How long is too long for someone to contact you?

[Lvkv23]

I had a crush for months and I finally had the guts to give him my number without him asking me. He had been giving me clues that he may find me attractive as well. In fact, I was 99% sure of it. However, with my luck, that 1% proved me wrong, and once I gave him my number, he didn't contact me right away. Instead, it took him over a week to call me after I gave him my number.

 

How long would be too long after you gave someone your number and they finally contacted you?

[Herbalist]

Depends I guess. What do you want when it comes to romance? If you are wanting a more aggressive partner who seems very into you then that is your preference. If you prefer to go slower and gradually build interest over time then it wouldn't be a big deal if things moved slowly at first. Then also you could consider how important it is for you to be pursued, and also whether or not you are comfortable with being friends with someone first (some people feel this is very important, some people don't like it, some people are neutral). Also consider that just giving someone your number once you have already known them for months doesn't necessarily scream that you are sexually or romantically attracted to them.

 

I think with things like online dating since it's just a huge and crazed meat market with so many people, you don't want to waste a bunch of time on someone who communicates infrequently and in a half-hearted fashion. Like you wouldn't want to put all your eggs in that basket for month after month when you could also be talking to other people.

 

So I mean really it is up to you and your preferences. Personally my advice would be that if you are okay with it, then no harm in still talking to them but again don't put all your eggs in one basket and stop considering anyone else.

[Miss Peach]

I prefer the guys who seem into me but I've dated long term them men who 'appeared' busy. I you really liked the guy I would probably talk to him and see if he steps things up.

 

The issue with dating is everyone is going in under different rules. Some men don't want to seem too eager. Some don't want to play those games. Men don't know which sets of rules to use on eac woman and a lot of women preobably walk away while men figure this stuff out. I don't blame the women because these men won't learn otherwise.

 

If you give him the benefit of the doubt I would realize one of three things is happening:

1. He jugging others

2. He's playing games to look for valuable

3. He may not have much time to date