave it to him. You reached out to him, he hasn't responded. Don't chase any man. If he still wants to get together on Saturday, he'll should confirm by the latest Friday. In the meantime, if something else comes along for you to do on Saturday, go ahead and make plans.

 

The guy was pretty clear about only wanting sex, so I'd drop it. Yeah, he said he liked that you were looking for more serious dating opportunities and that may very well be true . . . but it doesn't mean he still doesn't just want sex.

 

Why would you stop talking to someone who you admitted to that you fancied ? -- He though you were attractive but when he found out you wouldn't likely put out . . . he moved on.

[Zahara]

You met on a dating site. He's likely talking to other women. It's unrealistic to have this expectation that he's totally focused on you and it seems you're already rattled by just that little bit of communication that you had with him. It's an indication that you likely won't be able to just have sex with him! Best you date others that are looking for the same thing. When a guy is that straightforward to you about what he wants, listen.

 

He wants sex. And he knows you likely have different needs. So, he's probably not wanting to pursue, or he's finding women that do want to have sex, or he'll touch base later in the week.

 

And don't reach out anymore.

[ThisisIt606]

I understand you probably find him attractive and are excited to meet/annoyed he hasn't applied. That would annoy me too, however this guy already told you he was looking for sex, you declined (good for you) and he probably DID respect the fact that you're looking for other things, but I think he might have lost some interest/decided not to pursue as intently.

 

Could very well be chatting with other women who are more "willing"/ not looking for a relationship. You haven't even met yet, so this really shouldn't be considered that great of a miss. I'm sure you'll find another guy on the dating site whom you fancy that will actually follow-up with you for a nice date.

[travelbug1996]

he only wants sex

[Buddhist]

Does it matter? No seriously. If he never contacts you again does it matter the reason why? If he does contact you again all you've done is make yourself anxious for nothing. He'll either contact you or he won't. Either way the best thing for you to do is not bother too much with this one. People don't forget and badgering them is just annoying.

[Versacehottie]

he only wants sex

 

I tend to agree that this is exactly what is going on. I don't believe a guy who is interested in dating would blow a chance with a girl he has interest in by saying that upfront. So if he said that upfront, he's not worried about offending you and losing his chance with you--i.e. that was his main goal.

[leogirl876]

He's only looking for sex. Just because you told him what he's looking for, doesn't mean he changed his mind, and yes, I do think he is ghosting because he's looking for a NSA thing. Forget him, he's supposed to woo you, not the other way around!