maryquitecontrary Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 (edited) I am seeing someone famous who wants to keep me a secret and so we rarely go out from our two homes. We actually met on Tinder and he was upfront with me about the fact that he wanted a no-strings attached very casual and sexual relationship. He says as long as he gets what he's needing from me that he doesn't feel the need to be with anyone else. I'm happy with this arrangement for now. I needed discretion because I don't want the ex that I am divorcing to know that I'm seeing someone. I didn't want a relationship either, just someone to be there to comfort me physically when I need it. I'm nowhere near ready to be in a serious relationship again. I'm going through a very rough time emotionally with my divorce and child custody battle. I want to grab any little piece of happiness that I can right now. Please don't judge me for seeing a man while I'm fighting for custody. This battle has dragged on for 27 months now and I've had plenty of time to work on myself and enjoy my solitude. My daughter is not involved in any of this since I don't even get to be with her, nor do I plan on EVER introducing her to a man that I am not committed to and deem inappropriate for her to get to know. This crap may drag on for years. I don't know when I will ever get to try to move on with my life again. Edited November 1, 2016 by maryquitecontrary
ASG Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Not quite sure what your question is... but yes, I've been with famous people and discretion tends to be paramount. As long as you're ok with it and know exactly where you stand, I don't see where it could be a problem. 1
Author maryquitecontrary Posted November 1, 2016 Author Posted November 1, 2016 (edited) Not quite sure what your question is... but yes, I've been with famous people and discretion tends to be paramount. As long as you're ok with it and know exactly where you stand, I don't see where it could be a problem. I guess it was more of a vent post. I'm very angry that my ex has made this divorce a living hell and that I feel like I can't even start to begin again. All assets are frozen for now and I'm supposed to portray myself as an asexual hermit. It sucks. Even if I did meet someone fantastic I would have to keep it hidden from as many people as I can until this child custody battle is over. Hell, I would be perfectly happy to just date my daughter for a while IF ONLY HE WOULD LET ME SEE HER. Edited November 1, 2016 by maryquitecontrary
preraph Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 You need to be aware that phone records are often subpoenaed in divorce and child custody cases, so they can see what you're up to. Also, private investigators are often hired if it's a contentious divorce, and most are. So you are SILLY for risking it by carrying on an affair until after the divorce and child custody issues are over and done with. You naively think you can keep this secret. Any attorney worth his salt will find out about it. And you are still married. The celeb sounds like a right dictator, so not sure why you are wanting to keep that going. Seriously, IF MY NEEDS ARE MET?? I've dated celebs and none of them acted like a five-letter word. 5
ChickiePops Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 Yes I have. I work in entertainment and we met at a party. We were both single and it was a spur of the moment thing. He was lovely..all in all, a positive experience..but one I have no desire to repeat. 1
Space Ritual Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 I have to agree with Preraph on this one. If you have been involved in a custody battle for well over 2 years, chances are your soon or not so soon to be ex and his lawyer already know at least enough about what you are doing to make it fair game to be reported to the court. If you were actually working on yourself the last place you would be is on Tinder, so I have to call BS. Social media is probably one of the most subpoenaed items in child custody cases this decade. Tinder isn't exactly a site for professional colleagues to talk shop and solve problems. And easily hacked I might add. Plus if your daughter is not in your custody I highly doubt you are making a good case t get custody if that is what you desire. Simply put, the more you think you are being safe, probably the less safe you are. I would be very careful. Attorneys in divorce cases who get wind of things like this are most assuredly going to go for the throat. Sticking your neck out like this may be your undoing. You need to go forward under the assumption that if you are screwing a celebrity that you and celebrity are not the only ones that know about it.
Miss Peach Posted November 1, 2016 Posted November 1, 2016 You need to be aware that phone records are often subpoenaed in divorce and child custody cases, so they can see what you're up to. Also, private investigators are often hired if it's a contentious divorce, and most are. So you are SILLY for risking it by carrying on an affair until after the divorce and child custody issues are over and done with. You naively think you can keep this secret. Any attorney worth his salt will find out about it. And you are still married. The celeb sounds like a right dictator, so not sure why you are wanting to keep that going. Seriously, IF MY NEEDS ARE MET?? I've dated celebs and none of them acted like a five-letter word. My BTDT advice is I would talk to your lawyer about that one. This one varies so much in different jurisdictions. If the kids aren't around, there is no drop in parenting time, etc. it may have nothing to do with the case. OP - How is your self esteem? Mine was really low following my divorce. Other than the title of having sex with a celebrity, I don't see what this guy is giving you that is worth your while other than maybe some validation you're attractive.
lakerman34 Posted November 2, 2016 Posted November 2, 2016 I once hooked up with someone on The Real World.
dcamnc Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 Yes, kind of. She wasn't a out and out celebrity, but she was quite popular in her mid sized city. Kind of like a Kardashian or a Paris Hilton or something in her town. It was funny; everywhere we went she knew and was approached by people, she was super popular in her area.
salparadise Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 He says as long as he gets what he's needing from me that he doesn't feel the need to be with anyone else.I'm happy with this arrangement for now. I needed discretion because... If he has a huge yellow combover, pumpkin colored skin, and says his daughter took his smartphone away... brace yourself, you may be about to hit a rough patch. Are you getting anything you need from Mr. Celebrity? Tell him you'd like something in a Tudor and see how fast he changes the subject.
Raena Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 No I haven't dated anyone famous... and I wouldn't be ok with a secret relationship either. Why aren't you allowed to see your child?
PrettyEmily77 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 No, but a friend went out with a famous actress (famous in her native country). Turns out famous people are pretty much the same as other people, only famous... That you are seeing someone in secret (celebrity or not) seems to be adding an extra layer of complications to an already complicated situation - don't know about the legal side of things but the long term effects on your state of mind and potential consequences on your custody battle seem to outweigh any of the benefits you may be getting from this superficial ego boost.
jen1447 Posted November 7, 2016 Posted November 7, 2016 I've always wanted to get w a celebrity, or even just a 'celebrity' (much more likely), just for the experience. I've got a few I've got my eye on I think I could get too ....if I had the opportunity/exposure, which is of course the main limiter.
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