fromheart Posted November 6, 2016 Posted November 6, 2016 (edited) You're saying your strong, but then you say you'd like to do something to your ex's new BF. That's actually a sign of weakness, any woman will see it that way. You're saying you practice martial arts, but you need to practice a bit more on processing and dealing with these dark intentions. Take it out on a punch bag in the training area and leave it there, don't take it home with you. You want to really be strong? Say to her 'Ok, bye bye,' walk away from her with NC. That takes real strength and self control. Edited November 6, 2016 by fromheart
Miss Clavel Posted November 14, 2016 Posted November 14, 2016 Of course I don't have pictures or anything, but staying overnight at her house and her neighbour is a client of mine, his statements kinda round up to cheating yeah. She reached me through another number of hers, her work number, I had yet to block that one. Going NC again most definetly, I was doing alright already. I still catch myself thinking about her, but more often than not, I think about other stuff. I guess I'm finally starting to remove her from the pedestal and might even be letting someone else into my life, don't want to rush it though, I've still got lots of healing to do.. I know some might think I'm a dick, but I forced her to take the cat she took in a couple of years ago. She said that it's gonna be hard to find an appartment that allows cats, so I held on to the cat for a few weeks after she moved out. I just didn't want the cat to be a constant reminder of her, I did not want to take the cat into my appartment in the first place and the cat has totally ruined a lot of furniture, which I'm gonna be replacing in 2017, I might even take a cat of my own to be honest, felt nice to have someone at home after a long day of work. she remembers you. she remembers all the time you two spent together, in the past. a shared past. that's all. i think it's called nostalgia. i detest cats in all their various colors, shapes and sizes, except the smallest ones. which i've hardened my heart against. and i suggest you consider doing the same. they actually poop, in a box, in your house. get a nice medium sized doggie, or two. at a shelter. and the hell with the furniture. i allow mine complete freedom, except for the sofa. when they see me arriving, they jump off the sofa. they know i know they were on my sofa all day. the oldest doesn't jump up off the sofa anymore, she gives me a look that says, "i'm old, what are you gonna do about it"?. she was never my pet. she still is not. even after all these years. she was my stinkin wasbands pet, one he adopted. he left her behind. that says everything you need to know about him. and her. he left his children with me as well. but that's another story. keep up the no contact. let me know that you did not in fact punch anyone. as i knew you would not. and altho it' might not be PC, let me just say, i believe, purely based on what you have written, that you are far too good for her. and very soon you will find someone else. someone better. sue me, it's what i think.
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