amazonrambo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Skip to the second half if you don't want to read the backstory to my situation. So I (24/m) me this girl (23/f) on OKCupid and we really hit it off. We spoke for a bit before meeting because it was her first time with online dating. We went on two really good dates, texting a lot, etc. I had the third date arranged but she gave me a long text cancelling saying that she wanted to break things off because she believed it should be a "two-way communication" thing and that she shouldn't be doing all the initiating, which she had with her previous relationships (in which her ex after 3 years cheated on her and moved in with a new girl). I kind of made a big deal with it unfortunately (because I thought it seemed a silly reason). Anyway after a few days of confliction, we started talking again but there was this sense of coldness/aloofness from her. She thought I was now trying to hard to make her smile/laugh and that another date wouldn't change things. She then said she was content with being single. I decided to apologise for not respecting her feelings initially and that I'd rather we be friends than lose her at all. She came back with a three paragraph reply saying that she was content with being single, but when she does want to start seeing someone again then we can see each other, that I just needed to be patient. She was also annoyed that I made it look like I had 10 girls on my shoulder and that I was a "typical bloke" because I mentioned taking someone else on the night she cancelled, I said it was just a mate. So we kept in contact, to keep her on my radar, but I began pursuing another girl a week later. I tagged myself on Facebook at a restaurant and then wrote a status that I had a nice evening. The new girl I was taking out was liking all my statuses. But then, that night I get a facebook message from the other girl wondering why I'm acting off with her, THEN a text from her asking me if I want to get a coffee with her. I reply in agreement and we set up a date/time. Her attitude had completely changed with me from aloof/cold to how she used to be, really flirty and jokey. TO THE CURRENT DAY I met up with her outside the coffee place, she seemed a little distant but greeted me. Our conversation was asking each other questions with some awkward silences. Sometimes her eyes were darting around not making eye contact, then she was making eye contact and acting jokey/smiley. She apologised to me for acting like a dick (in which I apologised back for acting the same). She explained to me that she was scared for the future after being cheated on and that on some days she was all for it, then others she felt worried. She told me she spoke to her mum about it (which might explain her attitude swing with me). Anyway she was tired (after a long day working with kids) so outside she asked which way I walked home. I said I can go either way, so I walked with her. We got to her house and she said she was going in the back way. We stopped in front of each other and I guess we were both stuck to what to do, so she hugged me around the neck and kissed me on the cheek. I had my arm around her back and as she pulled away I looked at her, held her and kissed her briefly on the lips, then I pulled away slightly and kissed her again, then as I pulled away slightly she looked like she was in the moment/smiley and I kissed her again. She did not pull away from this, until I said goodbye. We then parted ways. My question is, her attitude changed and she wanted to see me again, would she have lingered around after the hug to let me kiss her on the lips three times if she wasn't interested? I would have thought after one kiss, she might have pulled away saying she has to go, if she wasn't.
Toodaloo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 A kiss is just a kiss. Don't read anything into it. See how she acts later on but do not fall for this one. She seems a bit all over the place. You may well end up being a walking vibrator that pays for supper if you are not careful. That is cynical of me but its rare that people who were not keen suddenly change their minds... Personally if you have contacted her and if she has not responded then you need to back off for your own sanity. For what its worth; BAD TEXTS INCLUDE; LOL Hey What are you like XXX GOOD TEXTS INCLUDE; I saw this great new menu at X restaurant and thought you would like it - lets go on Saturday at 7:30 You are rather distracting - it was great to see you last night I am going to X place on Thursday do you want to come? Oh and note. x's are for loved ones they are not a full stop... so go easy on the xxx's... Make it a habit NOT to use them.
Author amazonrambo Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 A kiss is just a kiss. Don't read anything into it. See how she acts later on but do not fall for this one. She seems a bit all over the place. You may well end up being a walking vibrator that pays for supper if you are not careful. That is cynical of me but its rare that people who were not keen suddenly change their minds... Personally if you have contacted her and if she has not responded then you need to back off for your own sanity. For what its worth; BAD TEXTS INCLUDE; LOL Hey What are you like XXX GOOD TEXTS INCLUDE; I saw this great new menu at X restaurant and thought you would like it - lets go on Saturday at 7:30 You are rather distracting - it was great to see you last night I am going to X place on Thursday do you want to come? Oh and note. x's are for loved ones they are not a full stop... so go easy on the xxx's... Make it a habit NOT to use them. I sent her a text when she's at work, she usually does not respond until 6pm onwards as her phone is in her locker. I am dating another girl so that keeps my mind off this one, although I would prefer if it worked out with this one. She did tell me she spoke to her mum about it, so I'm guessing her mum must have told her to forget her trust issues with her ex and give me a chance. But that's just assuming, her attitude has totally flipped to positive with me. She does show signs of liking me, but as she mentioned, she's "scared of the future" and that probably kept her reserved from pursuing things with me. I'll update you if anything changes. I'm expecting the worse though.
Author amazonrambo Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 Yeah she replied to my text. Conversation went as followed: Me - It was great to see you last night. Hope you're having a decent day at work Her - And you too you need to stop being quiet though Me - Haha I will. Had a long busy day yesterday on not much sleep, I'm like a zombie when I'm tired! Her - You was! I felt like I was doing most of the talking Me - Well you did look great in your dress, lost for words Me (30 mins after) - I'm not too great with cross the table talking.. If you're free this Saturday, don't suppose you finally want that air hockey rematch? I've had no reply and it's been about 2 hours since she replied.
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