SleepToDream Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 (edited) Hi first time posting, will try to keep it short but include all the details here goes. Met a girl who came to uk from Poland we started seeing each other despite we had some cultural differences (I'm Indian) things were great and we wanted to get married, been together 3 years at this point. I lost my job due to recession and started working 3 jobs, I fully admit that I wasn't around enough and this made her feeling like she wasn't in a proper relationship but I was working hard for both of us. She started having problems with me not being around enough she even called me a part time boyfriend (this really hurt and made me feel very guilty, one that I still carry) and the fact that I was Indian which didn't bother her before SUDDENLY became an issue that she wasn't interested in wanting to work through We drifted apart but remained good friends. I stress here that I wanted to remain in her life because she had no family in the UK, her mum was very ill with cancer back in Poland so felt that I had to be her family in the UK and stick by her (we didn't hate each other at this point) She starting having problems with her housemate who was accusing her of sleeping with her BF and Irving her to move out! I never questioned my ex on this and supported her when she said she didn't (the guy was dog ugly) in the end she decided to move out and I helped her move to another city 30mins away. This was not the only time she lost a friend, she lost many of her friends who became sick of her, but I never left her side. She stayed in U.K Another year and I would still come visit her as a friend when I could... we would still kiss and hug, we even made love once. I wanted us to get back together, I wanted to Marry her so I looked at setting up a business in her now new town but she decided to leave for Poland because her mum was very sick. I advised her to go as her mum's wellbeing was more important.... anyway unfortunately her mum didn't make it and passed away, my ex decided to stay in Poland... I was heartbroken, I'd lost my love and my best friend We would still keep in touch via email and FB I still trying to be as good to her as possible.... one day I met her friend for a drink who was going through some personal problems, I offered to chat, she drops the bomb that 2 years before my ex left the UK she was seeing another guy who was in his 50s, married with kids, fat and so ugly that even she was ashamed of him!!! I couldn't breath! All that time she lied to me, even after returning to Poland she never told me the truth she was happy to keep stringing me long. Her friend told me that she intentionally lied to and used me without any care... how could she do that, call me a part time BF when she was a part time mistress to a married man I confronted her via email and all she could say was "get on with your life and leave me alone".... she didn't care that I was the most loyal person in her life She spit on my loyalty to her, it meant nothing! Edited November 1, 2016 by a LoveShack.org Moderator spacing ~6
Toodaloo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Thats because you were ultimately just as disposable as all the other people she used. Because that is what she has done. She has used to you to get what she can out of you. Some people are like that. Right now you need to forget about her. Make a note to yourself that when people treat everyone around them as disposable its because they view others as disposable...
confusedgirlfriend11 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 You sound like a very kind gentleman and sadly this girl has taken advantage of you. I think in your heart, you knew what she was doing but you've been too good a person to do anything about it. Have some self respect and don't get strung along again!! By all means, be good to someone but use your head next time. I'm sorry to save but I've heard lots of bad things about Eastern European girls. I've seen them take full advantage of generous men. They want all the money and good lifestyle but are not willing to help themselves. I'm sure that's not the case for all of them but you should have not been so naive and questioned things more. Block her on Facebook and try to forget all about her!
Author SleepToDream Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 Yes she took full advantage of my kindness I can't believe that people like that really exist, I believe in honour, loyalty and respect but these are traits long dead. Hopefully she will realise one day when someone does the same to her
Toodaloo Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Yes she took full advantage of my kindness I can't believe that people like that really exist, I believe in honour, loyalty and respect but these are traits long dead. Hopefully she will realise one day when someone does the same to her I know this is going to sound terrible but she won't because she will only be in any relationship be it romantic or platonic for what she can get and if she isn't getting anything or what she wants then tough she doesn't care any more. Hold in there because while there are some like her think about it there are some like you too or you wouldn't be here! You will find your match and she will be a much better one than this. The world is made up of all sorts. Stay away from the bad un's. They are never any use and only hurt you. Watch people actions and how they treat people around them...
iiSUNSHiN3 Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 I am so sorry that the person you gave your heart, time, and love to didn't see your worth. There is a woman who will see the value of your kindness, loyalty, honor and friendship. Do not let this negative experience harden your heart towards others. We all know that we reap what we sow so there will be a time where she will have to face her actions. Continue being a kind, generous, and loyal man because the world needs more of that and you will meet the woman who will cherish you. Good luck & Many Blessings!
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